I need to put myself out there more and do something besides online dating. I don't usually go to a bar alone, but in my experience they don't usually charge for non alcoholic beverages. I think it's due to that designated driver thing. Anyways, is it a problem after a while if I start going pretty often. If they don't charge me I'm just going to tip the bartender like 10 bucks to still make it worth their while for their efforts. Opinions?
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it obviously depends , some servers will be ok with this , the manager might get annoyed if your not spending money and taking up a prime seat but depends how busy the place is and if staff likes you or not.
i'm not sure how many dating options you'll meet though seems more like a way to meet female staff who might not be single and used to guys like this so not really looking to meet dating options at work17
I actually met my current boyfriend at the bar, so that’s not the worst idea lol, but I don't know if I’d recommend it. Usually if you meet a woman she’s out with her friends (as I was, but he was with his as well), so there’s no space to actually chat with her without pulling her away from her group and also she’d have been drinking, so it’s not a sober conversation. I’d suggest something else, like asking a friend if she or he can set you up with a single friend. Another option is picking up some sort of hobby, then if you meet a woman there, you already have something in common. There’s also speed dating, I have two friends who have done this and were successful.22
I used to hang out with two friends at a bar multiple times at month and we would pay $3.25 for coke and then spend around an hour drinking our cokes and talking to each other. They charge for coke at the restaurants I visited. Another time I would hang around a restaurant and order only an extra large coffee and spend around an hour chatting with my female friend in the restaurant while enjoying my extra large coffee.0
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The bar is a horrible place to meet women unless all you want is a ONS. It's probably better than not being around people at all, but there are a lot better options.
You might be drinking cokes, but she probably won't be. A woman drinking is an automatic yellow flag. A woman drinking a lot is a red flag.0
Don’t go to a bar just to sit there. You can : play poker, play billiards, sing karaoke, play trivia, listen to an open mic, have dinner.. there are lots of activities to do at a bar and just sitting at the bar alone isn’t the best flex.5
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The bar isn't always ideal - it's more of a one night stand kind of thing, I think.
I used to go to bars/pubs quite a bit - and I usually don't drink.
I do my best to not be obnoxious or be a bad customer.
I usually order food
I'm usually in a group, and usually the guys behave decently (though that hasn't always happened), and I tip well, and usually my friends do. If someone from the group is an ass, I try to apologize for their behavior, both with a good tip, and if I can talk to them after. "Hey, we're not ALL like that. I don't know what HIS issue was. We'll talk to him." Usually, even if one of the guys gets drunk or acts like a pig, there are several of us who would call him on it. The few times we had a dine and dasher in our group, we'd all chip in for the loss. Stuff like that.
If I'm at the bar, I try not to take too much time.
Once they know me, like if I'm a regular, then it becomes a little easier.
But as for meeting women, I never really go to bars to meet women. I mean, if someone cute happens to be there, that's a bonus, but usually, I tend to be a bit shy (I don't want to bother them, so I usually won't pursue). If I'm alone, maybe at most, I'll just try to do small talk, but that's not very often. Other than that, I don't know what advice to give ya, past becoming a regular, and being friendly with the bartenders/staff.