Is it worth it to be a good woman anymore?

[Anonymous]

I know being a “good woman” is subjective in context because what’s good for one man is different from another but can we all agree a good woman is at least

*Loving *Supportive *Giving *Caring *Loyal *Compassionate *Honest *Faithful, etc.

I feel like I’ve been that in every relationship and in doing so I’ve only been cheated on. Do I continue being like this or how do I amend myself so that I’m not stuck in the same scenarios. I’m getting so tired emotionally, spiritually, it takes the vitality out of me. Please help talk some sense in me.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think men and woman need to learn that nobody is perfect and part of any relationship involves moments that feel unfair or outright humbling.

The problem I see with woman is that they go for these losers who are obviously not capable of a relationship, be it the dude who goes out to bars and parties all the time or the drug dealer or the gamer boy who lives with their mom.

And eventually they realize that they need to be more careful of who they date so next they usually either go for a total bum or a guy who seems to have their shit together but is emotionally, just not a man yet.

Then one of these dudes becomes the "last straw" because even though he was really nice, and well dressed and remembered dates and didn't show a lot of icks. They still end up disrespecting the woman and she's left confused, hurt and drained.

A male's first job is to procreate

A female's first job is to select who should procreate

A man's first real responsibility is to tend to the mother of his children and protect the family

A woman's first real responsibility is to build the family and keep it together to be the source of stability and protect it spiritually and mentally.

You could say if a man is an arrow, then his woman would be the bow.

If BOTH of you don't understand this abstract concept at all, then there's nothing keeping you together.

If you're not giving him what he needs or he's not able to understand why he needs you, then he's going to default back to just wanting to have sex with hot woman.

I think people are so confused now because they do things without ever stopping to think: Why.

You want to find a guy who doesn't cheat on you, stop looking at who their friends are, stop asking about his job, don't worry about whether other want him, figure out what his values are. What is something that would keep him up at night? What does he spend his time talking about with you vs other people, how does he treat you vs other people.

I'm sorry some people were pieces of shit to you. I would take some time to find what these guys had in common with eachother and look for a guy who wants to grow with you and sees you as a close friend.

[Miristheiss]

Of course it is.

Hint, lower your standards. Quit pursuing the hot, Chad, player guys who are really never going to be faithful to anyone... go a run below them to the guys who think are nice and ok but they don't get your juices pumping like the bad boys.

They are probably the type to be loyal and true, if you haven't been run through by so many bad boys that they don't want you for a girlfriend. If you keep going after only the hot, bad boys... you'll always end up cheated on and left behind. Those guys do not commit.

[kylee2437]

I feel your pain girl and I get it. I think being in love is very hard and putting all your trust into someone is very hard. I think you need to take these as learning experiences and really figure out the root cause to everything. Even though they cheated and they are absolutely wrong, there’s an underlying problem as to why this keeps happening whether it be the men you pick or just letting things slide over time. Just get to a point where not a lot is tolerated. I’m currently single and talking to someone but if he shows red flags, he’s gone.

[LazerBean]

It's worked out great for me. Figure out what you're doing wrong and stop doing it. Sounds like you don't get your men nearly well enough.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like you have been doing everything on your own shoulders. Does it not make more sense to be guided by God ans the Holy Spirit within you? Someone that already knows everything and all possibilities?

Proverbs 3:5 - 3:6

''Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.''

You become a good woman for yourself and God, and then you use your discernment and God's guidance to order your steps regardless of your desires or direction of journey.

[smilelots]

You’re obviously attracting the wrong guys or you’re needing to understand men more than you do now not everybody will cheat on you. I’m sorry you have to go through that. Hopefully one day you cYou’re obviously attracting the wrong guys or you’re needing to understand men more than you do now not everybody will cheat on you. I’m sorry you have to go through that hopefully one day you can find A good man that will love you for who you are, and what you give to the relationship and being loving, supportive, giving, caring, loyal, compassionate, honest, faithful, etc. is a good thing. It will always be a good thing finding love is a long road for a lot of us sometimes we never find it.

[Constatine]

Ok " good" woman.. you said it.

Important.. you are being a " good " woman for yourself. Make sure you can life with yourself.. as long as you be fateful to you own being. Then you will find someone that suits you.. and you don't have to worry about all those things... being a good woman is worth it as long as it is pure. 😁

It will also in the relationship...

[DextroShade]

Being a good woman is only half of it, you also have to pick good men instead of players and fuckboys. Also, if you are going for wealthy or very attractive dudes those guys are going to cheat, sorry that's just the way it is so you can either accept it or find an average guy because chances are you are average yourself.

[Paul09]

Always continue being the good person. Way harder to be good than a bad person. Bad people are lazy, selfish, cowards. Never go down to their level. It might be your choice if men that sucks. Never go for a bad boy. Maybe you should start asking men out.

[Anonymous]

You should just be all of those things. Becoming a peice of shit will just ensure you end up with another piece of shit. Toxic people gravitate towards other toxic people, as people who aren't toxic won't tolerate their behavior.

You need to change how you pick guys. Perhaps you're rejecting good men because they aren't attractive enough, aren't tall enough, don't make enough money, etc. You're 25-29, you have plenty of time to figure out what the problem is.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Pick better men? I mean not to victim blame or anything, but they must be all insane. I know a line of guys that'd walk through fire for that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes those are valuable traits but also you gotta love yourself and not let others take advantage of you. Much like I know being a good man is respected ; those are earned traits and trust grows over time.

[slatyb]

If you've "only been cheated on", then you are giving too much too soon. Don't give more than you are getting.

[Staximus]

It is if you want to value yourself and want a good guy to value you. You obviously don't know how to pick a good guy and need to change the way you pick guys

[In_Trance]

Fire question by saying it's a subjective term and then go and further define it with more subjective terms. Rather than looking to other people for an answer I think you need to look inside and determine your own sense of value

[exitseven]

People should be good. People should have honor and loyalty. Truth is more important than popularity. In the end nobody likes a liar or a cheat

[TheSpaceGnome]

The problem isn't how you act with guys, its the guys you pick. Stop picking assholes.

[Tshsjjdshjsu]

It's worth everything, so long as you find the right guy to give it to. But many guys will consider a 5, say, an 8, if she is TRULY kind, loyal, and feminine.

[gorydetails]

If you want to attract a high value man, you'll continue being a good woman.

[Anonymous]

If you have to ask that question you're not a good woman anyway so don't worry about it.

[MaxUsefull]

the problem is not being good but not being careful with scoundrels

[LiamJHayden]

Integrity is its own reward.

[KrakenAttackin]

Stop chasing fuck boys.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

It's alwayz good/worthy t' b good.