Do you do physical self-improvement for yourself or to attract the opposite sex?

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Do you work on yourself to feel better and healthier? Or to match with someone of high quality in term of looks and health. I don’t think we should keep lying to ourselves. Obviously we try to be TOP NOTCH to attract a mate. Not because we want to feel healthier. If there were no men available. I’d imagine life would be boring and nothing to compete for and look forward to. 😒 Life would have no meaning.

WriterDreams · Accepted Answer

Oh yeah. Life without men would be more simple that's for sure but absolutely no fun.

We need them. Life is ment to be enjoyed and men - the good ones - do make that happen.

I recall my life before love all too clearly.

It was shit.

Sure it was quiet and more stress free. I sure didn't know what it was like to worry when they were ill. That is brutal.

I wouldn't have any dishes to do or stuff to pick up or two households to care for. Or insults from doctors or mother-in-laws to shoulder with a glazed smile. Sure.

However I wouldn't trade him for the world. 🗺

If I didn't know it before I do now. Sitting under the blankets on the couch in the cold cuddling and I asked if he wanted me to go and he put his head on my shoulder. Now I can't get off the couch 😂 😍 🤗

He is strong, adorable and kind.

We need them. Sure they are annoying, clueless gets sometimes but they are vital to the zest of life.

Sometimes though I think they could do with some women style of thinking though. Could help straighten out some communication issues. 😂

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Complex mix of both. Mostly, I work on my health for my own sake. Sometimes I feel tempted to change things about my body because I worry I'll be seen as unattractive, but then I realize the same features I worry about in myself I love to see in other women, so then I shut those thoughts down and refuse to change myself if I'd only do it for fear of the judgments of others. I make an effort to only change what I truly want to.

caring__1 · Answer

Unfortunately, though this is common, motivation to continue staying in shape often disappears once people establish a relationship. The object is to stay in shape, rather than say "This is all you deserve." It doesn't matter if you're doing it for your partner or doing it for yourself, but maintain whatever you promise rather than give your partner a bait and switch.

Anonymous · Answer

When I lost 53lbs, my motivation was not the opposite sex. My last straw was a Christmas trip where a sales clerk did a once over on me and told me "we don't carry YOUR size." I was so embarrassed and the whole trip, the feeling never left me. When I came back to town, I knew I wanted to be able to buy the clothes I wanted because I love fashion. I did not want to drip with sweat and be out of breath going up a few flights of stairs or going for a mile walk with friends. I felt like all of this was holding me back from being the person I wanted to be. I was lucky to have such encouraging friends who helped me keep my focus and motivation along the way but I definitely didn't do it for some guy or the prospect of some guy.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

I exercise every day, but I do it for myself. If a girl doesn't like me for me, she's a waste of my time. I try to make myself look attractive sometimes, but that's only because I have low self-esteem. I'm also a newly diagnosed diabetic, so staying healthy is kind of a priority now.

I just got done walking. Even though I'm all sweaty, I feel good that I did something to keep myself healthy. If there were any girls around, they'd probably be like, "Eww, you're all sweaty," lol, but at least I'll know I did it for myself.

Bricealan · Answer

I must, in this case, Emyywolf, respectfully disagree... LOL I have a yoga instructor, that has a
body that just about any woman in the Milky Way Galaxy would kill for to have. She has abdominal's that you could crack walnuts on... WITH A HAMMER.
I would do just about anything, short of surrendering one of my testicles to science to have
abdominals like that to admire every morning when I get out of bed and pull up my sleep shirt. From my POV, it has nothing to do with attracting a mate, but is merely a matter of self pride.

HighValue · Answer

My number one reason for working out has always been to be more capable in a fight. My second reason is to still be able to do what I want as I get older. I have seen too many weak and very fat p6that can't go places or do much at all due to laziness.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

For my self! I never show off, i never go topless at the beach, i don't wear tight shirts... It's all for me because i have health problems, i wear shorts all the time, in winters too and my legs shows that i workout. I am married since 2012 and it's gonna be the same for a very long time

Curmudgeon · Answer

"God uses lust to impel men to marry, ambition to office, avarice to earning, and fear to faith._ - Martin Luther

Now even if you are a total atheist or some other Xtian besides Protestant, the point stands.

We honestly *should* do it for ourselves, as there are no guarantees in this world, because the hopeful payoff of a great mate is "incidental".

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously to attract the opposite sex. I don't give a fuck if a guy is fat if he's funny, cooks great food and will invite me over for a beer and some football, and eat some of his food.

HOWEVER, women certainly do care. IF they are looking for someone to impregnate them and not just for his money and his company. There's nothing more emasculating than thinking girls use you for your money and your company as a man.

This is why so many people get out of shape after entering a relationship. They've "proven" to themselves they can be attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a number of health problems, and recently got out of a shitty relationship.

I have absolutely zero interest in another relationship, but am sick of feeling like shit because of my health.

My motivation is entirely to feel better, both physically and mentally. Attracting a mate has nothing to do with my decision to work out.

It's all for me.

Sonorous · Answer

If all women disappeared, I'd still workout & eat healthily. I'd still groom & bathe. Because when I look & feel good to myself, it gives me a little more motivation to endure life.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

For myself. I want to gain back weight and build muscle, all for myself, body, and health. As well as for my family since they are worried about me because of it.

AdithyaR · Answer

I workout for my mental health. Working out silences the extra noise in my brain, at least for a little while.

Christoff92 · Answer

Physical Self-improvements for myself. What gets me to attract the Opposite Sex is my self well-being 🤗

CaptainOverthink · Answer

For myself. But I don't mind getting attention for good work either. It goes hand-in-hand, don't it.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Self improvement. But being sexy naked is a plus lol.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Everything I do in life I do for myself, not to satisfy other people.

exitseven · Answer

Probably both. I like having a functional body but enjoyed the fringe benefits.

Luopio27 · Answer

I am a lazy piece of shit that finds bodybuilding ans sweating boring as fuck.

Anonymous · Answer

Neither, I have no time or energy for exercise It never lead to any results for me, anyways

Anonymous · Answer

No, there's no point in my situation. There's no way to change height and dick size

glennos89 · Answer

A little bit of both to be honest

LiamJHayden · Answer

For my own health

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Both.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell NO!

Mettbltt · Answer

both of them

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