My husband has been cheating for nearly a year, is there still hope for me?

[Anonymous]

I'm now 27 years old, he's been postponing having kids since 2019 and found out recently that he's been cheating for nearly a year.

I wanted to repeat my parents and grandparents love story. He's the only one I've ever been with. Now it's like my world is shattered, my fairytale is destroyed. It doesn't exist.

I'm childless because of him. He kept me on pills and kept promising that we'll soon have kids. Is there hope for me still? What should I do? He's been supposedly remorseful but this doesn't sound like love. I thought you don't cheat if you love. Or do I have to take him back because I'm already 27 and still childless?

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I feel lost at this point. Do I still take him back? Work it out?
He wasn't ever going to confess. The other woman didn't even know he was married.

[abc3643]

Move on. First, kids aren't all that cracked-up to be. And, second, you don't deserve this shit. You want a kid? You don't need a husband - you need sperm. There are plenty of ways of getting that.

[Asker]

So I should give up on love and having a child in a marriage, the way I always wanted it? I was a virgin on my wedding. It's like I did everything right for nothing. I waited for nothing.

Sometimes I feel like renouncing God and whatever faith I had. It's like everything has worked against me. I wanted what my parents and grandparents have, a happy, stable household and kids.

[abc3643]

You wrote:
" It's like I did everything right for nothing. I waited for nothing."

Unfortunately, young lady, Nature has this nasty way of not giving a shit about us.
Don't expect rules to apply in life other than the laws of physics, mathematics, and logic.

[abc3643]

You need to watch "A Serious Man" and recognize it as based on The Book of Job.

[boggboss]

You understand he dont live u right and better u didn't have kids with a cheater then have kids and then need a divorce

[Asker]

Yes but will a man still want to date a divorced childless woman in her late 20's. What will he think once I tell him the sad story that I had to divorce due to getting cheated on?
Sadly I'll have to file for divorce. I never wanted this. I wanted to be happily married with kids and be with my love, to have the happy ending like my parents and grandparents have. Now it's like my life has alterred.

[boggboss]

Why do u think a man wpuld want to date you if u had a child over not having one u understand dating is harder for single mums right

[Asker]

Yes I've heard it's harder for single mothers in the dating world. I can't help but think what would they think once they find out I had to get divorced. I'm all into commitment and it was never my intention to break up my marriage.

[boggboss]

U didn't break up your marriage his cheating did u understand if u tell someone thats why u got a divorce they won't see u as bad right

[Asker]

My whole life feels like it's falling apart. I'm torned up right now and even called my day off today.

[LazerBean]

Be extremely happy that you have no children with him and divorce him.

[Asker]

What will men think of me when I tell them my sad story? What will they think of a divorced woman in her late 20's?

[LazerBean]

They will like a childless divorced woman in her late twenties a lot better than they will like a single mom in her 30s.

[Asker]

I really wanted to get married once, have kids and have the happy ending like my parents and grandparents did. And now it's like my life has alterred. I don't get my happy ending. I'm crushed.