So there is this woman at my job who is cool, beautiful, smart and funny. The thing is we are on complete opposite of the spectrum. Height: She is tall, and I am short (about 3'' difference), she is young and I am older (11 years difference about), and yes different races. The kicker is we work together in the same department. I am not even sure she is interested in me, but I haven't even tried to shoot my shot. Thus is my predicament of wondering, if I should even try. I wouldn't make it weird, if she shot me down (she might think it's weird after that). Looking for advice
I mean, there's nothing in that situation saying you can't try it, although I personally would not do it if I were in your place. And not even about her height (I love tall women) or race, but I think it would be hard for me to date a girl 11 years younger. Girls in their 20s are just not good candidates for me personally and we are on different spectrums of maturity and life experience, which is what I would say you should think about if you make the moves. And then of course also that you guys are co-workers. You know that can get messy if things don't work out.
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It is highly problematical to attempt an office romance now. Now no matter how gently you approach it it is possible she immediately rings HR. If you are senior or worse supervising it is even more problematic. If it is a small company maybe normality applies in a way that it doesn't in corporates.
I value my job and I'm specialized so there aren't many openings in my field, so I just wouldn't. The cost could be too high. If you don't mind looking for a new job that's different
If you are still interested after the MeToo considerations, I would try chatting her up in a deniable way to judge if she has any interest. It is pretty easy to mention movies you are wanting to see for example. If she expresses keen interest in a movie you have an opening. If you don't get an opening back I'd take it as a No.
It is a very wimpy way of going about it but I am assuming you want to keep your job and so you have to be careful. With 11 years difference she could be WTF?
You should still shoot your shot. I would be a bit bothered by the height and totally bothered by that age gal, but the race isn't an issue. This girl may not be bothered by any of it. And even if she is, then she’ll address it. If you guys can't work around it or if there's not shot/chemistry, move on to the next gal/goal
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Height and race aren't relevant.
11 year age gap is pushing it but not a dealbreaker.
What matters is looks, hobbies, interests, views, personality. That sort of stuff, you need to have just about everything in common mentally and find eachother attractive, or it will fail.Me probably not, you dont want or need the drama at work and there will almost certainly be some. Well unless they just turn you down and you take it well.
Of course, you should. Only weak cowards run away from such opportunities.
If she is always touching you and sending in your personal space then yes. If she never touches you or stand close to you then no.
Would normally say yes, but screwing up something good at work? Gots to be careful!
No, but not because of you differences, don't date coworkers.
Don't mess with people you work with. It never ends well.
I would advise against it.
Yeah
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