Can we trust men?

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Can we trust men?

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

I voted "no" because I don't think you should be so naive as to just trust so much. However, on the flip side, I like to trust everyone new I meet, at least to a certain point. That means I assume the best until they show me otherwise, but I'm also not handing over my car keys for them to borrow and just trust they will fill up the tank and bring it right back. Does that make sense?

Be friendly, be open, don't be mistrustful. But also, don't be so open you are giving way your bank PIN or the emotional equivalent. I just saw another question on here 'why do men lie about wanting a relationship in order to have sex with a woman?', which is very much a thing men do. Women also lie, so we could just say people lie and you can't trust people, either. But you shouldn't be mistrustful and scared of everyone you meet, that's no way to live.

I hope I'm making sense, I know it may sound like I'm saying both trust and mistrust. I'm saying be careful, but don't be scared. Like going out into the wilderness; just keep your wits about you and trust your gut instincts. Be cautious, but not overly so. Be prepared and aware that there are dangers out there, but that danger is not around every corner and in every shadow.

So to answer your "update question: which men should I trust?" the answer is that it takes time to get to know someone and how much you can trust them. Take a while to let them reveal who they are, everyone does eventually. Some people just have a facade that they can't maintain, others are genuine from the first moment. You will be able to see usually after a few weeks to months of being around someone whether their genuine personality is the same as what they first presented to you. I would be very wary the more change you see in someone from the original presentation to the long term.

GunFhulangas · Accepted Answer

The real question is can women trust themselves?

Soo many women nowadays in western society lack self respect, lack standards & lack responsibility. They will "hook up" with any guy who shows them even the smallest bit of attention at a bar or club or anywhere for that matter for some, sleep with him within a few hours for some girls, and then complain. And complain. And complain.

They refuse to look in the mirror and realize their poor ideology is why they are "used". Worse they refuse to learn from the experience and just keep doing it & complaining.

Life isn't fair. Children learn this the very first time mum or dad takes away their toys.

And people like free things.

If any woman is going to "give out" within the first 72 hours of knowing a man then why should he or any other man put in any effort or for that matter hang around?

It's not that men can't be trusted.

And more WHY or HOW can he trust such a woman?

To any man he's going to be thinking if she gave out to me within the first 72 hours HOW many other men has she slept with, HOW can I trust her in a relationship, WHY would I trust her. It's that simple.

Even the sleaziest of men are naturally programmed to seek a potential wife / mother of his child and a woman who gives out easily / quickly hours is NOT desirable. Yes some men find them desirable but this is bottom of the barrel men, welfare receivers, etc. because who cares if the woman's kid is their bastard they can still get money.

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Reality is men are easily trustworthy.

Increase your standards, improve yourself, stop being worthy of nothing but being used by men who are turned off by the fact all you can offer is cheap, causal, easy sex.

Hawkes_Lady · Accepted Answer

As someone who was sexually abused on multiple occasions when I was young, I have a really hard time trusting men. They frighten me. When I look at a man, I see someone who is physically bigger and stronger than me. I see someone that can hold me down and take what they want.

Now, I know that not all men or like that. And in all actuality, most men are not like that.

But my experiences have shown me different. And it is very hard to not let the fear response take over.

I would very much like for a good man to show me that men, or at least, he, can be trusted not to hurt me but to love me gently and with love and care because I would so like to feel safe and loved in a man's arms. It is my greatest wish.

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

Yeah of course. If you had a bad experience that makes you ask this you have to remember that all people are not the same and because one guy let you down with trust the rest are going to do the same thing. I've got guy friends that I trust a lot. In all the years of knowing them I feel comfortable sharing things and trust they have my best interest at heart. They haven't proven me wrong yet. Anyone regardless of gender can be trusted or not. It is much more about the person than the gender when it comes to qualities like that.

Summeroflove · Answer

Lmao. Well not all men are the same. It depends on the man the same as it depends on the woman. I don’t fully trust anyone I first meet.

AviatorTom · Answer

Best thing to do for anyone or anything... TRUST and VERIFY

Lionman95 · Answer

I would say not per se but you can try to develop a trusting relationship with guys. That involves that you know what you want and that you take cautious actions like look for guys you want to get to know. Share life with them and try to build a trusting relationship.

FreyaRed · Answer

As much we trust other women and this is very individually. Generally it's difficult to trust specific group of people who just are nice and cooperative until they realize they don't get what they want and instantly turn in very unpleasant individuals. But this one big con of plenty pros.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

I'd say it varies. Though I do know that I had a (literally speaking) "girl friend" who did break up with a number of exes.

Although I'm unable to get any more info from her, (as we haven't talked in years) chances are that misogyny were one of the reasons.

As for me, I am worried worried about how much of a headache my autism can be.

Minahh · Answer

Yes but we must be reaaaaly discerning!!!

