I saw the girl I went out with at night dancing with guy and the guy is holding her in the waist. Is there anything worse than that?

[badg96]

I'm going out with a girl yesterday and we were in a bar dancing. There was also another guy there that we are dancing the 3. I went to the bathroom and when I came back I saw her dancing with him holding each other. I got upset, and I was almost 2 meters away from them, but she saw me and pulled me to her side and after that she started paying a lot of attention to me maybe she took pity on me. But the rest of the night was not the same. I feel really bad today.

[OlderAndWiser]

So you were "sharing" a girl and you got jealous. What did to think would happen when you left: the music would stop and everyone would wait for you to return?

The reality is that you startng getting possessive almost instantly and that is not a good thing!

[Anonymous]

Hm what kind of dancing, like grinding each other or just holding each other shoulder and waist? She was just having fun dancing while you were gone or she was just being a single person who’s being open to anyone.


Tbh she is interested cuz she gave you more attention when you came back and she texted you that you had fun. It’s up to you if you wanna give it a chance or just walk away. If you wanna give it another chance, then try to just have a mature talk about her dancing with the other guy and how you like her. If you wanna move on, then time to just let her go and try not to think about it anymore.


If you have not gone on a proper date, then time to do that and no more club scene where you have to compete with another guy.

[Sunkizzd]

yeah, sounds like you two mutually went out to a club and not really "on a date" as you may have assumed. She doesn't owe you anything. Sometimes women are going to like other men. It can suck, but maybe ask a girl out that matches your interest or intentions and go our for a drink or coffee together.

[badg96]

First we went to a quiet bar at the beginning of the date, but then I asked her if she wanted to go somewhere more lively, I shouldn't have done that.
she sent me this message 10 minutes after date but i'm sorry i replied. don't you think it was better that I didn't answer?

https://imgur.com/a/RxwIEY9

[Sunkizzd]

sometimes a great night now is just that, a great night out. you seem really insecure of yourself and I think she's more into men with more confidence. move on, find a gal you can connect with on the level of what you're looking for.

[badg96]

maybe she sent that message because she felt sorry for me. I don't want to hear from her anymore, nor to have anything serious with her, because she's only going to be in my country for 1 week of vacation

[Sunkizzd]

maybe she sent the message cause she simply had a good time. and she shouldn't feel sorry for you cause you are coming off more now as a whiney man-boy who just didn't get laid.

[Sunkizzd]

she probably went to hook up with that other guy

[badg96]

No She take Uber Alone

[Sunkizzd]

yes, to probably meet up and hook up with that other guy, lol

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@badg96 I hate when girls check in to let us know they made it home safe, as if we give a fuck

[connemara_crocodile]

@subkizzd if the roles were inverted and it was a guy that was dancing with another girl while his date went to the bathroom and then got all innocent when her date came back, you'd be calling him a prick and an ashole.

Perspective please...

[Sunkizzd]

@connemara_crocodile yes, if the guy didn't see it as a date and just a fun night out, and the girl did, then of course she'd be upset too and he'd owe her nothing (my perspective had nothing to do with gender)

[Sunkizzd]

but thank you for your misogynistic assumptions, sheesh lol

[connemara_crocodile]

Lik you're trying to find misogeny where there's not just to make a point. If anything I'n being an equalitarian, so shh, save your names for when they apply 😉

[Sunkizzd]

@connemara_crocodile well i wasn't until you piped up searching for misandrist hints in my opinion, but okay... I declare, that I, a woman, have left a slanted opinion online, and deeply apologize for hating all men with their evil penises of death... do you forgive me, oh kinda gentleman of the internet?

[Sunkizzd]

@connemara_crocodile my response to his situation had more to do about autonomy. his feelings of rejection are valid cause he thought it was a date, and she obviously didn't see it that way. but at the same time she doesn't owe him anything. he could've walked away as well. I would have if i thought it was a date and my date danced with someone else. i'm not sure what you're wanting from me cause it seems like no matter how i respond, you're just find fault in it and be mad about something in your life that i have nothing to do with. i hope that gets better for you.

[WolfDM]

@sunkizzd Yeah your triggered.

[misogynistic_pig]

I promote the independence and self-determination of men regardless of romantic or partner relationships.

Seeing the girl they went out dancing with another guy wouldn't matter much.

Relationships with women can be very complicated, and the solution is for men to focus on their own personal development and not be emotionally dependent on women.

Therefore, seeing the girl with another man would not be something worse or better, it would simply be one more situation in which they would not have any emotional involvement.

Every man has the right to decide his own path, whether to have a partner or not, and that he should not be judged by his choice.

[Cupido29]

If she's staying in your country for just one week, I don't even see why you're so sorry. I'm usually one to say don't let the relationship go and just stick with it, but in your case, she's just a hookup culture girl. Ignore her. The more people ignore her, the more she will understand that this is not the way to behave. You were wrong to reply to her message like that. You're very insecure, and I understand you, but you have to learn to keep these things to yourself (and vent to other males, just in case). If she misbehaves you have to tell her, just as she would do well to be transparent and tell you that something is not right. You should have fucked her up that night after seeing her with the other guy, telling her you don't want to hang out with little girls who only think about sex.

