When does slow texting start becoming a red flag?

[Anonymous]

Met this girl once in uni and matched with her on Bumble a week ago. So far, there are many positives:

1. She texted me first on Bumble
2. Asked me out (but said after finals)
3. Said that she’d love to meet me in uni and told me her whole schedule
4. Once when she took too long to reply, she texted saying that she doesn’t want me to think she’s ignoring me and that she’ll update me on why she’s been busy when she sees me.
5. When she does reply, it’s usually a long response that takes 10-15 minutes to write or record

But, problem is, she’s such a sloooow texter. Like, text once a day kind of slow. Again, I understand that she’s busy and that the responses are pretty nice and detailed. I’m just starting to feel like things will fizzle out since it’s finals season and it’s difficult to plan something with her texting habits.

Updates

11 mo

I’d LOVE to do real face-to-face communication but again, it’s finals season and it’s both difficult to get ahold of her AND to schedule something anyway

[BoopBoopBeep]

Then call her. Wow. Problem solved. I don't sit around with my phone attached to my hand. If you text me I may not get it til tomorrow. You're complaining about 10 minutes? It takes that long to mix and knead dough, Jesus man maybe her hands are dirty. Don't just sit there and stare at the phone. Go out, live your life, the text gets answered when it gets answered. Will make you way more appealing to her and every other woman. They prefer men who are actually engaged with life not pining away in a box staring at their hand.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Reply to the update:
Then she's just not that into you but trying to keep her options open with you in case something else peters out. When I call a woman who is interested in me she answers, or sends a "can't chat right now" text and calls me back. If she's right in the middle of a test/gyno/dental/making bread I don't expect her to always be able to answer, but I do expect a call back, and I'm not reaching out to her again until she does. If that means we don't talk, awesome, i didn't waste time on her. She knows if she doesn't call back someone else is going to be, because they ARE interested enough to return my calls. Besides, she's not taking tests 24 hours a day. I promise she's stepped out for coffee or something. If she's not taking that time to call you then she's not that interested.

[Asker]

I don’t call. We exchanged IGs, so I don’t have her number yet. Only text.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well one, that's where you messed up. I don't entertain anyone taking space in my life that I have no way to reach if something important comes up. If you couldn't have been troubled to get a way to call/text her then she shouldn't be troubled to respond to you in a fast manner. It's been a week, give it another week at most. Tell her you want to go out and don't buy some sad "but I have exams" excuse. If she was interested she'd find time. There were way too many women returning my calls or calling me during exams to "blow off steam" for me to think of the 168 hours in a week there's no time for you.

You deserve better than that. I wish you saw that.

[FootfetishistBoy]

Slow texting is normal. Unfortunately I can't text and walk at the same time since I could be distracted. Maybe there is bad Connection in the train, or maybe i'm working. It's not a problem unless it's a matter of hours too many hours or days

[Adam1978]

If you can text her, you can also call her. So do that.

[jshm2]

It doesn't.

If anything, you are the red flag with your demands.

[Anonymous]

Any texting is a red flag. If you can't even manage real communication, give up.

[shades777]

I don't know why any man would be on Bumble, its such a beta dating app

[laraWM]

Nothing to worry about in my opinion

[CallmeTheKnight]

Nobody is that busy. she’s just not that into you

[In_Trance]

it doesn't