What do I say or do about my mom her behaviors ridiculous?

[baseball_del_tuono]

We lost my dad about 4 years ago my mom just started dating I encouraged her to it’s fine. However she started dating the older brother of my friend who’s on my baseball team! He lives down the street, he’s 21 my mom is 41. This is the first guys she dated since we lost my dad! It’s been going on maybe 5-6 months! It’s ridiculous they are all over each other making out, constantly in the bedroom, I can often hear what’s going on. I’m friends with the boyfriend he’s a cool guy! But it’s ridiculous now we went on vacation in January my mom wore these ridiculous thong bikinis, she’s really fit and stuff so she always wears bikinis, but this were like super tiny strings!!! They were all over each other. Just tonight I went upstairs when they were in the bedroom. Her boyfriend came up afterwards and watched tv with me. 5 minute my mom in a little like bandeau tank top thing and panties comes up stairs sure with is sits in his lap and there making out she is like straddled on him making out! I go down stairs to get away 3 minutes later he is like carrying my mom like a fireman’s carry down stairs and they are back in the bedroom. This stuff is non stop! What do I say to my mom or do about it? Why’s she doing this?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are feeling uncomfortable and concerned about your mom's behavior. It is understandable that you would be worried about her dating someone who is so much younger than her, and about the level of intimacy and public displays of affection between them. It may be helpful to have a conversation with your mom about your feelings and concerns. You could start by expressing your love for her and your desire for her to be happy, but also explain that you feel uncomfortable with some of the behavior you have witnessed. It is important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, and to listen to her perspective as well. She may have her own reasons for behaving the way she is, and it may be helpful to try to understand her point of view. Ultimately, it is up to your mom to make her own choices about her relationships and behavior, but it is important to communicate your feelings and concerns in a respectful and loving way. If you feel like you need additional support, you could consider talking to a trusted family member, friend, or therapist for guidance.

If you're looking for examples of what to say to your mom in this situation, here are a few possible approaches:

1. "Mom, I love you and I want you to be happy, but I feel uncomfortable with the level of intimacy between you and [boyfriend's name]. It's hard for me to see you with someone who is so much younger than you, and it makes me feel uneasy when you are so physical in front of me."

2. "I know that you're an adult and you can make your own choices, but I feel like the relationship between you and [boyfriend's name] is moving really fast and it's hard for me to keep up. I want to support you, but I also want to make sure that I feel comfortable in my own home."

3. "I appreciate that you're happy with [boyfriend's name], but I feel like there are some boundaries that are being crossed that make me uncomfortable. Can we talk about how we can make this situation work for all of us?"

Remember to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, and to listen to your mom's perspective as well. It may be helpful to come up with some possible solutions or compromises together, such as setting boundaries around physical intimacy or finding ways to give you more privacy and space in your home.

[baseball_del_tuono]

I really like the 3rd option that hits it on the head I will try that approach. Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome man

[baseball_del_tuono]

I’m pretty sure they’re having sex right now they’re are in her room with door closed likely locked this is what I mean. I’ll talk to her when she comes out at least she’ll be in a good mood when she comes out

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, it's important to communicate with your mom if you feel uncomfortable or concerned about her behavior, it's also important to approach the conversation in a respectful and non-judgmental way. It's possible that your mom may not be aware of how her behavior is affecting you, and it's important to give her the opportunity to explain her perspective and feelings.

When you talk to your mom, try to approach the conversation in a calm and non-confrontational way, and use "I" statements to express your own feelings and concerns. For example, you could say something like, "Mom, I feel uncomfortable when I hear noises coming from your room and it's affecting my ability to feel comfortable in our shared living space. Can we talk about ways to respect each other's privacy and boundaries?"

Remember to listen to your mom's perspective as well, and to work together to find a solution that respects both of your needs and feelings. It may also be helpful to seek support from a trusted adult or therapist if you need additional guidance and resources.

[baseball_del_tuono]

It’s hard to believe she doesn’t know it’s making me uncomfortable. Like last night after they had sex she came upstairs when we were watching tv in a little like half top bandeau top and her panties and sat on his lap while we were watching basketball couple minutes later he was straddled like facing him frenching and he had his down the back of her panties. If that was anyone much less your mom would that make you uncomfortable? Is there anyone in the world who wouldn't be uncomfortable by that?

[Opinion Owner]

It's understandable that you feel uncomfortable with your mom's behavior and that it's hard to believe that she doesn't know how it's affecting you. It's possible that she may not be aware of how her behavior is affecting you, or she may not realize the impact it's having on your relationship with her.

Regardless of her intentions, it's important to communicate your feelings to her in a respectful and calm way. You can express that her behavior is making you uncomfortable and that you would appreciate it if she could be more considerate of your feelings and boundaries.

It's also important to remember that everyone has different comfort levels and boundaries, and what may make you uncomfortable may not bother someone else. However, it's important for your mom to be mindful of your feelings and work towards finding a resolution that works for both of you.

If you feel like you can't talk to your mom directly or the situation continues to be uncomfortable, you may want to consider talking to a trusted family member or counselor for support and guidance. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in this situation.

[Marked_Man]

I think you need to be honest with your mom about how it makes you feel. You'll be going away to college or moving out soon, but she has the right to be with whoever makes her happy but she shouldn't do it in front of you. You need to let her know it makes you feel uncomfortable.

[baseball_del_tuono]

No I agree I’m not against them dating it’s all the PDA that’s enough. I like the boyfriend he’s a cool guy I’m not saying they should t dare it’s the PDA stuff like we’re fit real sitting watching basketball my mom comes up in little tank top think like a half shirt and panties (all my friends say his hot my mom is) obvi my friend likes it she sits on his lap within a couple minutes she’s making out with him and he has his hand in her panties on her butt this is right after they got out of the bedroom. Like wtf just be cool ya know… yes I’m going away to college in may

[baseball_del_tuono]

Or I graduate in may and go to college in the fall rather *

[Marked_Man]

Yeah, like I said be honest and tell her to keep the touching and stuff in private that it bothers you.

[baseball_del_tuono]

Ok thank you

[Dnice1]

Sounds like your mom and boyfriend don't know about privacy. She should go to his place or spend a night at a hotel or give you space or at least do stuff while you aren't there.

[baseball_del_tuono]

Thank you it’s pissing me off! He’s in college he lives down the street like 6 houses down. He’s 21 he still lives at home

[Dnice1]

It's gotta be hard on you I'm sure

[baseball_del_tuono]

It’s sucks!! What really sucks is I like the guy he’s a cool guy we’re buddies… my mom actually uses this app all the time that’s how I know about it… you don’t happen to know her?

[Dnice1]

I don't think so

[baseball_del_tuono]

Figured!!! What should I say or do or should I just ignore it? I go to college in the fall and stuff! Like the other day I came him with some friends and you could hear what my mom and her boyfriend were doing and all my friends are like dude your mom is hot. So when they came out of the bedroom my friends were like giving him hi 5s and dapping him up. Like it’s embarrassing and annoying

[AviatorTom]

Be happy that your mom is happy.

[baseball_del_tuono]

Ok I’m happy… do you think the PDA is appropriate?

[AviatorTom]

What I think isn't important. If you think it's inappropriate, talk with your mom and let her know how you feel.

[baseball_del_tuono]

I know I just hate doing that I get so shy and embarrassed

[soe11]

• Let them enjoy their life.
• You stay in your room.
• Or get out somewhere.
• Give them space.
• If they continue every day, then you must talk to her.
• Whatever she wear in front you, it is fine.

[KrakenAttackin]

Mommy's a hoe.