Is he cheating or am I overthinking this?

[nata590]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and until now it’s never been a problem with me thinking he was doing something wrong. Recently I discovered a text message to a female (who is an ex friend of mine) he asked if they could see each other. I asked about it and he said it was nothing and was just trying to catch up with an old friend and stormed off. Recently he’s made a friend with this girl, she’s been to his house multiple times and I’d like to think he doesn’t talk to her more then he does to me. I’ve noticed she doesn’t like me and has a weird *ugh* around me. He goes to her when we argue and she’s called me a bitch multiple times to which he doesn’t not come to my defense. I’ve talked to him about this friendship is making me uncomfortable. Am I crazy or is this something I should keep pursuing answers for? She is his type although I would say I’m prettier. He grew out in the country with horses and all that great stuff while I was mostly raised as a city girl with mommy. I recently moved out here and for the last 6 years I’ve learned the ways of the country and living out here so I definitely also have some of that zing. I feel like I have a lot to offer and I’m not someone who’s ever done him dirty. He’s also stopped being as affectionate as he used to be and I’m starting to think maybe I’m the problem, he seems to get mad at me
Over everything. He’s never really given me much reason to think he’s cheating but the last 2 months he’s given me suspicions and maybe I am just crazy but I would like to think I’m not.

Wow that’s way longer then I expected it to be.

[MementoMori777]

You are his girlfriend, get that nose all up in there and investigate, be nosey, you got the rights too, you got the girlfriend pass, three big flags tho

Red flag one: having her over at his house when you aren't there, just having another woman alone in a room is flaky

Red flag two: he goes to her when y'all argue, that gives off side hoe vibes and there's no reason he should be crawling to her after an argument with his girl, even more suspicious if he has guy friends.

And Red flag numero tres: he gets angry at you for everything, that shows there that something is up and don't eat everything I serve here but my paranoid brain tells me that she (ex friend you said hm) might be talking shit to him about you behind your back and it's causing a tears in the relationship leading to annoyance and irritation.

Just sayin