I never get asked out by guys. I feel like i’m too loud.. is that why? what am I doing wrong?

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I would consider myself good looking. i’m a nice person, funny, i care about my academics and get good grades, im always looking for self improvement, but i feel like i’m loud and annoying. i feel like my volume prevents me from ever getting a boyfriend, or the reputation i’ve made for myself. i’ve had a guy that i liked say to my friend that he wouldn’t date me because i’m too loud. i’m trying to be a little quieter, but it’s a part of who i am. I don't know what to do. do guys really not like girls just because they’re a little loud?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's important to remember that everyone has different preferences when it comes to relationships. While some people might not be comfortable with a loud or extroverted personality, many others are perfectly fine with it and may even find it attractive. Your qualities like being good looking, kind, funny, academically focused, and self-improvement oriented are all positive traits.

It's essential to be authentic and true to yourself. If you want to make some adjustments to be more considerate of others, that's okay, but you shouldn't have to change who you are completely. Keep being the best version of yourself, and you'll find someone who appreciates you for who you are.

Don't let one person's opinion discourage you. Confidence and self-acceptance are attractive qualities, and the right person will appreciate your uniqueness.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

Hard to say for sure but allow me to ask this: is “loud” only part of the equation? Is perhaps loud also boisterous, overpowering, or maybe lacking class? As guys I think we all like a girl with a good sense of humor but if she’s lacking class or boundaries or is willing to embarrass herself (or us) for a laugh we will probably take a step back.

Avicenna · Answer

It could be for that reason, but I tend to think that it may be more than that. Is there any other possible explanation?

HippoDino · Answer

Don't change who you are, there will be a guy who likes you for being loud you just need to find him. Also how many guess do you actually talk to, if you dont really talk to many guys of a similar age then you won't get asked out very much, since people don't really know you.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

If you're loud it isn't a deal breaker. It is a negative though. I don't want to have all the attention drawn to us whenever we're out. If you're loud and obnoxious it is absolutely a red flag.

What is the reputation you were talking about?

Blueeyes81 · Answer

A lady I work with has a crush on me but I'd never even consider dating her. Why? She is too loud. I can hear her from 100 yards away. Being in a room with her is unbearable. Her laugh is loud, her voice is loud, her whisper is louder than most talking voice. I don't do loud or chatter boxes. With either one I never feel like I can concentrate, relax, converse with others, etc. So nope, not interested in loud women. Don't care for loud people in general.

Lionman95 · Answer

No being too loud is no red flag to me. I think you're problem is rather that many guys have stopped asking out girls or never have done that. It's different if a reputation of being annoying that's something different than being loud.

Anonymous · Answer

you probably are too loud and annoying. But dont bother trying to be something you're not so someone will like you.
be yourself unashamedly. Thats attractive. To me anyway.
one day you'll meet a bloke that loves loud annoying women. Believe me

DextroShade · Answer

Men don't like loud obnoxious women because they are annoying. If you are really hot they may put up with it, but only as long as it takes to smash. Also, guys don't care about your academics and your standards are probably too high as well.

Billlewis · Answer

Don't change your style. A lot of guys love loud women, myself included.

Fuentes · Answer

Loud and overly energetic is to much for some guys, but if that's who u are then don't change because that's how u are. Someone will accept it and like u for it.

AmeerX · Answer

What do you mean loud? Like tomboyish loud? Speak your mind? Or loud as in loud voice?

Staximus · Answer

Just try not to yell all the time there old megaphone mouth 🗣️📣

Anonymous · Answer

I doubt that, but learn to be more quiet then if you feel that way

genericname85 · Answer

xD you must not be on any dating site.

Joker_ · Answer

@Worst is into loud chicks

jeffend888 · Answer

Yes, it's because you're too loud.

jahaims · Answer

You are probably annoying

shades777 · Answer

so stop being so loud doofus

Anonymous · Answer

It would stop me from asking you out

kareka · Answer

No tbh idc I dated a loud girl before

In_Trance · Answer

Loud is not good

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