How do girls get a serious relationship & boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’ll be 26 soon and I never had a serious relationship. When I was young all guys I liked didn’t like me back. I never had a boyfriend in highschool.
I met one guy at my job when I was 18 and I had my first kiss with him but we never dated until I was 23 to now 25. But we never met family , I never had guy come to my family parties, never spent holidays with a guy, nothing.
I now left that guy as he wants freedom travel alone til he’s old age. No baby.
And in that moment I also began have a crush on a guy at my job.
I’ve never met a guy that I liked more than my boyfriend and this is the guy.

I still haven’t been able to talk to him & be his friend as I can’t work near him daily at the job as the job has a lot of schedules and people you don’t work daily next to same people.

anyways I don't know yet the future holds for me and that crush but point being , I feel sad why girls have a boyfriend shopping with her at the market and I’m only girl alone?

im Not ugly and no one wants to keep me make me taken woman. Why those girls deserve shop at market live with boyfriend and meet family and I don’t?

im confident tho the next guy will for sure be a guy that wants meet family n everything as that’s what I want or else he can’t be with me at all.

but no guy I like back appears to ask to be my boyfriend , nothing, I don't know when my time will come to have a boyfriend finally.

[OddBeMe]

It’s less to do about physicality and more about being approachable. I would guess you’re like me, shy which makes others intimidated to greet you.

What helped me open the best was networking events and things like Toastmasters. Public speaking and meeting people is like exercise,

[rukus88]

Men are walking away from relationships post femenism, its just not worth it. and marriage is completely destroyed.

[Nikki1989]

I have never looked for relationships, they just come to me.

[Asker]

I never had relationships come to me lol NEVER

[Asker]

15-26 I never had 100 relationships never had any relationships come to me

[Asker]

Must be nice have relationships come to u anytime u want 🙄🙄🙄

[rukus88]

There is a huge diff. between a genuine relationship and a guy pretending so he can get laid for a while. I would say any relationship that lasted less that 18 mo. had a similar issue. It is a lie that every person you match with on dating apps or approaches you or asks you out wants a relationship, the overwhelming majority want sex. and then there is the guys that just settle for a little bit before they remember their worth. post nut clarity is real.

[boggboss]

So what are u actually doing to get with this guy ir to date any guy

[Asker]

I don't know how girls get bfs. One just said men come to her always magically x

[Asker]

I had a guy friend classmate wen I was 17 and I crushed on him
And wen he found out I liked him he stop talking to me and ran away from. me.

Highscool senior year my crush didn’t have any classes with me but I still found way to approach him and I found out he talked shit of me didn’t like me back said I was weird and ugly

[boggboss]

So if all u are doing is waiting for guys to approach u then all u can do is wait yes many guys approach women but the rate of guys approching women compared to how many women are out their means their I s a chance it won't just happen for u

[Asker]

Then that guy I met when I was 18 like I said I don't know if u read the story I have long time him pursuing me but we broke up now cuz he wan the free travel alone til he’s old no partner no baby.

[Asker]

Now the new crush I haven’t been able see him at work im waiting to see him work near him to be able try talk n be his friend , the rest will be up to him and my destiny what happens if he flirts in future n wants be my boyfriend I don't know.

[boggboss]

Sounds like u have constantly shown intreast in guys that where nit intrested in you

[Asker]

I do hav one other guy at work trying to talk to me I think he has a crush on me but he looks like ugly version of my boyfriend. I just broke up with him I don’t want a new boyfriend that looks like old boyfriend n uglier version LOL I want new life new guy

[Asker]

Don’t like him
Back.

[Asker]

N that’s it I don’t have 100 men chasing me drooling begging to be my boyfriend NO lol

[boggboss]

Why would u have 100 men doing so lol

[Asker]

I’m trying be new crushes firend cuz I hear guy friends eventually become ur boyfriend?

[boggboss]

Lol good luck with that I guess

[Asker]

Well if guys don’t like me then no guy wants to be my boyfriend so I’m meant to never have a boyfriend?

I’ve been waiting 8 years no guys has ever approached me to be their girlfriend

[Asker]

I’m scared pursue men cuz then I’ll continue be rejected by all guys my whole life til I’m old.

Since men don’t like me I shud be alone forverr no baby no partner never? If men don’t like me?

[Asker]

Im confused u never told me how to get a serious relationship

[boggboss]

U are the 1 saying men don't like u I stated u have attracted men that seem not to like u that's a different thing and no trying to pursue a relationship via flirting is better then just hoping a guy u are also attracted to makes a move on you

[boggboss]

Their is no perfect way to get a serious relationship as it requires u to find someone that also wants that what I did know is if u don't do somthing on your side to attract a guy then all u can do is wait and hope a guy makes a move on you

[Asker]

Is it ok for me try be friends with crush at job? All girls at my job have guy friends it’s a normal thing at my job.

[boggboss]

Yes that's fine

[Asker]

We’ll it’s hard find a guy that likes ME back that’s the main issue I guess I’m
Ugly. 😞

[Asker]

My brothers wife’s sister also only had one boyfriend at 18 but since then she neevr had a boyfriend til she was 28 now she’s getting married. But whole 20s no boyfriend zero

[boggboss]

U don't know if your ugly or not but like I said if ur method of finding a boyfriend is waiting for the guy to make a move on you your not really looking for a boyfriend

[Asker]

But isn’t trying be my crushes friend making a move to find a boyfriend?

[Asker]

Also I’m traumatized I have trauma since I was young guys I approached rejected me so I no longer have confidence approach men. I get rejection my whole life

[Asker]

Pm me so I send u pic of me

[boggboss]

No i wouldn't say that is no

[boggboss]

How can I pm u your anon

[Asker]

I think being his friend is good move. Girls can’t ask men if he want be her boyfriend lol

[Asker]

I tried follow u but it said u have me blocked?

[boggboss]

I have nobody blocked lol are u sure u don't have me blocked

[boggboss]

And no thats not true many women show intrest in a guy directly and let him know they are intrested in him

[Asker]

Please I cannot just tell crush that doesn’t know me for him be my boyfriend. All men have ejected me my entire life u really think I’m Guna ask men to be my boyfriend?, NO the smart thing do is be friends with my crush PERIOD.

[Asker]

I FOLLOERD U FOLLOW ME BACK TO PM U

[boggboss]

Lol yes u be friends with hum and hope he wants more like I said good luck

[NotInterestedSorry]

@asker if you have a boyfriend why are looking for another one?

[Asker]

@NotInterestedSorry i don’t have a boyfriend I broke up with him cuz he said he wants be free til he’s old age no kids nothing just travel be free no marriage no partner

[Anonymous]

A woman doesn't need to know where to learn how to date because she doesn't have to be the one to pursue or attract a guy