Dating someone that have been financially unstable for long period of time. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

He can't afford to take me out on dates

Never gave me a gift or nothing

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+1 y

Unemployed but asking me for money tho

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+1 y

He call me an attention seeker just because I update my profile picture

[Summeroflove]

You shouldn’t be just dating someone for money. If you’re not happy… break up? Maybe it’s not meant to be.

If you’re not happy find someone you’re happy with. You’re not doing him any favors either because when you’re bitter with him you hurt him as well.

Maybe he isn’t the problem…. Maybe he is. But more likely he’s just not what you’re looking for and if he is a problem…. Again just break it off.

Unless you feel you can be happy with him. Then see where it goes but be honest about how you feel. Many people will say literally everything here online to strangers who don’t know them. But won’t communicate with their significant other

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I guess I'll be the mediator on this one.
Not once did you mention you're dating him for money. Just the fact that you're with him proves that's not true, so you can ignore these goof balls.
Dating someone who's unemployed and terrible with money will hurt you in the long run.
How are you gonna get married and raise a family with someone like that?
You won't, because he's a mooch and a loser. His financial decisions can and will affect you in a big way.
Marry him and all his debt becomes yours if something happens to him.
Dump that boy and find a man

[Asker]

No I'm not with him for the money. I been with him for 3 years. I believe in a relationship each person should help each other out not one sided. When I need help with something he can't help me but expect money.

[Asker]

I do have a job. Never ask him for nothing. But if I help him he should help me also

[WanderingLoveWizard]

People can deny it all they want in the name of love, but money matters.
Being unemployed tells me he's not even trying. That spells trouble. But you can do what you want. I just hope you don't have to learn the hard way

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I agree. I'm on your side

[Smartgirl_hey]

@Asker What help you asked him?

[Anonymous]

You should not love someone for financial stability. If he isn't financially stable, you become financially stable. You should only care about how much he loves you and how much loyalty he is offering. Money shouldn't be the reason for dating or loving someone. It appears cheap

[Opinion Owner]

According to your update even if he asks you money doesn't mean that he's bad. Maybe he really needs some money for his necessities. Giving him or not is your choice. Staying with you or not is what he decides. Honestly you shouldn't care about someone's financial status but only see how much he is loyal to you and how much he actually loves you

[sheikalana]

You shouldn't be dating someone who asks you for money especially if it's a Man. He needs to Man and I'm sure you deserve better.

[Asker]

When I ask him for help he jump off the subject and talk about sex. But expect money.

[Adam1978]

Don't date bums, they will never fix their life if you are there supporting their bad life choices. You shouldn't date for money but the least you should expect is him keeping his shit together. If they get into a bad situation during a longer relationship, you should get them through it.

[Nikki1989]

You give them time to get their life together, but at some point you might have to let them go.

[Finchie40]

Dump him , why did you date him in the first place?

[Finchie40]

Social media definitely adds fire into a relationship , why it’s best to distance yourself from social media when getting into a relationship with someone , you and your boyfriend are already having troubles in your relationship so updating your profile picture is going to raise a question of concern to him as to why are you updating your profile picture? Are you seeking someone else? Are you hoping to get the attention from someone else? Those are questions you need to ask yourself , If the answer is yes , then right there is your answer to end that relationship with your boyfriend or you will just be stringing him along for your own selfish benefit , It sounds like your boyfriend is a selfish person as well, for the fact that he relies on you for money and doesn’t have any ambition to get off his ass and be a team player with you , So you have a decision to make , You can either try to fix your relationship with him or you are going to have to kick him to the curb, but do not string him along because that makes you a selfish person that only cares about yourself. No relationship is perfect and no one else is going to save you , if you plan on cheating on him you are best to dump him now cuz things will just get worse if you choose not to try to fix what is broken Relationships are hard , for a relationship to survive we have to remove our own inner selfishness for the person you choose to be in a relationship with , so if you can see yourself without your boyfriend anymore then that’s your answer right there to end it with him , if you can’t see yourself without your boyfriend anymore then you are best to fix it , running to someone else is not going to solve your problems, it will just make matters worse

[Asker]

I'm not trying to get attention from anyone else

[Finchie40]

Ok so if you want to stop butting heads with your boyfriend you are going to start wearing his shoes before making decisions, And he is going to have to start doing the same , You are best to have a sit down talk with him and tell him what is bothering you , and if things don’t change for the better then you both are best to end the relationship , tell him you will no longer give him money and that his ass better get a job or you don’t want this relationship anymore cuz right now you feel things are one sided , if he truly loves you and doesn’t want to lose you he more than likely will get off his ass and look for a job , support him on finding a job instead of acting like you his warden , Most people do the opposite when they want their partner to do something for them , they start criticizing and belittling them , making them feel like more of a piece of shit which will make them not do what you want them to do , So if you want your relationship to last with your boyfriend you are going to have to support him instead of being his enemy , If a girl told me you better get a better paying job and demands me to do something for her , I would tell her To Go fuck herself , if she approached me with a caring heart and told me she loves me and told me it would be nice of you found a job making more money , I would be more accepting of her decision and try to find a better paying job , So I know you are upset with your boyfriend , but the only way to fix it is to put yourself in his shoes and support him be his fan not his enemy

[Cute_potato01]

Y r u evening dating him? He's basically living the life

[Simslover92]

Either tell him he needs to get a job or you are done with him. Simple as that.

[SirJohn42]

Find a guy who can meet you half way.
At least makes an effort to help and not mooch off you.
Stop enabling him and move on.

[Danny_dan92]

This is typically a bad sign, if someone is bad with handling their money it shows irresponsibility

[Unit1]

sounds like you need a sugar daddy and not a boyfriend.

[shades777]

You don't have any money? he's a date not his responsibility to pay your way.

[Asker]

I work and have money. He don't work and ask for money

[shades777]

do free stuff then

[sarah657]

If you think that's a problem, then he deserves better

[Anonymous]

Why is he financially u stable?

[Anonymous]

but yet you're still with the bum

[itsalyssaagain]

Wasting your time 😂

[koko22]

Ran...

[Anonymous]

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