Is it bad to be comfortable being single where you have no intention of changing it?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

If it’s something you choose To do and you are happy about it , then nothing wrong with it at all, it’s only weird to someone that doesn’t want to be single , so it’s your life and our choice , At times I feel being single isn’t a bad thing , but I love girl’s to much for me to just throw in the towel , even though I been shit on and cheated on by girl’s, I still have hope there is a good one out there. but based off of my experiences in life I feel like I already been there and done that , so I feel like I am not really missing out on much to be honest , probably why I am set on my preferences on what I am seeking in a girl, for me to fully commit to her , I have a list of things she needs to prove to me before I give her my heart completely cuz I don’t want to go through heart break again or waste my time or hers , For a relationship to work both partners need to put in 100 percent of it will turn one sided and all hell will break loose , So I no longer rush for commitment because the beginning stages of meeting someone new is always infatuation once infatuation starts to die off that’s when you can be pretty sure someone is in it for the long haul or not , if they are still standing by your side and wanting to be with you and you are doing the same then it’s best to move into commitment stage , but if not , kick them to the curb , they only liked the convenience of you they truly didn’t love you.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not bad to be comfortable being single and to have no intention of changing it. Everyone has different preferences and goals when it comes to relationships, and there is no one "right" way to live your life.

If you're happy and fulfilled being single, and you feel that it aligns with your values and goals, then there's no need to feel pressured to change your status or pursue a relationship. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, and to make choices that align with your own values and desires.

However, it's also important to remain open to the possibility of new experiences and connections, and to be mindful of any patterns or behaviors that may be limiting your growth or happiness. If you find yourself feeling lonely or isolated, or if you feel that your singleness is preventing you from achieving your goals or pursuing your interests, it may be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist who can provide guidance and encouragement.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not at all. I've been single nearly 15 years and I have no intention of changing that anytime soon.

I've heard people say the longer you're single, the harder it is for you to find a partner- not because you're looking, but you've been alone so long, you're used to and no longer need/want a relationship as much as you used to as you're comfortable being alone.

And that's the point I'm at in my life: I've been alone so long, I really can't picture myself in a relationship.

[Asker]

I’ve been single my whole and I can’t see myself with anyone. I’ve never been on a date either.

[insteadfew]

No plans to marry and have kids?

[Asker]

@insteadfew None whatsoever. Especially, the kids part.

[insteadfew]

Wouldn't you feel lonely after some years when there wouldn't be any family member around too?

[Asker]

I’ve been single for 30 years. I’ve grown quite use to it.

[insteadfew]

These were very different years. Don't count all those thirty years as being single. Since out of ther thirty years you were a baby , a kid , a teenager and you had a family parents etc with whom you lived with , who cared for you and you had studies and all sorts of things to keep you very busy.
Now coming years would be very different from these. You'd get older physically and would have some health issues on and off , your parents and loved ones will get older and older and a fact is that one day they will leave this planet.
Then , you'd be all alone. Friends etc would be all busy with their work and family life, they won't bother about you mich as they might do it now.

[Asker]

And that’s suppose to scare me how?

[Asker]

Maybe I’ll leave this world before them. You don’t know 🤷‍♀️

[insteadfew]

Haha if it doesn't then more power to you.
I just showed you some points.
Because life would be different from what it has been all these thirty years

[insteadfew]

Maybe... yeah no one knows.
But generally it doesn't happen this way

[Asker]

I’m not going to panic and be depressed that I don’t have a partner. That’s a stupid way to live.

[Asker]

Besides, men don’t like me anyway. I’m not in the right mind to be dating either, if I’m being honest.

[insteadfew]

Men don't like you, or since you are always giving off vibes that you are least interested in men... they don't " like" you?
If you seriously don't like men then that's another thing.. but if you want to stay single since tou feel that's better then thinkk again

[Asker]

It is better for me.

[Asker]

@insteadfew Men for real don’t like me. If I was in a bad situation, they would leave me hanging.

[insteadfew]

No , I am sure it's not that bad as you making it seem like

[Asker]

@insteadfew That’s only because you didn’t see what I went through with men.

[insteadfew]

Ok I beleive that then

[Pinay_ako]

It’s not. It’s your choice and whatever makes you happy. Nobody can stop you but yourself.

[Summeroflove]

That’s not bad no. If that’s what you want it’s fine

[OfMiceandMen]

If that is your choice, but. don't deny yourself the experience of being in a relationship based on all the crap you hear or even the few experiences you may have had in a relationship.

With the right person, a friendship/relationship can change your life for the better.

[Asker]

I’m ok with friendships but not a relationship.

[bolverk]

No it s not bad to be comfortable being single, I have been for the last 30 years by choice, as my career had me travelling at short notice for extended periods, and has allowed me to see places that I'd have never see if I had been in a relationship or married.

While I have no children of my own I've invested a lot into my nieces & nephews.

[rosemilk]

it's not bad and not sure why you'd think it would be bad? do whatever you want. the world will continue rotating.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Nope, but in my case I don't plan on being single forever.

Everyone has a choice, no one can change it.

[insteadfew]

Still a virgin?

[CrimsonAngel09]

@insteadfew es ist geht dich nichts an.

[insteadfew]

Can't understand it

[EpicSnail]

I don't see why that would be bad. As long as you have thought about the future and what you want there.

[Asker]

I just want it to be me and my puppy dog 🥰

[EpicSnail]

Fair enough

[fonduegirl]

Why would it be bad? It's a personal choice really.

[hbg84]

Not really. I've been single my whole life. Haven't been on a date in 6 and half years. Haven't been with anyone sexually in just as long. To say im comfortable is an understatement

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. A good relationship might be better than being single, but a mediocre or bad relationship is much worse than being single, and most end up being mediocre or worse.

[RockyHammock]

If you're happy single and have no desire to get into a relationship why would you care what others think?

[FilmGuy93]

Nope... There's nothing wrong with being genuinely content.

[JustBeingReal727]

No more time to yourself less worries about how long the relationship is going to last and less drama.

[clampfan101]

It’s not like we’d be running out of people any time soon. lol

[Kidblink1]

Absolutely not, I'm working on myself and my future right now and I don't think that's selfish or odd, just good planning.

[ArrowheadSW]

Marriage certainly isn't for everyone.

[Asker]

Never said I wanted to get married.

[slatyb]

No one besides you gets a vote.

[siseñor]

has better jawline than most men

[zagor]

Why would it be bad?

[Jamie05rhs]

No; there's nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

It's ok. Amd you virgin too?

[Asker]

Yep!

[Opinion Owner]

Asexual?

[Asker]

I’m not Asexual

[Opinion Owner]

Then how come you still a virgin at 30?

[Asker]

I wanna die a virgin.

[Asker]

There’s no need for to have sex.

[Opinion Owner]

Religious reasons to want to die virgin?

[Opinion Owner]

Never feel horny or sexually attracted towards anyone be it a man or a woman?

[Asker]

I have for men but I have no interest in pursuing. Nothing do to with religion or anything. Just have no motivation or interest to do anything.

[Opinion Owner]

If a man approaches you for romance and sex?

[Asker]

I would reject him, honestly.

[Opinion Owner]

No feelings?

[Opinion Owner]

Don't you worry about ending up alone lonely especially in older days?

[Asker]

I’m prepared for that. It’s not a big deal.

[Mansearching]

No its not

[Anonymous]

No, not at all.