so this was back in high school…. I was a young gothic girl. This man would talk to me here and there and usually when our friends were around. I thought he was gay. So did they.
Then one day we were sitting alone chatting and he asked me out. Believe you me, it came outta nowhere! I thought he batted for the other team. I said yes. I don't know why.
We went on this date and he didn’t have much to say to me. Perhaps he was nervous.
days later I got wind at school that we had made out. Pure lies.
he also never really talked to me much since the date.
maybe weeks or months passed by and he asked me out again. This time I didn’t have trouble curving him.
looking back, I think he just asked me out because he was attracted to skinny tall girls, gothic girls, and/or maybe he just was gay and trying to cover it up.
but he was the only man to ever talk to me for more than, say, two conversations, and ask me on a date.
the several other times in my whole life that I’ve been asked in dates were by men who apparently were just throwing their hook out to any old girl to get lucky. Automatic rejection.
I may add, I’ve never been close to guys. Never had a guy friend. I was never a tomboy. Always liked girly things. So by that logic, only tomboys should be getting seriously asked out.
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I think it's a combination between what you said (you never had a guy friend) and maybe your approach which may be close and not welcoming, expecting that things just "happen". But they don't, you have to do something to make them happen.
Other than that, liking girly things doesn't force you to have only female friends because if you join a group of friends and occasionally get to some parties you would for sure talk with some guys at some point, which you will meet again with the same group and bit by bit you get closer to them, by mutual friends. You can even find this circumstance by joining a themed community (writing, gaming, photography and whatnot) that sometimes organizes meetings. Same goes for jobplaces where the air is friendly and down to earth, and courses. If you are already exposed to guys in this way but nobody ever asked you out, probably they didn't feel welcomed in doing so. Maybe you are too shy/introverted, maybe you act awkward or judgmental, maybe you express negativity. Whatever the reason, there must be something that didn't encourage them to try. And they aren't all jerks that come bothering a 30 years old woman who is minding her business, with random requests of going on a date without any input from her side...
Lastly, you can always do what a lot of women do: join a dating app, you are supposed to go on a date from that. You don't want hookups so don't join Tinder for example but apps that are more oriented to find compatibility, for example OKCupid requires a questionnaire at registration, to match you with other users. But there are others for sure...
Id ask him, lol.