Traveling wife, how do you know if she has been cheating or just misses you so much 💖?

[RoseySarah]

Neighbor suspects his wife is cheating but has no idea of he is right or not.

What is gags opinion and what should he look out for?

Probably stand offish no desire no hugs

Extra desire and wanting him more

Preoccupied with things on her mind

Only can he tell in bed

You can't tell after unless she admits it

None of yo business, though asking questions is lmao

[RavVid]

There is a lot we notice in the unconscious mind that doesn't make it to the conscious mind. Just a red flag pops up. To illustrate when I came home from work as soon as I opened my door I thought somebody has been in here. An hour later I notice my video equipment was gone and footprints on the kitchen counter by the window.

So I think if a cheating red flag has popped it is probably because she is and he has unconsciously noticed some offbeat things out of her normal pattern.

The majority is plumping for standoffish, no desire no affection. That's is assuming the wife/girlfriend is not wanting sex from two men on the same day. One clearly enjoyed me following the other guy up more than normal. Women might say they couldn't possibly have two men's semen in them on the same day but the one who told me that - as it turned out - certainly could.

As a guy it is certainly going to feel different if you are getting sloppy seconds. Up to the hilt in one thrust different.

Also if you feel her pussy it will be a looser if she has come over pre fucked. I made that part of my greeting for a girl I didn't have much trust in.

So those two are my top two tips for your neighbor. Three if you include replaying the mental tape when a redflag pops up.

Oh and check the laundry - are there more panties right at the bottom then there ought to be? Or is laundry being done more often than normal?

[Leapfrog00]

I have been with a lot of cheaters and what always gave it away was when she would make excuses not to spend time with me or the girl would never want to do what I wanted to do, like one time I wanted to go to a movie and my ex Kelly wanted to go see her mother instead.

Sounds innocent but when she was with "mom", she was out with another guy. I always get stuck with the cheaters. I've dated some decent girls, but I'll probably never find another decent one ever again. I'm doomed to be single!

[Gloree]

Maybe you are boring. Girls like a little danger. Read about alpha males. Just saying.

[RoseySarah]

That is so awful but happens when hobbies don't combine.
Get a girl who can write since your a writer

[sage2021]

If she starts using new love language with you. Words you never heard her say.
My boyfriend started calling my vagina "Love cave". That was a big change because I named her Sally and that's what we always called it. So I knew he was with someone new that calls her's the Love cave".
Plus he would call me by another woman's name and totally didn't realize it.
Called me up one day and after I said hello, he says "Penny"? That's not my name. Then when I was around he would sing the song by the Beatles "Penny Lane".
And people will want to tell on her. In my case, it was the maintenance guy who asked me if I knew that he goes into other people's apartments in the middle of the night. I didn't know.

[888theGreat]

@sage2021 Did your" love cave" get visited by his "little Richard" ? If he wasn't making daily deposits into you "love bank" , you should have known he was making deposits at a new bank down the road.

[sage2021]

@888theGreat
Yeah, that was the case! He told me years ago he was getting that disease where you can't get an erection. He was doing two other women I found out. So, I was glad he wasn't doing me and them. That would be gross as hell.
He was a pig. He used to tell me "Men are pigs"!
He was a player and loved the women! Always flirting with women in public in front of me. He didn't care 🤷🏼‍♀️

[888theGreat]

I have never not been able to get it hard. I can't imagine how a man can't get one.

[sage2021]

@888theGreat
Year's ago that's what he "told" me he had erectile dysfunction but he didn't. He would come over to see me after having sex with one or both of the other women - so naturally it wasn't ready to get big again. So, it looked like erectile dysfunction to me.
Then I think he got it for real when he was diagnosed with diabetes. Or other medical conditions he might have had. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[RoseySarah]

I'm sorry here is a wonderful hug you deserve better!

[Kelly6]

did you both stayed together or?

[sage2021]

@RoseySarah
Thank you 💕😊 sweetie ❣️

[sage2021]

@Kelly6
No, we didn't stay together he died suddenly September 8 while our negotiations were going on. Oh well 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Kelly6]

@sage2021 still sorry that he died

[sage2021]

@Kelly6
Thank you for your condolences Kelly. I think it's better for both of us that he died when he did. The meth he was taking for so many years was going into the crazy stages of the drug. I didn't even know him anymore. He used to be smart, funny as all get up, memory was totally sharp. Could remember words, names, stuff about astrophysics and could do math like Einstein. He was none of those things when he died. He wasn't the sweetest man I knew. Meth turned him into a mean pit bull and screaming at everything, even the TV!
So, thank you love! But he hurt me years ago with other women then moved away for three years. He wasn't on meth years ago and was one of the sweetest guys I knew when he wasn't hurting me with other women! He had one lined up to be his girlfriend when he died. Ahh! Too bad, so sad - he didn't get to stick that knife in my chest because of other women and I actually love it. I know it sounds weird and heartless but he hurt me so bad when he moved out of my apartment building in 2019 that my anxiety got the best of me and I ended up getting really really sick and my poor little body could no take it anymore with leaving me with another woman on his arm. It could have killed me instead - literally and my son needs his Mama 😎

[Kelly6]

@sage2021 understand it, sorry to hear all that

[RoseySarah]

Your so amazing keep loving life and work to be happy! You deserve it!
Sorry but I won't get why when a man has a woman who loves him and gives him sex.. why want another and another so much he can't have sex with the first one?

