How do you feel when you hear your ex is dating someone far less attractive and successful than you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Do you imagine that she probably has such an ego boost to know she f*cks a man you really loved and wanted?

Seems like my ex dates someone and he is maybe 100 times more attractive than that girl, that girl tries really hard to impress his parents. But his parents aren’t willing to meet her.

She came to their house twice and they didn’t let her in. I know that’s cruel… And I told them to please accept her.

She still keeps trying and sends his mom letters all the time. Even though she doesn’t answer. It surprises me, Things some girls will do for a handsome man… She tries so hard to keep him…

Updates

8 mo

I expressed my momentarily frustration upon hearing the news from his mom. Who is messaging me Non-Stop and doesn’t seem to get a message that I don’t want to talk about him. (I told her directly, to please not mention him… I don’t respond her sometimes when she mentions him, but reading those messages from her does occasionally mess up my emotions shortly)

I think I need to set the boundaries with her.

My ex is fine. I am dating someone I like too.

Updates

8 mo

All my questions about my ex are posted after receiving a message from his mom. She constantly messages me. It’s emotionally exhausting. So, it messes up my emotions big time and I am afraid, I will have to finally set a boundary with her. Not sure how but I have to do it. Especially after knowing that she was the reason behind the break up. I have every rights to never respond her again.

[lightbulb27]

That's all very superficial overlayed with emotional junk. If look at some well known billionaires, their spouses aren't necessarily the most hot looking.

I'd be thinking about personalities. It is quite possible after dating someone very attractive but it fails and they suffered, they go the other direction... less attractive and different personality makeup, to avoid the pain.

depends of course...

[Friendlybro79]

I don't care what my ex does period and I think it's immature and insecure to compare your looks to her and level of success.

What's success? Think about it. How you measure success has no bearing on how someone else measures it. A successful life will mean different things to different people.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t care either. I just expressed momentarily frustration followed after his mom’s very detailed message. Now I warned her that she has to stop talking to me about that because I don’t want to spend any time thinking about that and it doesn’t feel good to me. She said she understood and will not message me about that again.

[Friendlybro79]

I can't say how you really feel because I'm not you. That said, for someone who says they don't care about their ex, he comes up in many questions. Her mom harassing you is in your control to stop and you choose not to. I do believe it's immature to measure your beauty to someone else's or your ex's beauty to his current girlfriend. It's also very hard to believe you don't care when you're bringing this up. Someone who doesn't care doesn't get frustrated by this. Again, only you know what you're feeling, but it appears that you're not being truly honest with yourself based on your posts. That's how you come off in my opinion. That doesn't mean I'm right.

I do wish you well because I want everyone to be well. I really think you gotta look inside and ask yourself are you over your ex? If you think you are then why can't you get over her mom by cutting ties?

Also think about how much you value looks. What are you going to do when that fades? I say this because we need to find more meaning then looks and what we gauge as successful in others as only good traits to find in a person. It again seems this is all you talk about.

[petitedollbabee]

I really wouldn’t give a damn. Nor would I care if they dated someone more successful. They’re an ex, and I’m in a long term & healthy relationship, so I’m not keeping tabs on ex’s or obsessing over who they’re dating.

[Spongebobssocks]

Men usually dont care about a woman's money/career and beauty is subjective. If he is your ex its probblaby best to just move on.

[AviatorTom]

It's my ex's choice what she does, who she dates, who she has sex with. I don't care... that's what "ex" means.

[Emilianorodríguez]

Was your ex an Australopithecus by any chance?

[ArrowheadSW]

The lady who I was dating when I turned 40, later on dated and married a guy like that. She and I had a great time dating and I really liked her but I had to move with my job and she wanted to get married and have a kid or two. I was not on the same page as that. So it was not for "bad reasons" that we split up. She did end up with a guy who had issues but was more marriage oriented than me. That's OK. I wasn't bothered by it.

[CALIGVLA]

Fortunately, I have never been through a humiliation like that. It would be embarrassing.

All my exes managed to find guys in the same league as me or better, and this makes me proud of them. I don't have a beef with them, I want them to be happy and I'm glad to see how they're doing well in life.

