They're not "being cheap", they're just not trying to impress you with wealth. Like you yourself said, it's a less formal and easier-to-break-off-if-it's-going-nowhere method- why would you not extend them the same courtesy? Presumably, if you DID hit it off, they'd (ideally both of you'd) expand into bigger and more effortful and expensive stuff.
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You have been out for a while.
Yes it's normal to meet up quickly; what's the point in text back and forth for days or weeks?
Yes a coffee or "big Mac" is normal for a first meet up. It has nothing to do with being a cheapskate. What happens if you meet up for a fancy meal and decide it's not a good match? Now you've spend a lot of money... for nothing.
It's normal to meet up for the first and even second time and pay your own way. once you agree there's something there, then the fancy meal will happen
you say coffee date is super low effort, but it's actually ideal. you're trying to ease back into it, if it goes nowhere you can easily cut off, coffee is a cheap date to test the waters. so honestly it's your best option from what i read of your goals for this.
Coffee is the go to for me. No stress on either party to pay more for a date that doesn't work out too
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