If a man asks a single mother on a date, should he offer to pay for the babysitting costs?

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes, a man should pay for a single mothers baby sitting costs when he takes her on a date.

No, a man should not pay for baby sitting costs when he takes a single mother on a date.

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[WiccanLady2023]

Why?

She was the one who decided to have kids with some douchebag / loser. I mean statistically single mothers are predominantly low educated and/or on welfare. Yes there's the divorced and the widows but they are far, far less common than tramps.

Besides if you're paying for her kids then you're just another source of income for her to leech off of and so she contributes no real value to your life except cheap sex.

[Rei13]

If he wants to sure but I don’t see any obligation that he should or would have to. The child (ren) are the mother’s responsibility in that situation and it is on her to find someone to babysit. If she is lucky she has people in her life that will do it for free otherwise it is on her to pay for it.

[ohsheeT]

Well if there's a girl that I like that has kids and I really want to go out with her I'm going to cover those costs it's not that big of a deal that way she doesn't have to worry we both get a night out to have fun it just makes life a lot easier for everybody

[Drewtate]

No yiu don't offer but of she's hot and you are 80% sure you are going to get your dick wet you pay if required

[Honeysuckle12345]

Hire an escort idiot, you'd get more value for money than some leftover whore

[Anemone978]

@Honeysuckle12345 LOL you think escorts don't have kids? And are way over priced..

[Honeysuckle12345]

@Anemone978 ROFL 🤣 😂 😆 where sweetie did I say they didn't? My point was you want to waste money 💰 on some cheap slut with 2-3 bastards spend a bit more and have a great time. Not yesterday's leftovers

[KrakenAttackin]

@Honeysuckle12345 "Leftover whore"... is pretty much how men think of single mothers.

[Anemone978]

@Honeysuckle12345 Do not call me sweetie.. but escorts aren't worth it you act like they are great at sex or something.. my sisters friend was an escort nothing special just a skinny whore who had a kid at 18 lol Paying for a single mom plus kids is still probably cheaper than a bitch double the price and fucked half the city xD

[Anemone978]

That is what she is calling the single mom lol

[Honeysuckle12345]

@Anemone978 oh get over yourself you ignorant shrew. Is that better? Sweetie is a term used in the southern states, it's actually considered a sort of endeavorment, and it's stupid bitches like you who ruin it. Like much a lot of things you ruin 😒 in America.

And you're missing the point. Escorts are NOT prostitutes in the same sense of some cheap whore like that single mother. Google is your friend trying educating yourself. Escorts are expensive because they are talented... your friend was just a cheap prostitute

[Anemone978]

@Honeysuckle12345 I don't like southerners.. and I don't like to be called that by a dumb cunt such as yourself.

Yes... She was an escort... they are not supposed to sleep with the clients but they do... She was paid good some old man even paid for her to go to college. LMAO you think they care how good a bitch is? They just fuck it ain't a talent... I don't need google I have connections with the real world and people unlike you.. CLOWN.

[Honeysuckle12345]

@Anemone978 bitch my cousin owns strip club and escorts, all your friend was was a whore. Because real escorts wouldn't be so stupid ass to tell her slut friend about it. They do that and they get into shit like a good little bitch.

By the way stupid that's a sugar daddy/ sugar girl arrangement not an escort. Escorts, real escorts, don't get that opportunity and many of them don't need it when they have to be paid more as an escort then even working a nine to five job.

Come back when you actually know something about reality. Until then you're a freaking joke

[Anemone978]

@Honeysuckle12345 Yeah okay woman.. You are just a liar trying to act big.. You actually don't know shit.. Escorts are supposed to escort men places (AKA be beautiful arm candy at parties and events) their job is not to fuck them! That is if you actually knew anything... You do also know there are different business and wages I never said she was getting paid huge amounts lol, She just made a couple grand each client... Also she wasn't my friend she was my sisters friend they were 20 and I was 16 and I used to babysit her kid.. She told my sister because she wanted my sister to do it too and my sister would tell me shit when we would go home.

Dumb ass he was a regular client he paid to see her still and he paid for her school because he didn't want her to do that job.. he was just a lonely old man.. It was through her work the school money was just a perk he gave her as a "friend" if he was a sugar daddy it wouldn't of been through her job LOL

Come back when you actually know anything you dick..

