Nobody is perfect so then does that mean you can ignore just one red flag?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes, you can ignore just one red flag since nobody is perfect. We all have them.

Nope, one red flag is a no go.

A total of 32 votes were cast: 14 girls and 18 guys. See detailed results

[Smashingdoozy]

A red flag isn't an imperfection, it's something that indicates abusive, manipulative or unhealthy behaviors. You should never ignore red flags.

[Sunssong]

So in other words it's an imperfection.

[Smashingdoozy]

@Sunssong sorry meant to say not just an imperfection*

[Sunssong]

Oh..

[YesterdaysChild]

Depends what the red flag is for and how big that flag is. The bigger the flag the more reason to heed it and move on - Next!

[Sunssong]

Red flags are things that manifest break ups. Lack of fulfillment causes breakups...
@Smashingdoozy
These are dating-phrase red flags to me:

• Lack of habit of open mindedness
• Lack of definite intent
• Lack of strong desire

I've created a whole philosophy on lasting, fulfilled relationships.
Obviously there is many more red flags than this but only these matter at first.
These are the things I look for when initially vetting a mate.
Not very much
Everyones vetting process should be different.
Some people may need to care about other things more.

My philosophy requires them to have these things.
Without open mindedness we cannot even start.
Because that means they are overly cultured and can't change.
Lasting success is about change.
The other 2 traits explain themselves.

Pass the initially stages and into a serious couple, a red flag becomes anything that causes wavering away from the joint vision. But if you don't have the 3 listed up there + courtesy one cannot even get to the serious couple stage with me. I'm not interested in playing a losing game. If you want to win you must become the person who naturally would win.

[Smashingdoozy]

There's a difference between red flags and traits you just don't like in a person... Red flags by definition are unhealthy, abusive or manipulative behaviors

[Sunssong]

@Smashingdoozy Traits are behaviors. I can't blame you for not understanding. I would have not understood 7 years ago either. I created a whole philosophy on lasting, fulfilling relationships. These are not traits I picked out because I like them. There are certain traits you need and if you don't have them you strongly weaken your chances at a lasting, fulfilling relationship.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

The whole red flag philosophy is flawed though. People show those 3 things you mentioned in different ways, and some simply don't know how.
There is no universal way to show your love and dedication to someone.
One girl might show her desire by texting you all day, another might do it by staring at you in the car, and another might just be holding back her feelings because she's afraid of getting hurt.
I'm not gonna write them off just because they're not meeting some dim expectation

[Smashingdoozy]

I don't disagree with you. But by definition they are not red flags. They are simply things you like/dislike. A person can have a healthy relationship with another person and not be an open minded person or have any of the other things you mentioned. Sure that relationship may not be long lasting but it isn't necessarily unhealthy.

When we're talking about red flags were talking about unhealthy behaviors in relationships (not strictly romantic relationships either). It's things like controlling behavior, trying to control what you wear, what you believe in, who you see, what you do etc. It's distrust. It's fueling low self esteem. It's abuse, whether that be physical, verbal or emotional. It's narcissism, anger issues, codependency, conflict avoidance, jealousy, gaslighting... Plus A whole lot more issues that make relationships unhealthy. The red flag is an idea that when you see these behaviors you should stop and run in the opposite direction, essentially red flag= danger.

[IceCreamSandwich]

"Nobody's perfect" applies to things like character flaws. Laziness, selfishness, arrogance, etc. Red flags are for danger. You can be a bad person and not be dangerous. I don't think you should ever ignore an indicator that someone is a dangerous person, especially if you're considering entering an intimate relationship with them.

[BoopBoopBeep]

A red flag is different than a ding against the person. If it's an actual red flag, no, but nobody's perfect nor do I expect them to be. Were you late and called to apologize, sure that's fine. Were you 30 minutes late, gave no notice then complained that I was already eating? I'm sorry your table is over there. In the streets.

[ARWINGx1]

(chooses B)
However, I try to keep as few "red flags" as possible. 'specially those that'd break a relationship.

One common example being that my what-if/would-be would control me. 'specially when it's intentional. (I mean, that "she" know what she's doing, and yet, "she" doesn't care how strong my disapproval are)

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't care about "red flags". They either do something bad, or they don't. They can throw all the warning signs at me they want, but until something actually happens, I have no reason to end the relationship if it's going well otherwise

[Anonymous]

red flags are different for people, and it depends on if you can also overlook or deal with them, it could be something like being stubborn or being bad at texting or lateness or it could be anger or jealousy so there are different levels

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'd say note them and figure out what they're up to. If they're not up to something then the red flags don't really mean anything.

[Nikki1989]

No because red flags tend to be major things.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

But nobody is perfect. I’m
Sure you have one red flag as do I

[itsalyssaagain]

There’s red flags and then there’s flaws. A lie is a red flag. A forgetful person is a flaw. You see the difference?

[Adam1978]

They shouldn't be red flags if they aren't show stoppers.

[LiamJHayden]

I don't sweat the small stuff, but I also do not consider every fault as a "red flag." For that reason, not, I will not ignore even one.

[TallAnon]

Red flags. are the ones you can't ignore, they include things like "They're a rapist".
If you want to keep to the metaphor, you can ignore a yellow flag; Not red.

[Deserter]

Depends how big it is. Something could be an issue in some cases but not always. Like a girl with a lot of tattoos. Either she just likes tattoos or she's emotionally unstable.

[mommymommymommy]

Depends on how big the flag is

You gonna date a murderer, rapist, etc?

[Likes2drive]

I guess that depends on the red flag, everybody has flaws, but some can be overlooked

[thatshydork]

Depends on how big the red flag is.