Ugh, another waiting until marriage question?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend of two years and I agreed to wait until marriage earlier on, but now it’s not fair because he can’t afford to propose and the lack of sex is killing me. I almost drove him away in latest discussions. Seeking a counselor in the meantime. Gut says there’s nobody better out there and I won’t find another male virgin in todays dating pool. I can’t bear to break up start over. Seems like I need to hang tough for another 2-3 years but any other advice is greatly appreciated. I’m 30 and don’t want to be a virgin anymore.

[SnowedIn]

So, if you two are committed, you may want to think about having sex.

Seriously.

I've read your question four times and what I can't see is why you want to break up -- the only two things that stand out are 1) you want to have sex and 2) he can't afford to propose. If there's nothing else wrong, then having sex bridges the gulf between those two problems.

If you don't want to be with him other than he's a virgin then that's the wrong reason to get married anyway. So, again, maybe I'm not understanding the issue...

[DarkWinterNights]

I wasn’t aware that gay men waited until marriage…? Is that a thing?

[Anonymous]

So why does finding another man prioritize just leaving a relationship because it’s not giving what you want? Seriously, your logic for staying is mainly fear of not finding another virgin male, not because you’re deeply in love and ready to be married. You’ve got some real soul searching to do.

[California_Poppy]

Being married doesn't have to be very expensive though. If you guys are ready for marriage, can you do a basic ring and go down to the courthouse/county clerk?