What do you think about pick me girls/boys? Did any of them succeed in stealing your partner?

[ventustalks]

i want to know if their moves really do work on people. have you ever seen one?

[CubsterShura]

Honestly, not even men like pick-me girls no matter how much men in the comments are defending them. And this is coming from someone who has been through a pick-me phase before and has worked a lot on herself to learn to do and be better than that. I get treated better since I stopped showing that kind of behavior and I got more confident in dating and actually have more fun dating since I stopped thinking about being a good girlfriend and started on focusing on being a good person first. I stopped caring if a guy likes me and started caring if I like the guy. Works wonders.

Quality men like women who are selective and not desperate. Men who value their women genuinely appreciate those who do not take other people's bullshit. Why would a man who respects himself and has a high self-esteem settle with a woman who treats him like a horny and stupid aged child?

A lot of feminist women I know in my personal life are actually married in their early 20's with their long-term partners (well because most girls I know from my peer circle are around my age). Many feminists I follow on social media have husbands and children. Pretty fulfilling and healthy ones too, obviously because they have higher standards and won't settle for being treated so poorly. Men will treat you better when you start showing them that you expect to be treated well. If you teach a man that he can walk all over you why would he waste his time and energy and resources to treat you any better? You are not going anywhere so he doesn't have to worry about it.

In contrast, a lot of women who post anti-feminist content are either single with very poor dating history (example: Hannah/just pearly things) or in very very miserable marriages. Think Megha Verma on Twitter whose husband follows onlyfans girls on Instagram and is on tour in Dubai while she is pregnant and tweeting about how men shouldn't change diapers, and Bethany in Girl Defined YouTube channel whose husband came forward confessing how much he is struggling with mental health. I don't wanna be in marriages like those!

[CubsterShura]

Oh and just to address that bit in your question, pick-mes are more likely to be cheated on than being the ones that steal other people's partners. I don't even believe in 'stealing' someone tbh. If my man flocks to another woman by just her batting her eyelashes then he simply was never meant to be mine to begin with. If anyone woman successfully 'steals' him, she can have him cuz I want no part of a cheater.

[cuteangelprincess]

Pick me's are basically individuals who change or alter their personality, interest, etc. to appeal to the opposite sex.
Exp.
A woman might say she loves football, altho she doesn't just to appeal to males.
A man might say he is very interested in make or something like that, just to appeal more to females.

Nonetheless, both of them are bound to get disrespected as they're altering their true selves for external validation.
They often try to prove bad speculations about their gender don't apply to them and that they're different than that.
Both of them are extremely annoying.

[inhua]

that would depend on what/who falls under the definition of a "pick me"

I'd say the majority of men are "pick me guys" who have no spines of their own and only pander to women while throwing their fellow men under the bus

such men can't be trusted around other relationships because they are quick to poison them in order to try and steal the girl. does it work? for the most part, "pick me guys" aren't physically attractive enough to accomplish such a feat especially if the guy quite physically attractive himself

for "pick me girls" they are rarely encountered by most guys but there's a lot of them out there and they'll mostly simp and defend the worst guys out there mainly hot bad boys, thugs, criminals etc. even going as far as to send love letters and create petitions for their release from prison

[Anonymous]

All women seem like pick me girls anymore. I know some aren't, but I know most are. Either way on the surface they all look pretty similar. And since men are generally expected to do all the work. Dating for a guy is like Russian roulette. Women just don't get how little incentive there are for good men to do it anymore. Honestly it's pretty exhausting. At this point I just want to be happy. And while that doesn't mean single if that's the way it's got to be then that's the way it's got to be I guess.

[noemiii]

So hilarious seeing men on this post defending “pick me” culture, not realizing pick me girls go after highly desirable or financially well off men almost exclusively and will leave you for such a man. The “pick me’s” are the ones with the BBLS, the ones who tell men they wouldn’t date them unless they had money etc.

Pick me girls do not win in the end because their personalities aren’t based off of anything but lies and superficial pleasures. Their partners cheat and leave them because they know the pick me won’t leave. They know their pick me girlfriend won’t attack him if he cheats, she will attack the other woman. They know they can do whatever they want to the woman with no standards because she wants to be picked under any circumstances.

Unfaithful men love having this woman as their main partner while they do whatever they want on the side, so yes, they win, but only win at being the biggest clown in a relationship.

[Mewzinc]

This is exactly Melania Trump.

[Reem12345reem]

there's two types of pick me girls "

firs type are the ones who do boyish things when irl they like girly things , they just do that bc they think guys will like that (im not talking about girls who are ACTUALLY tomboys , those aren't pick me girls those just have a preference and a certain style)

second type are the ones who act in a superficial way and do "cute" cringey stuff and talk in a softer voice and try hard to be seen as feminine by acting like boyish stuff is gross or weird

I've seen a pick me in class and she was the second type. she was annoying for no reason and it was clear she wanted attention , most of the class knew that

[Rei13]

I always saw a “pick me” as someone who was self centered and acted in a way that put other people down to bring themselves up/make themselves look better. If you have good qualities as a partner that is great, but you don’t have to try dragging someone else down to pull yourself up.

