I am a gamer girl and he knows but is it weird to be in a lot of discord servers when I have a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

A total of 91 votes were cast: 35 girls and 56 guys. See detailed results

[msmissydc]

Depends with whom. Yes of courselmostly guys because gaming but even than it depends what they are up to. I sometimes do the same but mostly with friends and that shoudlnt be an issue. I had situations where I was with randoms, some where cool others not so. I probably could have played the stereotype e-girl trope with them and it would have been fine, For them, but that was far from my goal and sadly the only thing they expected from me.
What I am trying to say deoends with whom you are there and what your goal is. Anything normal should be more than fine.

[Anonymous]

It's not weird at all it fits with a key interest of yours being gaming. It's a great way to have fun and socialise. I think it's great actually. It would never be weird to be part of them.

The only thing is if you flirted with people on the servers that would be inappropriate as your in a relationship. But that's all you could really manage to achieve. I guess it would be weird and inappropriate if you joined something like a dating server if those exist.


But no your doing anything weird keep enjoying your hobby.

I am aware you didn't mention anything about doing those sorts of things it's a hypothetical point to just show what would be weird or maybe just inappropriate is all.

I hope my wording and thats been okay I'm sorry if I said something in a way to cause offence.

[Asker]

Thank you so much, dw no offense taken

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome, I am glad about that. I don't think I've managed it but well I've never been good at putting thoughts into words so I just try to minimise that.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, it's weird that they call them "servers" when they're nothing of the kind, and that word is already taken, within the video gaming world- but that has nothing to do with you.

You're just interacting with them; if you're not flirting or otherwise seeking romantic attention, it's fine. Bear in mind that you're going to GET romantic attention, because you're a woman playing video games, but so long as you don't do anything you wouldn't do in person, you should be fine.

In the comm channels, I mean; I'm assuming you wouldn't shoot people in person, and that's a core part of most video games. But talking is just talking, and Discord saves chat logs, so you can show your boyfriend if he gets upset.

[Anonymous]

Only if you are there just to flirt and cheat on your boyfriend if that's not the case then no enjoy yourself just because you have a boyfriend that shouldn't get in the way of what you love to do.. don't change yourself for nobody because they sure won't change themselves for you

[sawno]

Discord servers typically aren't dating servers, I wouldn't mind it even if those are spaces with like 90% guys as long as its clear to the people there that you aren't available. As long as he can trust you that you will tell them you have a boyfriend if they make advances its no worse than being in any other public space with some friends.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's not weird because you game. I am in a lot as well though more of a lurker, you know. And as a gamer, you will interact with a lot men online. It just comes with the hobby and if he doesn't like that, he should not be dating gamers.

[bobalife]

As long as you’re not flirting since you’re taken, then it’s not really a problem. But if you’re flirty while taken, it could cause relationship problems and crossing boundaries.

[Simslover92]

No it's not weird. The only way it would be weird is if you were flirting with guys on discord. As long as you keep it about gaming it's not weird.

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm on gaming and tech servers related to my work... about 30 or something servers I'm more or less active on... why it should be weird?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

As long as you aren't cheating on him, it's fine.

[DrPepper12]

Gamer girls are 🔥 plus you did it before him, you enjoy it and he can't be a snowflake over it. Don't change a thing. If he wants you to tell him to fuck off.

[RedInnocent69]

Is it weird for him to watch a lot of porn when he has a girlfriend?

[Asker]

No, I don't find it weird. But that's just my opinion. Every girl has different or same opinion as me.

[RedInnocent69]

If it works for both of you that’s great!

[CrabCakes11]

Unless you’re using them to cheat, why would there be a problem?

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird that you're a gamer to begin with, video games are for guys. But their are games that girls like you can play. Hopscotch and truth or dare or dress up.

[Asker]

I am not a little girl lol

[Opinion Owner]

Well those are games that girls should be playing, not online shooters and MMOs. Those are for the men and you women get hopscotch and truth or dare, deal with it.