[Angelo75]

Quite literally you and her simply don't match.

There is no "good" or "bad" in this scenario.

You have certain standards and she has certain standards.
If you continue to pursue this situation "You" will have to deal with her being less reserved with other guys... or... "She" will have to constantly inhibit herself because of you. So one of you will end up being frustrated.

No need to be mean to her about it. Just move on to someone that is on the wavelength as you.

[Miristheiss]

Dude... too much drama. Too much disrespect. Just cut her out of your life.

Don't ask her out again, don't talk with her ever again. Put her out of your mind and keeping looking for other women to date.

She is bad news. Don't waste another second of thought on her. Move on.

[badg96]

she sent me this message 10 minutes after we got back home. do you think it was better that I didn't answer?

https://imgur.com/a/RxwIEY9

[Miristheiss]

"SAME"
You already reacted to it.

You are already interacting with her.

[badg96]

Its true yesterday Im stupid

[OfMiceandMen]

If that is the only thing, I wouldn't worry too much. I would definitely put it on the radar though and keep my eye open for other signs. But one occurrence like that is hardly a huge deal. It raises a flag, but, not something that would prevent me from seeing her again.

If you find her doing similar things in the future, to try and make you jealous, drop her. No point in getting caught up with someone that is into drama. Makes your life a living hell.

[Spongebobssocks]

If you meet a woman at a club she is for the streets. Those are hoes.. no serious woman goes out to clubs single. If she ever goes its with her husband because he wanted to.

So dont be upset you didn't loose anything of value.:)

[badg96]

I didn't meet her there, I went with her to that bar

[Spongebobssocks]

Well if she danced with someone else. She is for the streets. Just block her and move on.

[DermalPunch]

Well, if you are into clubbing and deal with people who club, this is par for the course.

Maybe meet girls at the library?

[Vegasrunner]

You should and your instincts are correct, she now knows that you're a beta and she has all the leverage. How many times have you been intimate w/ this women?

[badg96]

Never. I know the girl This nigth. She is from tinder

[Vegasrunner]

@badg96 You're going to try to keep seeing her?

[badg96]

No i think She leave my country tomorrow.

[Vegasrunner]

@badg96 Gotcha, that makes sense. Just chalk it up to a lesson learned. What you should have done is just cruised around the club and focused on finding another girl while you were there

[lightbulb27]

She's not going to say no to anything, just having fun.

yes, marrying her be hell.

[badg96]

I not want marry her. She is vacation in my country 1 week

[Angelo75]

So that explains the differences between the two of you.
She's from another country with different expectations and behaviour.
Don't bother too much on things that you don't expect.

Just have a fun time and do NOT get attached to her... or... cut her off and move on.
She's just looking for a good time. You'll end up hurt or pissed.
Or you'll end up messing her vacation with unwanted drama.

[lightbulb27]

@Angelo75 agree!

[DermalPunch]

And you make a whole post about it? Spruuuunnnngggg

[lightbulb27]

@DermalPunch What?

[LiamJHayden]

Some people are like that. Just move on, as there are lots of better women out there. Also consider it a blessing that she revealed her personality so quickly, before you invested months or years.

[Finchie40]

You went to the bathroom and she was dancing with another guy? Kick her to the curb where she belongs

[noohair]

Is this your girl friend? Have you had the talk about boundaries and mutual expectations? I don't dance but I have gotten lost in the music during concerts. If she was lost in the music, I don't see anything intentional on her part.

[Quackthulu2]

If that is the worse experience you have ever had in 26 years you are a lucky fucker.

[FilmGuy93]

They could have started openly fucking on the dancefloor, but your sitution definitely isn't great.

[megabamse]

Would be Worse if the guy had her on his fist like a sock puppet, maybe even a second girl on his other hand. "PUPPET FIGHT"!!! AAAAAAH

[jshm2]

Yes, his cock up her ass under her tutu, with his mate Dp'ing her from the front.

[Unit1]

She's a girl for public use. Nothing out of the ordinary.

[badg96]

she sent me this message 10 minutes after we got back home. do you think it was better that I didn't answer?

https://imgur.com/a/RxwIEY9

[Unit1]

depends what you want.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Time to move on. She's going out with you, she shouldn't be dancing with someone else.

[badg96]

she sent me this message 10 minutes after we got back home. do you think it was better that I didn't answer?

https://imgur.com/a/RxwIEY9

[Sabretooth]

This'll only last a short time. I gave all my heart and over 15 years of my life to trying to get through to her while she demonized and filled me with false hope. All these restless nights...

[es20490446e]

I won't mind, because in the end of the day she's coming with me.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

The worst thing you can get is that he is not the girl’s brother.