My boyfriend got upset over me not being able to afford to have the money for him to go to a concert. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

As you can read by the title my boyfriend got upset because I couldn’t get money for him to go to a concert. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. Basically this whole situation started off by him telling me that his favorite artist was coming to town and he wanted me to buy him the ticket. A hour or two passed and I told him that I’m sorry but I can’t afford the $1,000 for him to go to the concert. His attitude changed, and he told me “ I’ll talk to you soon “ so I told him okay bye. A few minutes later he sends a message saying that I don’t give a fuck about his feelings and that when I’m sad he is there for me , but that now he found out I don’t give a shit. Then he tells me I shouldn’t make the problem bigger than it already is and that we should talk another day.

Any advice is welcome

[SteveSmith1985]

Are you being serious right now? This is so over-the-top it's hard to believe you're not trolling. But I was saying just today, that I've learned the hard-way that most of the time these are genuine sincere questions people are posting. So I'm going to treat you as though you're sincere in this. And... if you're trolling... I guess..."you got me," and I hope you're super-satisfied with yourself.

Ok, so...

This is ridiculous.

Why in the world would your boyfriend expect you to buy him a $1000 ticket? What fucking planet is he from? That's... so clearly and blatantly wrong, unhealthy and straight-up abusive. It's such a gross example of an unreasonable thing for any boyfriend to ask (nevermind expect) of his girlfriend. It's... really just so absurd on-its-face. That's clearly wrong and messed up.

I really hope you are trolling to be honest. Because if you're a real young woman, in an actual relationship... and are legitimately in this situation... and are asking this sincerely...

You are in an abusive relationship.

Your boyfriend is fucking insane (how would he possibly think it's ok to make this demand of you and be mad when you can't aford the ticket? That's insane)

Your boyfriend is emotionally abusing you in a way that's... so in-your-face that it's hard to believe you aren't able to see this is wrong. But in case you truly can't... this is wrong. This is so wrong.

You need to get out of this relationship, because your boyfriend is an abusive piece of shit who evidently thinks your money is his money. This is so fucked. I really hope it's fake. If not... please leave this guy. He's already fucked with your thinking. Look how ridiculous this question is. Would you have been able to see that before meeting this guy? I bet you would have.

He is treating you like shit, in such an obvious and inexcusable way... it's really disturbing that you don't seem to see how wrong this is.

[Asker]

It’s not fake, I’m sadly going through this in this moment, it honestly hurts tbh. But thank you for your advice, I’m genuinely thinking of leaving him.

[SteveSmith1985]

Goddam I'm sorry. I don't know why I keep doing this. I was saying just today to somebody that it was a bad idea to not take someone's question as sincere.

I would like to apologize. It's heartbreaking if this is sincere. And I'm sorry.

You really really do need to leave him. This is not a good guy. No good guy could ever act like this. He's almost like a cartoon-super-villan-boyfriend. It's over-the top. That's the only reason I doubted your sincerety. Because I had trouble believing someone could be treated so horribly and so unfairly without seeing how unacceptable it was for anybody to ever be treated that way. I'm so sorry I doubted you were genuine here.

I know it's maybe not the most appealing offer (after I was a dick to you and whatnot) but, if you need to talk... I'd be happy to talk to you. This is an abusive situation, and if there's anything I can do to help you to get out of it, I would like to help do that. Because you do need to leave this guy. Nobody should be treated this way.

[Asker]

Thank you

[SteveSmith1985]

No problem. I hope you leave him. 🙂

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Here's my advice... tell that mooching prick to fuck off, then get a new boyfriend.

Who asks for $1,000 from their girlfriend to go to a fucking concert?
No wonder women get so attached to me if this is the shit I'm competing with lol

[Asker]

He cried about it too

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Oh my good lord 🤦‍♂️

[Asker]

& he also told me how I don’t care about him being sad … his making it seem like I’m the bad guy in this whole situation.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Tell him he's right, you don't care. Because he's a chump and he can go mooch on some other girl who will buy off on his bullshit

[Asker]

I told him straight up if he thinks I don’t care he can leave the door is open and he can leave when he pleases , but he got upset with that

[WanderingLoveWizard]

He's a whiny baby. I hope you dump that fool.
Especially because you seem like a sweet girl. Most girls would've laughed in his face

[Asker]

Dumping him seems like the right choice I honestly don’t deserve his bs , and thank you sm (:

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Of course 😉
You don't deserve that shit

[SueShe]

What kind of a boyfriend is that that expects others to pay for his OWN entertainment. Also, what kind of a concert is that that costs $1000 per person?

Obviously, he did try to misuse you to finance his expensive taste. If he was so into going to see those artists", then he should settle the tab by himself and not expect sponsors to pay for him.

I mean, even a concert with known and famous artists such as The Chicago Symphonic Orchestra do not charge that kind of money, even for the best seats.

I think it is time for you to seriously reconsider your relationship. If he is so immature and selfish, then you are in for trouble in the future.

[Guy13]

Not worry about it or him

[jshm2]

Why are you still with this clown again?

Unless you're telling me has a dick as big as a child's arm, or a billionaire uncle close to death, you should be laughing and ditching such losers when they show red flags..

[Iron_Man]

Why can’t he buy a ticket?

[Anonymous]

Tell him to buy his own damn ticket.