[slatyb]

After divorcing, I move on, and paid as little attention to my ex as possible. A few years later I met a woman who was acquainted with my ex. She said "Your the ex? All she talks about is you." Living well is the best revenge.

[dragoblack]

Bigger question is... why are you obsessing about your Ex. He's your Ex for a reason! Move on, he's not yours anymore, he's an adult, you're an adult, you both have your own lives, and you can both date who you want without being the eyes over each others shoulders.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You are right. I got a message from his mom and impulsively posted a question. That I am, impulsive. Thankfully I don’t act on if, I just post a question and forget it.

[ChiTown33]

Women's selection process and what they find attractive has never really made any sense to me. So while I think it's natural to view them as being less attractive. That doesn't necessarily make it so to that person. One woman I used to know rejected me for a guy who always smelled. And I don't mean just a little bit. It's hard not to take that personal😂

[Fireguy17]

It doesn't matter, hense the term ex.

She is free to date whomever she wants, as I am.

As long as we are both happy that is all that is important.

It means she has moved on so she isn't bothering me anymore.

[provokeesmokee]

I don't pay attention to my exes. If they're dating someone, cool, I hope they're happy. I don't care beyond that.

[ProbablyClueless]

Don't really care... I wish all of my exes the best in life though, so hopefully she is happy in her relationship with the guy.

[Anemone978]

I wouldn't care it is kind of like.. Meh.. good for him..

[Bricealan]

I don't care about that as long as he has a smaller penis!!!

[astrophelle]

You're crazier than that girl since you still stalk him and care him too much to ask here

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t stalk him, I ignored his mom for 3-4 days and she has been messaging me non-stop. I am dating someone else and don’t really want to hear about him.

[astrophelle]

Are you asking dozens of people here about him because you don't want to hear about him?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am asking whenever his mom messages, it affects me emotionally, because I don’t want to think of him and everytime she reminds me I feel bad for a moment or for 15 minutes and so. I express my momentary frustration and emotions here, I can’t make myself to block his mom, or tell her to stop talking to me. I asked her a few times to not mention him because it causes my thoughts to renew and I do hurt a bit more.

She still does the same.

And I don’t think she means bad. She just grew to like me I guess. But yeah, it messes up with my emotions every-time she mentions him and I express it here.

I don’t talk to my ex, he called me 1 month ago and I told him I am very happy with my life. He apologized me for everything and that was all.

To be honest, it’s his mom’s messages that reminds me of him, I am at a good place in my life and wouldn’t really go out of my way to stalk him.

I am sure it sounds like I am a weirdo.

Which I understand, because I post here when I am emotional due to those messages.

I really want his mom to stop messaging me. It messes up with my emotions big time. And I reply as late as possible. But she is very nice to me mostly and don’t know how to bring it up without hurting her.

[Luopio27]

A date police is not a career, its an unethical path.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I live my life, his mom updates me on everything

[exitseven]

I never really knew who any of my exes ended up with

[Drumlin2001]

Couldn't give two *****. An ex is an ex for a reason. I move on.

[Drumlin2001]

Why are you still talking to ex's mum? Just block her

[Emilianorodríguez]

You are not attractive, therefore, I doubt that the woman you are referring to is 100 times less attractive than you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

100 times less attractive than him. You can’t read obviously

[genericname85]

i try not to waste my time thinking about the life of an ex.

[gothbxtch]

it isn’t healthy for you or good for your well being to worry aboyt that

[Anonymous]

Showing success is personal choice...
I act like i don't have money for buying bread until they know I own the bakery..

It's a rebound relationship...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

They’ve been together for like 10 months.

[Opinion Owner]

Than wish them good luck n move on...
There is life beyond old old memories & ex.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

If you want to kill the love, marry her.

I hope they’ll get married. And I hope he will remember me forever.

I am not wishing them anything. I am not going to wish them what I wanted to have with him.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh my...
Girl you still love him n miss him. Such loving heart you have.

[Opinion Owner]

But you said his parents don't want you both get Marry...

Than why his mom talking to you? So much twist..

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Because his mom was in touch with me and helped me out to settle here in China, with a demand of my ex, who asked his parents to take care of me. She started liking me in the end, after we broke up and told me she regrets what she has done and she doesn’t deserve my kindness.

[sheikalana]

I don't care.