Men who can be trusted
- shows consistency
- isn't aggressive
- proves himself to be a support in bad times
- isn't calling you names
- knows how to control himself
- isn't using manipulative tactics
- shows empathy
- has strong values he doesn't change

Sweetsurprize · Answer

I trust my dad with most things, like 90% of things really. My family. But random men? Your ex? ! Fuck that, no way lol.

Ozanne · Answer

I've seen this online and can't help but keep referring to it: "It's not all men. But we don't know  which  men."

JosyJosy · Answer

You can trust men as much as women. Thing is that some people, regardless of gender are pieces of shit and it's up to you to find out who is who.

Mamaliv · Answer

You can trust who you choose, but it must be earned in my opinion and it is fragile. Personally I’d rather be naive so I don’t go searching unless it’s right in front of me.

Anonymous · Answer

You can trust the ones who you get to know and decide are trustworthy. I don't know why some women think this is a problem that's limited to women. Men have to take the same chances when investing their time in women. Many women also aren't trustworthy.

Anonymous · Answer

Can you trust ALL men? No. Can you trust SOME men? Yes. Which ones can you trust? THAT'S the right question to be asking, but you didn't ask it.

Anonymous · Answer

No more of than we can trust women. There are liars and bigots in both genders. There are also good and honest in both. Judging all by a few in stupidity.

Constatine · Answer

Can we trust girls?  And there we have it again...  The battle that started ancient ago 🤣😂

ShesRad80 · Answer

you can't trust hardly anyone anymore - no matter male or female.

jshm2 · Answer

We've got you this far, dumbass, so it's a moot point. Now get in the trunk and put the blind fold on...

Kaamraj · Answer

You can trust men in that they will want sex and you can trust women in that they want resources (time, money and attention).

zagor · Answer

To do what? Call the next day? Fix your car? Give you correct change?

inhua · Answer

you can definitely trust feminist men to have women's "best" interests

Jazzy54 · Answer

Until he shows me that he can’t be trusted, yes. We need to stop making these blanket generalizations.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

It’s either that or living your life hiding under the bed, wearing a special-needs helmet. 🙄

tzdc21 · Answer

Lots of men can be trustworthy, and there are lots that aren't. Exact same can be said for women.

Jkgordon · Answer

It seems like white mental and Indians are dedicated enough to get married

pervertedjester · Answer

You should Trust yourself first and then with a Man. And never trust a group of people.

Staximus · Answer

My friend's wife is the most shady person I've ever met in my life. The pendulum swings both ways.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. Humans by nature can't be trusted.  I understand it's an uncomfortable truth but it's the way things are in this cold world.

Anonymous · Answer

No men are the same gender as Donald Trump. Donald Trump wants to become dictator. Men want to control and oppress women just like how Donald Trump wants control over everything. Men are controlling and oppressive.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Funny how 2 3rds of women said no, well guess what we can trust women even less.

Elinnnor · Answer

I think most of the time we can trust them, but IT realllllllyyyy depends on what kind of person is he.

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure. Can we trust women. I know as a man I can trust men more than I can women.

bannacookies · Answer

Well sure. Lots can be, and lots can not be, same with women.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Most people aren’t really bad people  they just do bad things

Guido · Answer

Some you can and some you can't. No different then women.

Anonymous · Answer

The men you choose? Probably not.  Which ones? Do you really want to know? Or do you just want us to tell you what you want to hear?

Anonymous · Answer

im a man and id advise no but chicks whatever they pretend to be, are very slutty just beneath the surface. So you will anyway

Anonymous · Answer

No but hey I trust no one, I trust the product not the client

Anonymous · Answer

You can trust guys who are red pilled and based

wallflower_fantasy · Answer

Maybe maybe not I don’t know half the time

Unit1 · Answer

Can we trust anybody these days?

kevypatyy7 · Answer

Am feared of men most times

MementoMori777 · Answer

That's a loaded question

slatyb · Answer

You can trust some men and some women.

havingfun2023 · Answer

Hell even I'd say no 🙂👀👍🏻😋

Sonorous · Answer

No not most. Most men just aren't like me.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I would say we can

Grond21 · Answer

You can trust the trustworthy ones

boobliker · Answer

for what with your live yes, but in love No!

DextroShade · Answer

Men are far more trustworthy than women.

dudeinohio · Answer

Ones with morality and integrity.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Same can be asked about women

Sasha0426 · Answer

I trust no one. Whether it be men OR women.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Yes you can trust real men

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes, you sure can

Anonymous · Answer

Not in me, I deeply despise women.

driven159 · Answer

can you trust anyone?

OddBeMe · Answer

Ehh, not really in the sense you’re talking about.

In_Trance · Answer

You can if you want to

SL1CK_BL1CK · Answer

Trust nobody

Anonymous · Answer

some men to some extent

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

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Yes, I would say we can

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Yes, I would say we can

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