Girl said "she was turning her brain off" during a lunch date. Was she being rude?

[Anonymous]

A young woman I went on a date with said was "turning her brain of while we were on a lunch date". I found this to be pretty rude. Was she being rude or was she just comfortable letting me lead.

She was being rude.

She was just comfortable letting me lead.

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Edit: It was a Sunday afternoon, and she works Mon-Fri.

[ProbablyClueless]

Totally depends on what she was doing before the lunch. I once had a fantastic lunch date (it was a follow up from a dinner date a couple nights prior) where the girl said something like that, but she had just come out of a morning filled with meetings where she was running through detailed electrical engineering plans with clients and her bosses.

By the time she showed up for our lunch date, she was overloaded. So she needed to turn her brain off to relax and enjoy our time together.

[lightbulb27]

ya need to figure that out with her at that time, as it has context in the moment.

it can mean a lot of things. ideally, you'd make it humorous and fun in response. you are being too logical and factual...

[BlackBeauty90]

It isn't rude unless you're insecure & childish. So ARE you insecure & childish?

She was essentially saying that she's "shutting down" all other thoughts. So thoughts about work, thoughts about family, etc. so that she can focus on you.

It's a freaking compliment you dullard. It means she's GIVING YOU her UNDIVIDED attention.

[Alli39]

Nah, she was just trying to let loose a little and not overthink things. It's a neutral statement at worst, but possibly a compliment that she was trusting you enough to not be judgmental of her if she does choose to act a little more free and relaxed.

[AviatorTom]

Not at all. She's telling you that she's not going to (over) think the date, she's just going to enjoy it. That's a positive green flag.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think she means she is avoiding office brain acrobatics and allowing her heart and bodily digestion to lead her at the food table.

[19magic]

It simply means you don't want to have to think this turning your brain off. Being with someone and chatting about mutual interests isn't thinking it's something to enjoy and she finds you that good company that being around you is her and not thought out scenarios where she's planned out responces and reactions. Basically it's just her there, in the moment, with you.

[Rei13]

I wasn’t there and I don’t know her, but I basically took that comment as she wasn’t going to think about work etc and just enjoy the moment she was having you. Usually when someone says something like that it is because they want to relax. Don’t read so much into that and think that it is a negative towards you

[Mamaliv]

What was the conversion that lead to her saying that? It seems like a weird thing to say but maybe it’s something she says often and didn’t think about how you’d interpret it. Maybe she was turning her thoughts off so she could focus on the date? Women’s brains are constantly processing things 🤷🏻‍♀️

[exitseven]

It was a really rude thing to say. I would have excused myself to go to the bathroom and not returned. If she asked what happened I would tell her that my brain was turned off and I forgot about the date.

[Twincapersredmomma]

No, it means she’s not going to get in her head or over think or stress. It means she is relaxing and feels comfortable with you…
The exact opposite of what you think.

[spartan55]

Pretty poor choice of words on her part though.

[Twincapersredmomma]

@spartan55 we rarely manage to be who we want to be in life.
Definitely a poor way of saying it but honestly, that’s how it feels. Turning off your brain and just being

[spartan55]

She might as well said "I'm here for the free lunch"

[Miah05]

She was mentally drained, and wanted to enjoy a laid back conversation with you, that wasn't going to be draining. We all need a mental recharge, no matter the day or if we work.

[Bkpollard9]

Sounds like she was a little uncomfortable, or didn't know what to talk about or realized you weren't her type and politely was trying to say your not holding her undivided attention. To much is on her mind, she needs to turn it off for you. Sounds like you might of bored her. She wasn't hearing you, thinking of other stuff. Those are some possibilities...

[provokeesmokee]

Dude, everyone needs a break now and again.

She's comfy being relaxed around you. That's a good thing.

What's your problem?

[StarWarGirl]

Instead of asking us you could have asked her to clarify what does it means

[Asker]

It's too late for that, and she doesn't talk to me anymore. For a different reason though.

[AngryCarl2]

I think she was just being honest. Thinking is hard, particularly for girls.

[Andres77]

She might be a little autistic and was busy processing everything from her day. It was not rude at all. It was vulnerable honestly. Tread lightly.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

That's just as bad as being a starfish in bed which I don't think is a good thing.

[shades777]

means she's not interested and there to take your money and time

[RedInnocent68]

What does she do? Turning off stressful work to be with you sounds pretty good actually

[Asker]

It was a Sunday. She works Mon-Fri. She shouldn't have been tired from work.

[RedInnocent68]

Not always about being tired. Can’t focus on you or herself if she’s focused on something else. Could be family, friends, school, work. I once ruined a beautiful evening of drinks on the beach with a girl because being at the beach made me freak out about climate change. Must’ve been a turn on though, we still slept together after 😉😂

[Anonymous]

Maybe it was her way of saying she wanted to focus on having lunch with you.

[Staximus]

Nobody can accurately guess what she meant without you explaining the context in which it was said

[LiamJHayden]

She probably meant that her job is mentally taxing and she was turning it off to rest it. I doubt she meant it as an insult to you.

[Anonymous]

I do that too. She trust you and she let you lead

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Calling it racist just seems to be an excuse to date a minor

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Oh sry wrong question

[Anonymous]

Nah, women seldom use thier brain when it comes to the opposite gender anyways.

[Anonymous]

Need more context what did you both talk about before she said that

[Static_In_The_Attic]

You used you for a Foodie Call!

[OddBeMe]

Basically calling you a dumbass. Sorry.

[KrakenAttackin]

She probably doesn't have much to turn "on".

[Grovermint]

Extremely rude, I'd break off all ties.

[jeffend888]

I don't even know what that means.

[boobliker]

switching off work I think she ment