A woman I’ve been talking to for about a month now is very outgoing and flirty with her friends. The first couple of group hangouts were fine, but I also saw her getting hugs from her ex, who’s the owner of the bar they go to consistently, and deep convos and dancing with the guy other owner and has me feeling feeling shitty. I asked her about her “ex” weeks ago and she said they’re just friends cuz they hooked up for like 6 months, but nothing serious came of it. Then she didn’t see him for a year till recently when the restored their friendship at this new bar he opened up. The other guy is always a hanging with new girls, and her two best friends have both hooked up with the guy. (She told me on a long walk one night). None of this is too over the top except I wouldn’t be doing this with my friends if I just started seeing someone. She also claimed that I was talking with her fiends more than her and getting upset with it while she’s going out, I asked her to bring me into convo more and she said sorry but I just feel when she goes with this group she’ll get drunk and sloppy
Having some jealous anxiety as the girl is just started seeing is quite flirty. She’s open with me about situations but her actions don’t show it?
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In such situations people will often point the finger at you labeling you jealous, insecure or childish. But quite often such things are what a woman will tell you in order to keep being able to do as she pleases without challenge. As a man, you want to be with a woman that has enough respect, wisdom and self control that she only acts in a way that is respectable and honorable. Therefore the solution in such a situation is to remove oneself from it and to seek peace and honor elsewhere in a partner that already knows better.
Never put up with any disrespect or questionable behavior. She is free to act in this way, just as you are free not to be around it anymore. You should also seriously be asking yourself why you are trying to be with a woman that is not relationship material. Only invite peace and wisdom into your life!
Luke 6:31
“And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.”
Being this insecure will only damage this relationship. Get it under control.