My boyfriend is not talking me because I got SA’d?

[Anonymous]

I went to a concert with my girlfriends yesterday and a man was touching my ass all along the concert. I tried to move away but the whole situation was awkward cause he was with his girlfriend and i didn’t know what to do. I am very non confrontational too. I avoid confrontation as much as i could. I went home and i just wanted to tell my boyfriend about everything. I told him and he got angry he said how do you disappear and go to a concert for 8 hours and come back to tell me a man touched your ass and you didn’t do anything about it? I explained to him that I can’t confront people but he told me that i need to leave him because he is angry and come back later. So i apologized and i left him and went to sleep ☹️ i feel bad and I don't know how to apologize for making him sad but i learned my lesson id never tell him anything like this again☹️☹️ it was not my intention to make it seem like i didn’t care about this guy touching me

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you should’ve spoken up. I’m non confrontational as well and very quiet, but if some strange man thinks he can keep touching me without consent, that’s the moment to get very brave. Even if you were polite about it, I’m sure it would piss off his girlfriend and ultimately stopped that situation. Also, I agree that’s something you didn’t need to tell your boyfriend because what’s he supposed to do with that information? Not like he can confront the man and to hear that you just stood there and let it happen feels even worse. But like you said, lesson learned.

[Asker]

That’s exactly why I didn’t say anything though cause his girlfriend was there and its almost like a double confrontation. Yeah true I didn’t want him to do anything about it i just like to tell him everything that happened; but at some point oversharing is unnecessary, ruined our relationship for absolutely no reason…

[Opinion Owner]

Why would she confront you over something her boyfriend did? If that’s even her boyfriend, I had an afterthought that it’s possible they’re just friends, related, even just dating before the relationship. Anyway if you and your boyfriend are generally good then I doubt this will ruin your relationship, he’s just upset. Going forward, it’s ok not to tell your boyfriend every little thing.

[Asker]

I am quite sure they are dating cause they were making out the whole time. Nevertheless you are right too.

[Jazzy54]

Please learn to speak up. If someone is touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, let them know. Make a scene if you have to. Don’t allow someone to just take advantage of you like that. Your boyfriend is probably mad because he thinks you and that guy were fooling around.

[Billlewis]

Give him a couple of days and he'll probably be fine.