Why do I feel like it’s not okay to be short?

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’4 and I always notice that the majority of women require men to be 6ft or taller and I understand the reasons but why do I torture myself for it? All the time I look up questions about height, and why women prefer taller men. I’ve read so many threads about women’s opinions on tall guys and how wonderful they are and their opinions on shorter guys and “how they have no problem with them but I would never date them.” Some get a lot more derogatory but it’s not the issue. I already know the answers on why women prefer tall men yet i still do it. I hate myself for it. It’s like I’m not worthy of a girls love just because I stopped growing at a certain height. It seems like it doesn’t matter what kind of personality a guy that’s 6ft or up has he’s still attractive and girls will still fall for them just because of that one feature. 4 of my friends hit that 6ft mark, ones a huge sexiest. Ones really big on drugs and the other two are the cheating type players yet they have no problem with women they always have multiple choices.
But I a short guy have to be careful. If I’m assertive or in a bad mood Im automatically diagnosed with a napoleon complex. But if I’m not then I have an inferior complex it’s always a lose lose situation.

[TommyWiseau69]

Yeah i'm the same height. Blame it on society and the way women or even other people see short men. Its probably going to be near impossible for a 5'4 man to be looked as being attractive in the USA when you have literal midgets out there wanting to be dick height to a guy. I read something that said a 6'1 man was too short for a 5'1 woman, JFC. Short women are usually the biggest height nazis on this Earth, i'd avoid a lot of them. People get amazed by the thought and mention of a guy thats like 6'5 thinking he's attractive by just his height alone even if he looks like a creepy pedophile. We'll never really have things work in our favor dude, just have to get used to it. Its also a matter of time in the future that even average height men will be discriminated against, and its already happening.

[boggboss]

Women online might say this but no this is not somthing women in real life say as a whole mate

[Asker]

I don't know about that, the girl I have feelings for said it on Tuesday 😐

[boggboss]

OK so that girl likes taller guys this is not a requirement for most women

[boggboss]

Just by what u say I'm 5"8 and been with my girl for 6 years

[boggboss]

So clearly its not a true assessment

[TommyWiseau69]

Of course it's a requirement. Taller does not just mean simply taller in today's society. It means at least average height or above, tall men get more of the attention. Being 5'8 is a world of a difference than 5'4. You will never really understand what a 5'4 man will go through. As a 5'4 man myself, I have many good qualities myself but my height is a "block" to them. Shorter women than me don't view me as taller even though I am. Taller to them is guys your height and taller. In order for a 5'4 man to actually be seen as attractive he has to exert more effort than other men and more often than not it goes to waste.

I would say that a height of like 5'5 and under in the USA is extremely difficult for men to be seen as attractive. There might be some exceptions in this case but these men have to give it their all and exhaust themselves to be seen as adequate whereas other men don't have to.

[boggboss]

Funny u say that my older brother is 5"4 and sure he gets rejected by some women but he has no issue getting a girlfriend or getting laid what he lacks in hight he makes up in personality he is always the biggest presence in the room so yes I agree it might be harder but no its not impossible

[devilish-cutie]

you have false belif and personal insecurity. Noone is perfect, men may prefer women with big boos and asses but will still date flat ones. Hight is the same - just preference for MOST. Do you see short men dating? yes. So you see them getting ther girls? Yes. So you see the fact that you are short is not something you need to hate about ysf. Dating is hard in general, there will always be something someone won't like on you and diffrent people have different dealbreakers. If short men were no no for everyone they would extinct yet here they are still alive.

[BasedBaeBecca]

First off, everyone feels insecure about something at some point, so don't beat yourself up too much. You are worthy of love and affection, regardless of your height. There are plenty of people out there who don't care about height or actually prefer men on the shorter side. It's true that many women prefer tall men, but there are many other women who don't mind or even prefer shorter guys.

Try not to dwell on what you can't change, and instead focus on developing the traits and qualities that you can control. Confidence is key, no matter how tall you are.

[Nikki1989]

Men like you really need to get offline and step into the real world for a change. The whole “women only like tall men” crap is just something losers come up with as an excuse for their failures with women.

[balyai]

Hahah I agree

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry to say this but the reason your feeling that way is because it’s not ok to short for a man. Your literally the same height as the average girl. Some girls will lie to you and say height does not matter to them but the same type of girls will end up cheating on you for someone else so they can get that dominated feeling! You can not make a women feel feminine. She won’t feel safe when she’s out with you. Etc..


Ask @emyywolf she’ll tell you more!

[Darkrainbow]

No, for example, your height is perfectly okay for me. Not all women care too much about height

[MissBoogus]

Well, many women do like a guy at least 6foot. But everyone is different and it’s also true that many won’t care. Also, many women are below 5’4 and if they are looking just for someone taller you’ll be sufficient

[peedy]

Im sorry dude
I don't even know what to say to you I've never had that problem I was 6ft 1 inch in six grade when everyone else was still under 5 feet and have always been head and shoulders above everyone

[scouty]

Try and feel secure in your height, it’s like the height isn’t as much of an issue for women as your thoughts about your height.