If a guy waits for me for 4 years, is it a true love?

[Anonymous]

[Itsok2behapp-e]

No.

On his part, yes he has patience but has no other options so does nothing other than to wait for you and you alone.

Give him a little encouragement here and there and you can easily string him along for another four years! DO NOT do this please!

On your part, what did you do in those 4 years?

No doubt you'll say you crossed your legs shut, your mouth shut and were celibate throughout, yes? Hell no.

We all know that's a lie! You've done what you wanted to, when you wanted with whom you wanted.

Whether it was one man a day, one man a week, one man a month, you smashed and we both know it.

You gained all the experiences you wanted in those four years and have done so every second knowing full well you have a 'fallback' option, if it doesn't all work out in him, right.

Deep down it's not love for either of you. He thinks he can do no better than you and you'll only settle for him when you realise the ones you truly desire don't desire you.

Whenever that maybe, you'll turn to him and say "Oh my god! Thank you so much for waiting."

You know you can depend on him as he has waited all his fricking life for you but you'll never be happy as you won't ever truly desire him.

You never did and never will otherwise you wouldn't have made him wait. Fact!

[Itsok2behapp-e]

Thank you for Superb Opinion :-)

[Asker]

Your opinion is absolutely wrong. I didn't made any experiences in those 4 years

[Asker]

I can desire him and you can't estimate about my feelings on him

[Asker]

Superb opinion was selected by bot even though your opinion doesn't seem realistic. Your long response could have mistaken the bot to guess your opinion as superb

[Itsok2behapp-e]

An opinion is neither wrong nor right. All opinions are valued and as responders we can only base our opinions on the information you provide, which in this case is one sentence!

Yes, you're more than welcome to desire him. However, without giving any information on why he has waited for four years or what you did in those four years results in the differing opinions you've received.

Based on your response to another opinion and to mine, one can only deduce he doesn't desire you and has multiple options available to him.

Henceforth, one can only assume you're the one who has waited four years for him rather than the other way around!

Have a great day.

[Asker]

I was denying your opinion doesn't mean that he doesn't desire me or I don't desire him. He waited for me for 4 years and I wasn't ready for a serious relationship during those 4 years and now I'm ok with serious relationship because I decided finally

[Asker]

I desire him back

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say whether waiting for someone for four years constitutes "true love," as everyone's experiences and emotions are unique. However, waiting for someone for an extended period of time can be a sign of dedication, commitment, and love.

It's important to consider the context of the situation and the reasons why the person waited for four years. Did they wait because they truly believed that the relationship was worth it, or because they were unable to move on? Did they communicate openly and honestly with their partner about their feelings and intentions? These are important factors to consider when assessing the true nature of the relationship.

Ultimately, the strength and authenticity of a relationship depend on many factors, including mutual respect, trust, communication, and shared values and goals. It's important to approach relationships with an open and honest mindset, and to prioritize your own well-being and happiness above all else.

[happyfoetus]

If I were you, I wouldn't be here asking the question but be with him to see how compatible we are and work things out.

By waiting for 4 years, he raised your value as unique girl as he choose you over anyone in this world. Also he has shown faithfulness and honesty and mostly, will be with you through thick and thin.

He can be unattractive or simp outside but an extremely attractive person on the inside.

Now its up to you.

[Asker]

He's attractive on the outside too and is a great catch by many other girls

[happyfoetus]

Then stop waisting your time thinking and start seeing if things would work out btwn the 2 of you.

[Sour-rose]

Yes and no.

Yes- it could be, he might be the one for yo.

No- true love... my bum. to wait so long means he found no one better and the chemicals in his brain really sayin "don't let her go"... for 4 years. I don't think that's a thing that is likely

[OlderAndWiser]

No, it could be desperation, total lack of self-esteem, inexperience, or it could be love.

[TheorionMage]

Most likely, however circumstances and emotions evolve.

Would YOU be able to reciprocate HIS fidelity and affections in return?
Youth is a perishable commodity... are you EACH willing to sacrifice all the life experiences and opportunities you will NEVER have again?

[WindAtMyBack]

Not nearly enough info. Why was he waiting? Did he have legitimate reason to wait? Or was it just wishful thinking?

If he didn't have a good reason to believe that waiting would get him somewhere, then it's more like an obsession than love.

[7Phoenix7]

I wouldn’t say true love. They just like you and time hasn’t changed anything. If you give them a chance then they’ll most likely still date you or whatever. But it doesn’t mean he loves you. It could be lust, infatuation, or just general interest in you.

[virtue2332]

I kind of agree because but if he legit waited 4 years and didn't mess with no one it's going to be one of these scenarios A) he's lying his ass off and was clapping cheeks on the regular. B) He just didn't have any opportunities c) He did wait but he also should get those Testosterone levels checked because unless he is much older something is not right.

[7Phoenix7]

@virtue2332 lol @ scenario A. I’m thinking this is what happened. He waited for her but maybe he was still getting what he needed from someone else.

[virtue2332]

Right 4 years is a long time and if he is a catch he is most definitely tested

[virtue2332]

I hate to be negative like this but they ask the questions and I think it deserves an honest opinion and from the little info we have to go by these are the gut instinct answers.

[7Phoenix7]

@virtue2332 I want to ask you something? Follow me so I can message you?

[virtue2332]

Ok followed

[Anemone978]

its a good start.. but I don't know we would need more details..

[Ametrine98]

Somehow but there are other things to consider as well

[MysteriousDarkness]

If he has waited 4 years already then don't make him wait any longer. Go on as date as soon as you two can.

[slatyb]

Not necessarily. How well does he know you? Maybe waiting meant "he couldn't raise the courage to ask another woman on a date"

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter how many years. if really waited for you then it is.

[Jaximus-Lion]

When you wait for someone for 4 years and they still not made their mind? Dump them.

[mb120101]

No because you made him wait 4 years thats not a love story he's just a simp

[DermalPunch]

Not necessarily. Often not at all. Go by what happens in the present

[Rangers]

Either that or he's a sad guy who's clinging onto hope that she'll be with him even though she clearly never will

[Ms_Facesitter]

I think true love actually shows when you're already together

[Anonymous]

There can be love, there can be stubbornness. And can be obsession. We cannot assume anything without any information.

[ColHathi]

In case you weren't aware, JasonDaMan very very likely generated that entire response with ChatGPT.

[Summeroflove]

What do you mean by wait?

[Anonymous]

honestly... that seems kind of psychotic on his part... i'd seriously be worried.

[Vegasrunner]

No it just means he has low value and can't attract anyone better.

[Anonymous]

True love or limited options/no self respect. What doof waits 4 years for someone.😆😆😆

[clampfan101]

Definitely a good sign at least.

[virtue2332]

Waits for you how?

[Iron_Man]

There’s a chance

[legalboxers]

good things come to those who wait

[TheSpaceGnome]

Under what context?

[zagor]

Were you in prison?

[shades777]

no its true foolishness

[Chthou95]

Why are you having him wait?

[DeanFreed]

No
You're a time waster
😄

[Radhika_]

I'd say yes!

[In_Trance]

I don't think so