[DextroShade]

Pick me's get picked because unlike most women they are at least trying to offer men what they want unlike most modern women who offer nothing but their well-used holes, entitlement, and bad attitudes. The other women shame them because they are bitter, jealous, and petty.

[tiajoka]

You like your women to be disingenuous and fake? Well maybe she doesn't wear makeup but there's gonna be nothing to hide her true personality after a year or two

[DextroShade]

@tiajoka that's why men need to vet women before they take them seriously. If she's faking it will become obvious after a short time.

[tiajoka]

Well… that IS what a pick me is 🤣 someone faking certain things for approval or attention

[DextroShade]

@tiajoka they can only fake it for so long, after a few months the mask will slip and she will reveal who she truly is.

[tiajoka]

Wow thank you for explaining what I originally said, i hadn’t thought of that before.

[MzAsh]

It didn’t get me picked. What did was giving value to a man who I like, learn to care for, and who earns my respect through effort, cooperation, and loyalty, while not negotiating my boundaries.

[Unit1]

"Pick me"s are basically the more desirable candidates than those, who label the "pick me"s as "pick me"s. Hence they are called "Pick me"s.

Therefore I would date the better candidates.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Haha well said!

[Unit1]

@BoopBoopBeep Glad to hear that bro!

[Juxtapose]

I love how triggered these women are getting over this xD

[Unit1]

@Juxtapose Woah! The competition is real but unfortunately for us (or maybe fortunately?) we ain't in their scopes 😬

[Juxtapose]

I already have a pretty girlfriend right now.

[Unit1]

@Juxtapose And you have something like autism if i remember? Damn. I have no girlfriend still. WTF

[Juxtapose]

For me getting a girl isn't the problem, it's getting one that will be good long-term. If you're not picky you can pick up a girl within a week or two if you reach out enough.

[Juxtapose]

But yeah I have autism and have dated multiple people and I've had sex with multiple people. I should sure hope so at my age.

[Unit1]

@Juxtapose What do you do to find a girlfriend?

[Juxtapose]

Aggressively expand your casual social circle and sign up for a dating app and use it a few hours a day or spend a few hours a day trying to meet new people in bars and whatnot.

[Juxtapose]

Usually I meet people by happenstance but it never happens if I don't put myself out there.

[xKayTea]

Then you're misunderstanding what a 'pick me' is, I grew up online often around a lot of guys because girls gaming wasn't so popular then, however amongst the girls that did, quite a few were 'pick mes' they would put on fake voices for the guys in call, and absolute lather themselves up in all the male validation and attention they got,

They usually would date around the friend group, and the sole purpose of being agreeable for them was because of the attention they recieved, and outside of that friend group would act completely different IRL,

I'm not sure if there are other 'variations' but I can promise this is my experience and not biased, but genuinely what a lot of online pick mes are like, when it comes to the gaming community, as they know they're a rarity, being a woman who games, and take advantage of that, for digital skins, attention, manipulation etc.

[xKayTea]

Urban dictionary: A person who begs for the attention, acceptance and approval of a certain group in different things they say. In most case, it's to attain the attention, acceptance and approval of the opposite sex.

[xKayTea]

by the way not replying in an offensive way, but just thought your reply with what these type of 'pick mes' are talking about, as you mentioned they're desirable candidates, but by the definition and online pick mes I've met, they're what men do not like at all, as they just seek male validation, and go around male friend groups doing things for validation, usually aren't loyal as they can get validation from wherever,

I hope my reply didn't come off in a nasty way, which it may of lol, I hope this makes sense I don't know?

[Unit1]

@xKayTea We have a term for that and it's called attention whore. As for the freeloaders online, well, I can't say much about it other than that OnlyFans is here to stay and I'm not oblivious to it. My stance about "pick me"s remains unchanged.

Lay off from Urban Dictionary. It is a lexicon from degenerates for degenerates.

[Unit1]

@xKayTea No it's all good. The respect is mutual. Hard to detect it online tho.

[xKayTea]

'Pick Me's' is a more new term, that I think is still very important to understanding, as they are not just the same as attention whores, and a lot harder for men to detect, they usually make themselves sound honourable by saying 'I would never sell my body, im not a whore' etc, they also love to say things like 'I love cars unlike most girls', they have a narrative of putting down other women, and hyping themselves up, ONLY to men,

This doesn't quite fit with just the word 'attention whores' or 'free loaders', as they don't sell themselves, instead they lap up the attention from men, by the false narrative they've given them, and constantly want special treatment for being 'different' (usually just because they play videogames or watch anime lol.).