[Honeysuckle12345]

@Anemone978 I am laughing at you

[Anemone978]

@Honeysuckle12345 That's nice.. :P

[monorprise]

@Anemone978 Do you dislike Southern women because you Canadian can't compete with their charm? When @Honeysuckle12345 Says sweetie she really was being very nice to you, demonstrating she has value, and values you as well.

Vulgar northerners better be twice as hot if they want to compete with such a classy woman.

[Honeysuckle12345]

@monorprise Northerners don't get it, it's like Northern Europeans they're born to be rude, ignorant and standoffish. Personally I've always viewed it as a reflection of their cold heartless country

[Anemone978]

@monorprise No I don't like southerners because you are some of the meanest people being cruel to the blacks for no reason and the women were the worst, a lot of racism is deep seeded in you people... Also when someone is arguing with you and calls you sweetie, it isn't a sweet way they are calling you, they are acting as though they are better then you calling you like that as though you are a child. So no I don't give any care for that type of hillbilly "charm"...

LOL I am not competing.. because their is nothing to compete against.. but keep being a white knight for women who would never give you the time of day..

[Anemone978]

*there

[monorprise]

@Anemone978 You clearly don't know too many Southerners. Modern Southerns don't hold a candle to Northern/Eastern Canadians (basically the same thing) in terms of racism.

When someone calls you sweetie it does not mean they think they are better than you, when you react like that you are with hostility making it clear they are better than you. Indeed what you just tell me really just puts you in a typical northern spite for Southern people.
This is why Southern and Northern have not been friends for nearly 200 years. Northers regard and treat southerns like 2nd class crap with endless stereotyping.

It really comes from snobby new England Elitist culture, who fear southern power. Well The South is rising again and thanks to REAL northern stupidity will eclipse the north in economic and political might.

[Anemone978]

@monorprise When someone is arguing and putting you down yes.. that is how they are using it, I have had arguments with people in my own city who use that shit and yes they use the word condescendingly... Even if she wasn't using it that way I don't like to be called nicknames by people I don't know. And considering I don't live in America of course I don't know southerners but the ones I have talked to on here have completely put me off of ever wanting to know them. And if you didn't know I am part of the french since I am Canadian so.. I don't really care about Americans period.. and you guys have nothing to do with us.. so have fun rising and getting defeated by your own people again LOL

[monorprise]

@Anemone978 French Americans can be kind and agreeable too, go to Louisiana and meet an Cajun.

As for inventiveness of Canadians I don't see it, I hear Canadians particular on the left like to pretend their distinct, but really they are just pushing their particular ideological and regional views which are little to no different than their neighbors south of the 49th.

So there is no reason you can't act like a lady, if Cajun can do it soo can you.

[Anemone978]

@monorprise I don't get why you are even talking to me for.. this was between me and honeysuckle.. I honestly don't care about you or anyone else for that matter.. and if someone wants to come reprimand me for arguing with a fake ass pink account.. at least come up with something better than saying she is a lady.. when she clearly isn't... where in anything that she has said did it indicate she was a proper lady?

[monorprise]

@Anemone978 I have pointed out your ignorance of Southern charm and stereotyping, and your negative attitude which clearly goes far beyond cultural hostility that your mother failed teach you better.
Thus establishing if there were any doubt that Honeysuckle12345 was in fact telling you the truth consistent with widely understood and accepted cultural believes.

Now here you make it more and more clear how vulgar and unkind you can be towards others who did in fact show you kindness.

If i were to reprimand you it would be for this unladylike behavior not your ignorance

[Anemone978]

@monorprise So basically telling me a bunch of crap about the south that has nothing to do with the topic at hand.. insulting my mother... ass kissing a dumb lying clown.. when I have not insulted you.. it makes me believe you are most likely a fake account made by the same person to seem as though you have anything worthy to say when you clearly do not...

Go choke on a bag a dicks.. my behaviour has nothing to do with you.. worry about your own behaviour before you tell me anything..

[monorprise]

@Anemone978 It is not I who have insulted your mother but your actions which are unbecoming of lady.

You can beleive whatever crazy conspiracy theory you like about me, I can't speak for honeysuckle.
As a foul mouth Canadian your opinions as disconnected from reality as they are seem to be of little value.

[Anemone978]

@monorprise But what is your reason for messaging me then? When she was calling single moms used up whores, and escorts are a better option LOL How is she a lady but you feel the need to bother me?

