i want to know if their moves really do work on people. have you ever seen one?
Honestly, not even men like pick-me girls no matter how much men in the comments are defending them. And this is coming from someone who has been through a pick-me phase before and has worked a lot on herself to learn to do and be better than that. I get treated better since I stopped showing that kind of behavior and I got more confident in dating and actually have more fun dating since I stopped thinking about being a good girlfriend and started on focusing on being a good person first. I stopped caring if a guy likes me and started caring if I like the guy. Works wonders.
Quality men like women who are selective and not desperate. Men who value their women genuinely appreciate those who do not take other people's bullshit. Why would a man who respects himself and has a high self-esteem settle with a woman who treats him like a horny and stupid aged child?
A lot of feminist women I know in my personal life are actually married in their early 20's with their long-term partners (well because most girls I know from my peer circle are around my age). Many feminists I follow on social media have husbands and children. Pretty fulfilling and healthy ones too, obviously because they have higher standards and won't settle for being treated so poorly. Men will treat you better when you start showing them that you expect to be treated well. If you teach a man that he can walk all over you why would he waste his time and energy and resources to treat you any better? You are not going anywhere so he doesn't have to worry about it.
In contrast, a lot of women who post anti-feminist content are either single with very poor dating history (example: Hannah/just pearly things) or in very very miserable marriages. Think Megha Verma on Twitter whose husband follows onlyfans girls on Instagram and is on tour in Dubai while she is pregnant and tweeting about how men shouldn't change diapers, and Bethany in Girl Defined YouTube channel whose husband came forward confessing how much he is struggling with mental health. I don't wanna be in marriages like those!
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Pick me's are basically individuals who change or alter their personality, interest, etc. to appeal to the opposite sex.
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A woman might say she loves football, altho she doesn't just to appeal to males.
A man might say he is very interested in make or something like that, just to appeal more to females.
Nonetheless, both of them are bound to get disrespected as they're altering their true selves for external validation.
They often try to prove bad speculations about their gender don't apply to them and that they're different than that.
Both of them are extremely annoying.
that would depend on what/who falls under the definition of a "pick me"
I'd say the majority of men are "pick me guys" who have no spines of their own and only pander to women while throwing their fellow men under the bus
such men can't be trusted around other relationships because they are quick to poison them in order to try and steal the girl. does it work? for the most part, "pick me guys" aren't physically attractive enough to accomplish such a feat especially if the guy quite physically attractive himself
for "pick me girls" they are rarely encountered by most guys but there's a lot of them out there and they'll mostly simp and defend the worst guys out there mainly hot bad boys, thugs, criminals etc. even going as far as to send love letters and create petitions for their release from prison
All women seem like pick me girls anymore. I know some aren't, but I know most are. Either way on the surface they all look pretty similar. And since men are generally expected to do all the work. Dating for a guy is like Russian roulette. Women just don't get how little incentive there are for good men to do it anymore. Honestly it's pretty exhausting. At this point I just want to be happy. And while that doesn't mean single if that's the way it's got to be then that's the way it's got to be I guess.
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So hilarious seeing men on this post defending “pick me” culture, not realizing pick me girls go after highly desirable or financially well off men almost exclusively and will leave you for such a man. The “pick me’s” are the ones with the BBLS, the ones who tell men they wouldn’t date them unless they had money etc.
Pick me girls do not win in the end because their personalities aren’t based off of anything but lies and superficial pleasures. Their partners cheat and leave them because they know the pick me won’t leave. They know their pick me girlfriend won’t attack him if he cheats, she will attack the other woman. They know they can do whatever they want to the woman with no standards because she wants to be picked under any circumstances.
Unfaithful men love having this woman as their main partner while they do whatever they want on the side, so yes, they win, but only win at being the biggest clown in a relationship.
there's two types of pick me girls "
firs type are the ones who do boyish things when irl they like girly things , they just do that bc they think guys will like that (im not talking about girls who are ACTUALLY tomboys , those aren't pick me girls those just have a preference and a certain style)
second type are the ones who act in a superficial way and do "cute" cringey stuff and talk in a softer voice and try hard to be seen as feminine by acting like boyish stuff is gross or weird
I've seen a pick me in class and she was the second type. she was annoying for no reason and it was clear she wanted attention , most of the class knew that
I always saw a “pick me” as someone who was self centered and acted in a way that put other people down to bring themselves up/make themselves look better. If you have good qualities as a partner that is great, but you don’t have to try dragging someone else down to pull yourself up.
Pick me's get picked because unlike most women they are at least trying to offer men what they want unlike most modern women who offer nothing but their well-used holes, entitlement, and bad attitudes. The other women shame them because they are bitter, jealous, and petty.
"Pick me"s are basically the more desirable candidates than those, who label the "pick me"s as "pick me"s. Hence they are called "Pick me"s.
Therefore I would date the better candidates.
There are some that try to be more "relatable", for example, "I'm just one of the guys". But more often than not, the "pick me" thing is a slur towards women who have the 'wrong' politics. Much like liberal men are accused of being "white knights" and simps. Maybe people just have a certain worldview, and aren't trying to get laid by merely having a position.
Eh. I don't give them any different attention than I do anyone else. And I've never had a partner stolen.
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I have no idea what is...
but I am sure nobody ever "stole" someone from me, lol
they picked me... Turn off. Anyone with human value backs off when they see a couple together. I'd be happy for them not wanting to destroy what they have
I’m not quite sure I understand the definition of a “pick me”. I’ve heard it used for a wide variety of women.
first, need to know your definition of a "pick-me". i see a lot of people speaking the truth on something get accused of being a "pick-me" which, sorry to inform folks, does NOT make someone a 'pick-me".
You mean "side pieces" and "home wreckers"
They do sometimes win, but they always fall in the end. .
They've never stolen a partner from me. I don't think I've ever met a pick me that the opposite sex particularly liked.
I don't even know what that is
Do you mean they have another girlfriend or boyfriendi feel like it’s kind of sad. it stems rom insecurity and, at least with girls, internalized misogyny.
The whole "pick me" thing seems to come from resentful "boss babes" who don't like traditionally feminine women.
Only at my have i realised i had "best friends" being pick me... and no they never did i wasn't dating at the time of meeting the puck mes
Yes their moves might work on single desperate guys/girls
No but is was more mean girls that did Stealing you previous partner by make to temp to cheated on me and were successful.
I prefer the pick me type over the type that hates me for what is between my legs.
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