He loved me more than any other girl in this world but when his family opposed our love, he left me when I needed him the most. I moved on now but I'm still single, yet he's still expecting me to go back to him where he's refusing to take the initiative and refusing to stand up for me but is saying that I need to take the initiative if I need to be with him. How can I take initiative when he actually left me when I needed him the most? How can he even expect me to go back to him after he disrespects me? Is it right to end it with him? Or should I need to continue with him as he's not with any other girl still and he didn't move on?
He's loyal to me but more loyal to his family. What should I do?
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Relationships are supposed to be mutual. It can’t be one sided or it simply won’t work long term.
Based on your question, it sounds like he wasn’t meeting you in the middle. And it sounds like he still isn’t. As you mentioned, he broke up with you. Yet he wants you to put in more effort? That doesn’t quite add up to me. Is there something specific that he wants you to do differently?
I don’t have enough context to truly answer this. But it sounds like nothing has really changed very much since the breakup. So I don’t see why it’d be any different this time. Getting back together after a breakup is risky. And in order for it to have any chance of working out, things have to noticeably change substantially. Otherwise you’re right where you were before the breakup.
So what should you do? Just based on the information you gave, I’d keep living your own life. I wouldn’t get back together with him. Nothing has changed it sounds like.
What's the context for when and why he left sorry
He left since his family wanted him to leave me. Later on, he got jealous when he saw me with another guy and asked me to fight for him with him, with his parents, etc if I wanna be with him. He isn't taking the initiative to fight for me either. He pushed everything on me to keep efforts for him or gave me an option to lose him
So move on as if he ain't making a effort why do u think he will just change
He's asking me to put efforts if I want him. He left it to my choice and he is prioritising his ego more than me
OK so again if this is what he is doing why wpuld u want him
Stop comparing
What do you suggest me to do in this situation?
Stop worrying about his family