In the end it's a way more manipulative type of person, and they first come across as very honourable and relateable etc, which is why the term 'Pick me's' was created, because they are not your obvious attention whores that dance about on tiktok in lingerie and have an OF,

I hope this has helped a bit, I might make a MyTake on it because I see a lot of misunderstanding in the comments, and they're different in many ways,

thanks for replying!!

[Unit1]

@xKayTea No problem. In any case i refer to these types as "manipulative attention whores" as the most accurate term.
You see the point I'm making with "pick me"s is the same as men being called "simp" for simple things like being kind to women.

[xKayTea]

'Pick Me's and 'Simps' are very different, Pick me's are not nice to men out of caring, but to gather multiple mens attention, and validation, they use men for their validation and attention needs, and also spend most their time putting down other women in order to portray they are not like them,

This is why new terms are created because it's quite different to what a classic 'attention whore' would be, someone who is simply nice is not a simp in my opinion, or a pick me, just nice people, whereas a simp is someone who gets walked over and used for womens validation, and a pick me is someone who walks over men without them realising it, for validation, they are very good at what they do,

Because they always start off with things like 'I hate feminists lol i could never be one', and 'Onlyfan girls are suuuuch whores i could never do that teehee' etc, this leads the man into thinking the woman is different, when in reality she doesn't give a shit about hating feminists or OF women, she is saying it because she knows it will get her brownie points and men worshipping her for being 'different'.

[Unit1]

@xKayTea yeah, i get what you were saying. Here is a little insight from me. No matter what you do or who you are someone somewhere will find a way to call you any internet slangs from the urban dictionary with the intention of making you seem like a loser.
I choose willful ignorance and i'm happy this way. They can call me Anything from the urban dictionary not knowing what it means and i'm living life stress free.

[xKayTea]

Okay! It's just that you already use urban dictionary terms such as 'simp' which reals meaning is not the same as the one we use it for, new phrases pop up all the time, like simp, incel etc it's not always a bad thing, just a new descriptive :)

[ericclayton]

There are some that try to be more "relatable", for example, "I'm just one of the guys". But more often than not, the "pick me" thing is a slur towards women who have the 'wrong' politics. Much like liberal men are accused of being "white knights" and simps. Maybe people just have a certain worldview, and aren't trying to get laid by merely having a position.

[SnowedIn]

Eh. I don't give them any different attention than I do anyone else. And I've never had a partner stolen.

[NathanDavis]

I have no idea what is...

but I am sure nobody ever "stole" someone from me, lol

they picked me...

[Spongebobssocks]

Turn off. Anyone with human value backs off when they see a couple together. I'd be happy for them not wanting to destroy what they have

[ventustalks]

Same. These pick me people really do annoy me

[Spongebobssocks]

Yup! They suck

[DarkWinterNights]

I’m not quite sure I understand the definition of a “pick me”. I’ve heard it used for a wide variety of women.

[ventustalks]

Urban dictionary: A person who begs for the attention, acceptance and approval of a certain group in different things they say. In most case, it's to attain the attention, acceptance and approval of the opposite sex.

[magiusX26]

first, need to know your definition of a "pick-me". i see a lot of people speaking the truth on something get accused of being a "pick-me" which, sorry to inform folks, does NOT make someone a 'pick-me".

[jshm2]

You mean "side pieces" and "home wreckers"

They do sometimes win, but they always fall in the end. .

[ProbablyClueless]

They've never stolen a partner from me. I don't think I've ever met a pick me that the opposite sex particularly liked.

[ohsheeT]

I don't even know what that is

Do you mean they have another girlfriend or boyfriend

[gothbxtch]

i feel like it’s kind of sad. it stems rom insecurity and, at least with girls, internalized misogyny.

[Juxtapose]

The whole "pick me" thing seems to come from resentful "boss babes" who don't like traditionally feminine women.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Only at my have i realised i had "best friends" being pick me... and no they never did i wasn't dating at the time of meeting the puck mes

[Anonymous]

Yes their moves might work on single desperate guys/girls

[ventustalks]

I'm sad for these people

[SeaStorm1]

No but is was more mean girls that did Stealing you previous partner by make to temp to cheated on me and were successful.

[Anonymous]

I prefer the pick me type over the type that hates me for what is between my legs.

[MementoMori777]

You mean like thirst traps and shit?

[ventustalks]

Not like that. Pick me's are the ones who crave attention from the opposite sex by doing literally anything. For example one can insult other people around the one they want because they want to "glow". Stuff like that

[MementoMori777]

So attention seekers? I think it's toxic tbh

[Nikki1989]

I am not sure what that even means.

[Lokiion]

Nah every pick me is super annoying