A guy who was incredibly open about being in love with me, pursued me and wanted a future together… ended up making me the other woman twice. You could ask how I was so naive.
We started dating (not in a relationship fully, but actively dating) in person, which turned into dating long distance. The first time I became the other woman was after we first started dating. He started pursuing me while being in a relationship with another girl. Calling me gorgeous daily, sex, etc. Once I found out, I cut things off completely and did not speak with him for months.
Months went by and I ended up running into him again, to which he profusely apologized for everything. He said that the relationship with the first girl meant nothing to him, that it had been on/off and they only dated for 3 days after I found out. … I naively took his apology, thanked him and went on my way.
A couple months later I ended up seeing him again and hooked up with him. And now I’ve just found out he’s in a relationship with another girl, and that it started around the time him and I hooked up (still waiting for dates to confirmed if I actually helped him to cheat)
I am furious that I allowed myself to be disrespected twice, but more so I am disappointed in myself for being the other woman, and to have hoped for something so genuine with this man.
If you’ve ever been in this position (and I hope no one can relate) do you have any advice? I am absolutely going to never speak to him again, but I have to say I’m hurt too…
kindness is appreciated in advance.
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Would the hurt be lessened if your relationship with him had never included sex?
You can only go to his first woman. Apologize and tell her you didn't know and didn't wanna hurt her. And then move on. You can only learn to be less naive and move forward.