Hi guys,
For context:
Before me and my boyfriend were officially together, he had this female friend who he had supposedly met 1-2 times.
One night, he invited her to one of our plans with our friends, and when she arrived, he literally ignored me the whole night to talk to her which I found a bit odd. However, he wasn't my boyfriend yet (we were just casually dating and hooking up) so I couldn't really say anything.
Fast forward **
To when my boyfriend and I had become official, she continued to heart-react to every single one of his FB photos, fully knowing we were together.
he even told me that she had invited him over for dinner one night, and he said he wanted to go as they were "friends" and that I could trust him. I had a bad feeling about her intentions and said I wasn't comfortable with him going, so he declined.
Further to this, she had continually invited him out to other plans, which he declined after I continued to say I'm uncomfortable if I'm not invited too, he initially wanted to go though...
One night, we were out at a bar with friends, and she happened to be there also. She came up to him twice on the dance floor, while I was right there, trying to chat him up and dance. He brushed her off and tried to get her to talk to me, but she ignored me.
Here's the thing...
The next day, I had a weird gut feeling... I asked to go on his phone and he said no.. I thought that was weird.. so I persited to ask and he finally gave in and let me go on it.
Turns out, he was hiding something..
I found out on his Instagram, that she had slid into his Instagram DM's the next day, replying to his stories, asking which bar he was at, followed by "It was really good seeing you last night with a red heart emoji.
He responded to her, keeping the conversation going and asking if she had a good night.
He had also muted the chat with her so I couldn't see...
Is this classified as cheating? If he had nothing to hide, why mute the chat...
Thanks in advance!
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It's not cheating... yet... but it's disrespectful to you, and may lead to his cheating. It's obvious that she wants him, and he is tempted, but so far he hasn't given into the temptation.
Have a calm discussion with him about this and tell him how you feel. His reaction will tell you things you need to know.
It makes me wonder what would have happened if I hadn't coincidently checked his phone...
Well technically no it isn't cheating. It could be close to or is emotional cheating. That is what other opinions so far fail to see. There can be cheating without sex. It is commonly called emotional cheating. That is not cool. He isn't respecting that you are and him are together and this girl really doesn't respect that. The fact that he is hiding or trying to hide anything from you is messed up big time. This would be a massive red flag for me and most likely the end of the relationship. That is just me though. You need to figure out what you limits are with him doing this.
By the sounds of it bo but it's definitely shadey and look like cheating probably would have happened