Break up with him or get him professional help?

[Anonymous]

I love my boyfriend but he is financially irresponsible. It drives me crazy he is good to me but the only issue is the finances. He never pays his bills on time. For example he owns his own company he made about 20k this month and instead of getting caught up on his bills. He went to Vegas twice plus bought new clothes and jewelry. He recently got kick out of his place because he did not not pay his rent. He has an office space he just leased and they are threatening to cancel his lease. What I don't understand is why not put you bill money to the side once you get paid and then splurge on the thing he likes to enjoy. It drives me crazy! I added him to my credit card and he maxed it out twice. Has he made any payments no He got 20k and I ended up paying off the balance because I didn't want this to affect my credit. I love him but I don't see this being resolve in our future. I don't to spend my life arguing about money. Would it be fucked up to leave now while he got us in this financial situation. He's homeless I'm trying to be there but I can't help someone who isn't helping themselves.

[Anonymous]

If you were married to him I would say get professional help. Allowing him access to your credit card is a big mistake, that is an honor that I believe should be reserved for a husband. Breaking up may be the best thing to do because unless he wants to change, he’s not going to change.

[LazerBean]

That's a fast dump for me.

[slatyb]

Break up with him unless you are prepared to support him and his spending habits. Here's not capable of being a partner in a relationship.

[DerekC321]

Leaving him might be the best option. Sounds like this might be gambling addiction or something.

[Asker]

I don't think it's a gambling problem I think it's poor money management issue. I get the feeling no one ever taught him how to take care of his responsibility correctly. He has always had money and now he isn't making what he use too so he feels he doesn't have to be on a budget. Most of his friends are well off. So he also feels like in my opinion he has to keep this rich man image. I rather have a roof over my head them to appear to look rich. It's annoying we fight about this constantly.

[DerekC321]

It's the kind of thing he needs to learn by himself. Believe me, when you're hard up, you learn how to save, because you have no choice.

[DerekC321]

Thanks for the MHO.