Could not imagine what you went though!

[sage2021]

@RoseySarah
It was very hurtful. When I spent an entire year with him, he was seeing two really old women when he was 59. He loved old women for some crazy reason. But he was still seeing me and telling me how much he loved me. I was sure he would dump them after he met me, but he didn't. He kept them and kept hurting me. I would tell him to leave me alone but then says later was that old familiar knock of his then he'd hold me tight and tell me how he missed me so much.
So wadda know he kept doing things to hurt me. One day he came over with pink lipstick on and when I opened the door he reached for me and I closed the door on him.
He moved away for three years but would call almost everyday and tell me he loved me.
Then about a year later on the phone ☎️ and confessed he sabotaged our whole relationship and hurt me so we would break up. My heart sank into my stomach when he said that. I wondered why, and that was why.
Then one of them died, so he still had one left.
When he moved out of our apartment building, three years later he moved in with me. Until he died 1-1/2 years later. That was 3 months ago.

[Kelly6]

Honey
Past is past.
Just enjoy present and
Hope for best in future

[RoseySarah]

You loved through it and are still living the past hurts but you have a new lift heal take time and eventually date again when your ready!
Your so great

[Billlewis]

@888theGreat Remember that sitcom, 'The Fresh Prince Of Belaire'? One time, Will's aunt told her husband that if he didn't do something for her, 'Mr. Goodwrench isn't going to visit Mrs. Toolshed'... lol

[Gloree]

Sometimes people gossip to ruin relationships. After all, few months back I was strolling with a colleague one day and later in the day my man called asking who I was walking with. He was told I was on the road holding hands with some guy meanwhile we were just walking side by side. Some people are like that. They like to ruin relationships.

[RoseySarah]

Yup though it's so funny sometimes watching them try to ruin things.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I'm sure every woman is different. Some may feel remorse in some way, others may feel like they've gotten away with cheating.

[RoseySarah]

Some think nothing of it just making myself happy and forget about it.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@roseysarah that is rough.

[RavVid]

Some think it is a funny thing to do. I have been surprised by women laughing about cheating. There have been quite a few times, I've been present, when women have talked about another woman cheating and they all giggle about it and are most amused.

It seemed deeply seated to me.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@roseysarah but very true

[NathanDavis]

" I don't know anything but I think that maybe... "

suspicions should end right there...

[RoseySarah]

Lol just keep your nose out of it is your common answer!

[NathanDavis]

if a single nonsense comment from a person that knows NOTHING about it... can shaken the entire core of my relationship..

then I would so much more trouble than a possible cheating situation... think about it...

[RoseySarah]

True
People are always gossiping about mine but I never listen.

[NathanDavis]

once I was told... "dude, I saw your girl... very cozy with someone"

that happened to be me... this one rare time I was wearing a red shirt, lmfao...

[RoseySarah]

Lmao 🤣 same with my sister like it was him her hubby but the neighbor wanted it not to be.

[NathanDavis]

lmfao... neighbor might have a thing for these women, lol

[888theGreat]

How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If she's cold towards him and seems not interested in him tells how she feels about him, he needs to watch her communication with him and her body language with him.

[RoseySarah]

True though he says its hard to tell if she is just so tired sick or exhausted after.
Just wanting a long nap or mad at him for something.

[RoseySarah]

Thanks for the like!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@roseysarah Your'e welcome :)

[stratford]

Over compensating due to the guilt - going out of her way to do nice things, but avoiding intimacy.

[RoseySarah]

Would she not want to give him ore sex less intimacy?

[stratford]

I imagine some women might feel that is a way of reducing the guilt.

[Kelly6]

my hubby is traveling husband.

as by his job he travels around EU for investigation , and stays there longer sometimes too.

I never thought he is cheating, but as we are in open marriage it does not matter

[RoseySarah]

Who is he with now?

[Dargil]

When she introduces new techniques or appetites to sex.

[RoseySarah]

What is an appetite of sex?

[Dargil]

Something new or different than you shared previously. Like of she suddenly wanted PIA.