[Asker]

Why though? Why do you think that way? Why can't girls play shooting games?

[Opinion Owner]

Because it was always a manly activity, back during the xbox 360 days there were only guys playing call of duty and that was a good thing, and now girls are doing what guys are doing now, and that's what's wrong with society today. Women wouldn't like it if men started putting make up and wearing dresses and talking on the phone for hours, it's just facts.

[Asker]

Hmm I think you are being a little sexist. Men can wear makeup. Women can join the army. Women can shoot guns in real life too. Women can also lift. Nothing wrong with that. It's 2024.

[Opinion Owner]

Men can wear makeup if they were gay, and women can do those things but I'm saying they shouldn't because those things were made for men, and it's not sexist it's just the truth.

[Asker]

But it's like you're saying "this is for men only so women shouldn't do it" that sounds pretty sexist to me. And yeah well it's true that video games are male dominated (just like working in the engineering field-- a lot of guys in that field) but there's nothing wrong with females playing them too. It doesn't make them less of a woman. They're fun and intense so we're going to continue playing them. I like action movies too, is that for guys too? Should I be watching barbie and Dora?

[Opinion Owner]

But it is for men though, I don't know what else to say, and there's everything wrong with women playing video games, and yes action movies are for guys too, and women like you should watch barbie.

[Asker]

Tell me please why it's wrong for a woman to play video games and watch action movies? Because she's a woman? Are action movies "made" for guys too? In what book is that written?

[Opinion Owner]

I just explained why it's wrong, because she's a woman.

[Asker]

I thought you were joking around but it seems like you are serious. You are most definitely a sexist. Video games can be enjoyed by anyone regardless of gender. Women don't just cook and clean anymore, we can do anything we want, just like men can. I thought this was so in the past. Anyways, thanks for answering my question.

[Ironic_Method]

No. My wife is in a bunch of servers and I don't care at all. We game together and separately, it's great.

[jahaims]

Why would that be weird? It's only weird if you are cheating while using those servers. You are allowed to have friends lol

[FakeNIK]

It's her choice, you can have as many boy-friends you want

[Luckycharms12]

If you are flirting with men on it yes. Otherwise nope

[Awesomesauce2005]

What is discord? Can someone please enlighten me?

[SallyTho87]

@Awesomesauce2005
Discord is a computer app that offers a chat feature, you can type / instant message other users on discord, you can create specific groups and add specific people to have a whole group chat, as well as talk one - on -one to anyone who you have on discord.
It's great for playing games, as instead of in game chat, you communicate through Discord in a group chat, it saves the lag too.

[Awesomesauce2005]

@SallyTho87 oh ok

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

You want it Byways be brave enough to show your true colors, maybe your jn his reaŕveiw now

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, it's not weird, it's all good.

[justabuddy]

Most people in the servers are married. Just behave yourself and you will be fine.

[Alex-Snow]

Not at all... just have fun. What dies ur boyfriend say about things?

[dustybiker2]

It's a game not porn.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I was thinking that too.

[dustybiker2]

@TommyMountainFigure I can see it being a problem if obsessive though, That aims more to addiction though in my opinion

[TommyMountainFigure]

@dustybiker2 There is that, but I read the question as purely from a 'jealousy' standpoint!

[dustybiker2]

Yes, but that spurs jealousy. Large sums of time spent in the company of others.

[Lynx122]

I don't think so.

[ManInChains]

Its a red flag

[Asker]

Please tell me why it is a red flag? So curious

[ManInChains]

There will always be a guy who even likes the sound of a girls voice and flirt and give an overabundance of compliments and to me that is a red flag because shell just expect more from her partner and he won't deliver because he does everything else for her she doesn't care about

[Wise4myage]

Only if your cheating on your boyfriend.

[LadyKitty]

Nope not weird at all!

[MemeSupreme]

no why would it be weird

[DreamLife7]

You sound stupid I'm sorry