How do I get out of this hump I am experiencing?

[W0utj3]

Hi! I am a 19 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend, and it is kinda driving me crazy. The problem i really have right now is that i really want a girlfriend but i am kinda scared to actually do something about it.

I am trying online dating for some time now and it kinda sucks, i do get matches but its really hard to have someone get interested in you when they have 0 input. I did get one girl who apparently was interested and also wanted to meet up but she asked me almost nothing and it was really hard to have a conversation with her because of the lack of effort and input. So i kinda lost interest because of that.

I have always been someone that liked to be alone, and thus i lack experience. That really sucks because i know if i want a girlfriend in need to get out of the house and do stuff, it is just really hard for me. I get scared of the thought of going out there, becuase i have 0 experience and just don't know what to do.

I really need help to get over this hump, because i know in order to actually get someone you need to go out there and not just stay home all the time and be sad about not having a girlfriend. It may be weird but i am really struggling with it.

[Flatmanlewis]

Get out and find a “thing”. Hiking. SCUBA. Volunteering someplace. Some kind of classes. Whatever. Once you find some interest you can invest time in you’ll start meeting people with similar interest, and it’s easy to join them for events. Before you know it you’re just meeting and talking to people. Also, don’t view every female as a potential date. When you do that you limit your interactions with people. Just meet people and let the right ones drift into your life.

[W0utj3]

How do i find a "thing" though i have nothing that i really am interested in that isn't inside my house

[Flatmanlewis]

Well, this is a problem. It’s very hard to expand your social or romantic opportunities if you don’t have a little depth to you. You need to work to push past your own boundaries and limits. At least that’s my opinion.

[Anonymous]

I am 19 and never had a girlfriend before either, but i never tried dating apps.


Just ask your female friends for hookups

Don’t be afraid of rejection

Keep asking girls out - its a numbers game

[Opinion Owner]

its worth it - for the moist pink pussy

[W0utj3]

One thing though i have no female friends

[Opinion Owner]

Im really shy, you probably are too thats why

[W0utj3]

Yes i am, i really want to do something about because it is absolutely driving me crazy, but i can't seem to do something about it, and i feel like it will only spiral down more if i don't do something, but i just don't know what. I find it really hard man, it sucks. I dont want to end up as a 20 year old virgin let alone higer than that. And even though 20 years and still a virgin is common, i still feel like absolute shit about it.

[Opinion Owner]

Im still a virgin as of right now too, because of social anxiety. I think what i will do is cold approach girls at malls, to conquer my fears. In the last resort you could buy alcohol or have a friend buy it for you, that really helps with social anxiety.

[sashasauce]

Well some girls really like shy guys. It’s just a matter of finding them…

[Nikki1989]

The more you approach, the more likely it is you will meet someone.

[W0utj3]

Yes, but i don't know what to do or where to go and even if i had that i'd still be scared to actually do it. I really want to but something inside me is too scared to do it, and i just don't know how to get over it

[Billlewis]

You can always pay for it.

[In_Trance]

That's an uphill climb for sure

[W0utj3]

Yep i'm lost man