Exactly what the title says. (This is mainly for women, but guys can chime in too.) (M24) I've had some women say this to me in the past for whatever reason. One of which gave me a lengthy reason relating to her recent divorce that I still talk to sometimes, and miss her deeply. There's been both men, and women who say how attractive, and a great catch I am, but I either get a response like the title, they just stop talking to me all together, or they ask for something casual/not serious/hookups, which is something I don't want.
Is it just something you say when you're not interested in a guy, or do you like him, but know that you'll hurt him in the long run?
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I've said this before and what it means for me is: I'm not ready to engage with you, as you are and where you are now, because I'm still processing shit from my past.
I'd say it's more likely they recognize you are a good man, with needs outside what they can provide or feel they can support. So, they want you to find someone who CAN give you those things.
It happens. It's okay. Especially since you're looking for long term, it is likely these folks you're meeting aren't looking or ready for that.
Two questions, cause I'm genuinely curious.
1. Would you end up staying friends with the men, (or women if that's your thing) you said this to?
2. Did you ever reach out to anybody you've said this to when you've felt fully healed, and ready?
No it’s a real thing. Some of us are really tired and relationships will hurt us. We are different to men. We require breaks from dating. Grieving a relationship can mentally and emotional exhaust us and we need time to focus on overselves and heal.
I call that in most cases a white lie