So, my birthday is coming up soon and my fiancé asked me what I want to do to celebrate. I said I wanted to go shopping and a nice dinner cuz I never get to. I work two jobs and haven’t really bought anything for myself in a LONG time. Now that I’m making good money, I want to treat us.
I sent him two dinner place ideas and he said it’s up to me but he also added his opinion that he feels both are too expensive. It’s about $60-$70 a plate at both places. I told him I have no problem paying it, he doesn’t have to. Again, I want us to treat ourselves. I’ll be happy to pick up the tab. Still he said, “I’d just feel weird seeing you pay that much for dinner. But it’s up to you.”
I get he’s more of a frugal man, but I’ve already regretted having to be super modest on my birthdays my entire life. I have the money. It’s not even an issue for me. And I know there are a lot of women that would be “girl fuuuck what he thinks. This is YOUR DAY. Do what you want!”
Now, it’s frustrating that I’m going into an internal moral debate with myself over where to eat on my own birthday.
I sent him two dinner place ideas and he said it’s up to me but he also added his opinion that he feels both are too expensive. It’s about $60-$70 a plate at both places. I told him I have no problem paying it, he doesn’t have to. Again, I want us to treat ourselves. I’ll be happy to pick up the tab. Still he said, “I’d just feel weird seeing you pay that much for dinner. But it’s up to you.”
I get he’s more of a frugal man, but I’ve already regretted having to be super modest on my birthdays my entire life. I have the money. It’s not even an issue for me. And I know there are a lot of women that would be “girl fuuuck what he thinks. This is YOUR DAY. Do what you want!”
Now, it’s frustrating that I’m going into an internal moral debate with myself over where to eat on my own birthday.
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As a guy I completely agree with "girl fuuuck what he thinks. This is YOUR DAY. Do what you want!” it literally is your day to do whatever you want, if you want to treat yourself you should definitely do so, don't second guess yourself just because someone said it's too expensive, if your heart was set on it in the first place you should just go with it. I don't want to sound rude but if my girl wanted to go to a nice place for her birthday I would have no problem picking up the bill, kind of a weird move by your fiancé to not even offer to split the bill or even just pay the full thing on your special day. I mean at most its gonna be $150ish which I do admit is a lot, and unless he is under extremely tight financial circumstances I get it, but otherwise it just seems really odd to not pay for your S/Os birthday dinner when it's only $150.
Your fiance has already said "do what you want". I say Go For It. He'll probably end up appreciating the higher quality dinner.
How old will you be?