[monorprise]

@Anemone978 That's a popular view in the South. A mother should marry and remarry the husband of her babies.

[Anemone978]

@monorprise What if the guy cheated on her, or abuses her, maybe he left her, or she finds out he is a child molester... Should she still stay with him, and then if she doesn't she is a used up whore? What about if her husband died..
You people are weird as shit.. and then you think an expensive prostitute has more value... that is just fucked up thinking.. Like fair enough if the woman was a whore but with no back story you can't just call every single mom a piece of trash...

[monorprise]

@Anemone978 All of those excuses are soo rare and unusual that using them is a red herring.

Women not men initiate nearly all divorces, that is a cold fact we know from statistics of what THEY report to our state, and its not usually caused by abuse or cheating.

That means the woman is leaving her husband, support system for herself and her child for her own reasons, nearly always some kind of emotional entitlement she believes she should feel.

[Anemone978]

@monorprise Just forget it I don't even care that much.. this whole subject has nothing to do with me.. so oh well think what you all want.. you are weird..

[AviatorTom]

Responsibility for her children rests with her, not him. It might be chivalrous to offer to pay at least a portion of the babysitting costs but definitely not necessary, nor expected.

[coachTanthony]

Most guys these days think a cup of coffee is too much to pay for less a baby sitter lol

[Avicenna]

he should pay for the date and it's up to her to pay for a babysitter (often friends or family will do so for free).

[Honeysuckle12345]

NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY

If a single mother is too cheap to pay babysitting fees she's a good for nothing whore that has no value beyond sex and should have her children removed. Sluts like that have no purpose in life

[DextroShade]

A man paying for another man's kids even before the first date is a total deal-breaker. Single mothers should try to make it work with the baby daddy.

[KrakenAttackin]

@DextroShade. Yes.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If the date doesn’t go well can he ask for a refund?

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely!

[Sharkstealth]

I had to laugh at this question. Most guys now won't date at all anymore. They really won't date a single mom unless they are desperate or just want to get laid. Add in all the extra costs associated with her life on top of the date and most guys will run farther. Single moms are generally pretty desperate themselves.

I didn't answer yes or no by the way.

[KejKej]

Why do the fuck any man would date single mom? You should have more self respext

[KrakenAttackin]

@KejKej. Spot on!

[Stacey55666]

Just throw out the offer of a date. There are no rules regarding this. There is no should or shouldn't. Do what you want. If you don't want to pay, then don't. If she can't afford to pay, then just look elsewhere. No harm no foul.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/CwTM0JfUsGs

The ball is in your court.

[monorprise]

Seeing as he is interviewing to be paying those cost for years if not decades to come, it does seem reasonable to demonstrate he can and will.

Men who date and marry single mothers are probably among the best givers in our sociality, provided they do their homework and insure that mother is single for a good reason.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Why not. After all, the mans role is paying for everything else during their date.


I think offering to do so is a generous thing to do.


It is also a indicator of her personality. If she accepts, red flag. If not, line up a second date.

[Drumlin2001]

I started talking to a single mum before, we met up a few times. Never offered to cover childcare, met when she was free of kids. I happily paid for coffee, movie, dinner. But I dont think I'd have paid for childcare. woukd set a bad precedent for me.

[Kingship]

Correct answer:

NO. Exploitation at the beginning sets the tone for being used.

Know your value guys.

[Meropatrick]

The mother of the single mother isn't around? Her sister. I think most people dont pay for nannies and ask close Relatives. Its would be really weird t pay for a date AND for a nanny

[Adaeva]

I am sure most men would be happy to pay for the babysitter if that ensured he got sex.

[worldscolide]

No, those children aren't his responsibility. Nor is he required to buy extra meals for them or anything else for that matter.

[Miristheiss]

No.

A man that has no kids himself should NEVER ask out a mom.

[Bricealan]

I would offer, now at this point in my life, but in the past as a younger guy, I never considered it, just because I was stupid.

[Billlewis]

Oh absolutely, every time. If her child is less than a year old, he should also pay for some baby supplies, formula, etc.

[Billlewis]

I'd honestly consider it a privilege to pay for a babysitter for her, and continue paying for one every time we see each other.

[Anonymous]

You should never send money to someone who you haven't met in person. First and foremost. Until you become official it is her responsibility to find and pay for childcare.