[RoseySarah]

Ew what is pia? Sounds gross

[Dargil]

Penis In Anus (anal intercourse).

[RoseySarah]

Never heard it called that but sure I get what you said.
If she wants something new like a 3 some...

[Samantha_17]

What is "traveling wife" exactly? I guess I can be one of them lol :)

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

My wife is out of town about half the work days of the year, but I guess it can be any person who has to leave their home for an extended time Away from their family.

[RoseySarah]

Just any wife traveling without her man. Some couples have sperate vacations.
More there so it won't get shoved into another topic like most of my other questions.

[Samantha_17]

I travel a lot alone so.. :)

[RoseySarah]

You then you can make up the nice name for it! 😉 Go on what would you call yourself! 🤔

[Samantha_17]

Traveling wife..! :)

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@samantha_17 I figured there had to be more than one! Travel safe!

[Andres77]

I’ve been on the receiving end of this too many times.

[RoseySarah]

Then please share the warning signs or what you think will be a bad sign?

[Andres77]

Working extra hours. Tired when she gets home. Doesn’t answer the phone when she usually does. Hair is a little wet (from showering elsewhere) or she takes a shower as soon as she gets home. Doesn’t say my name during sex anymore. Panties are extra when she gets home. Doesn’t want to FaceTime at bedtime or in the morning. Wearing new sexy underwear that I didn’t buy and she usually tells me when she buys new stuff. Her coworkers are not as talkative when I visit her at work. Someone at her work gives me the pity look. Washes her clothes as soon as she gets back from a trip before spending time with the family.

[Andres77]

*panties are extra wet

[RoseySarah]

Great signs but shower when she gets home... Most do that sorry. Planes are so gross 🤢.

That doing laundry first thing can be a big sign. Most I know wait a few hours to do laundry or unpack.

That potty looks my coworker gave a guy that look last year I asked why 😞.
Feel dumb for asking

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Sorry, Andres!

[RoseySarah]

Sorry it happened 😔

[Andres77]

@MiddleAgedClimbee thanks, it was years ago with first wife and again with the last. Things are ok now though. My kids are stable. So now look at all the free time I have to bug you guys!

[Andres77]

@roseysarah
Running to take a shower before you even greet the kids or husband is suspicious.

[RoseySarah]

O yeah that is so sus 😳. If they did not sit in something I'd worry!

[Andres77]

First marriage I caught her (but she didn’t realize). Then my neighbor told me.

[RoseySarah]

How did you catch her? How did the neighbor knowm

[Andres77]

DM me. I won’t be graphic

[Andres77]

I’m just embarrassed how I reacted

[RoseySarah]

Nope no need to message!

[Andres77]

I came home early. That’s how I caught her.
When my wife was gone and I was in the backyard pulling weeds my neighbor told me that my wife had lots of visitors whenever I was working

[Gloree]

Oh please. You sound like a very controlling man. gosh

[Andres77]

@Gloree coming home and finding her with other guys? i'm controlling? pulling weeds in my own yard while my wife was shopping and my neighbor using that opportunity to tell me that my wife had lots of visitors whenever i was gone? I'M CONTROLLING?
please clarify.

[coolbreeze]

He should track her phone or hire a private eye to spy on her. I know it's bad but he should do it just to be sure.

[sage2021]

@coolbreeze
Maybe out a GPS system on her?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If she doesn't want to have sex with him anymore or seems distant from him.

[RoseySarah]

Why just sex? Or distant? What if she is sick

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If what I said is constant then she most likely is cheating.

[DryGermanGuy]

Long time ago I followed a thread on iirc Quora where a suspicious guy set up a covert camera in his bedroom. A few weeks later he logged in remotely and caught his wife with another guy.

[RoseySarah]

Ooo poor thing 😔
I'd never be able to chest in my own bed! That would make it all way more guilty but I don't ever plan on cheating

[Dinklex3]

Why does he think she’s cheating?

There should be some indication there.

[Kelly6]

her language or personality change

[AmeerX]

Can't tell unless she admits it. Won't even get a DNA test of kids ever. What comes out of the wife is her kids

[Anonymous]

If she's having sex with another man to put her anxiety down because she misses, that's okay. It's a part of human nature to cheat.

[RebeccaSJ]

As a traveling wife, they can't tell if you have or haven't, I don't think.

[mohannad5]

If the marriage is based on trust between the two parties, there is no need to worry

[Luckycharms12]

Listen to your gut

[RoseySarah]

Always what I tell my friends and family! Your heart knows the truth but your mind often won't listen and puts the trash guy above your family and friends

[Luckycharms12]

If right guy never ask you put him before family or friends

[Luckycharms12]

All can work together

[ThrillSeeker01]

Just a little insecure

[Cheerfull009]

God or she knows only

[HouseMoat]

Lack of sex