AITA for telling a girl who has friendzoned me ;?

[Anonymous]

,,,, that if she ever talks about her love life in my hearing again, I am either a prospect to her*, or we aren't even friends?

*Ie should I soften the ultimatum to "On her 'Maybe' list"

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+1 y

Ah, I guess I should elaborate. There is a third party, a girl we'll call "M" who is A) attracted to me and B) the only girl who is so, who knows I am attracted to the first girl, who we'll call "K". Out of respect FOR M (we do not really mesh) I never raised K's name In The Hearing OF M, no more than ONCE in Three years at any rate, and even Then, only because I could not Avoid doing so!

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+1 y

Allow me to elaborate FURTHER, K just yammers endlessly about the guys she IS dating, right in front of me, knowing how I feel about her regardless. Furthermore, I have never met anyone who talks more about their love life, not a bar dancing bartender, not a stripper, not even a playboy bunny who got pregnant by a rock star!!

[HollyK21]

I would say yes. She rejected you, so if that means you can’t be her friend then be honest with yourself about that and cut ties. Don’t give ultimatums or tot her methods of manipulation to try and get your way. That is not how you should even want to obtain a partner.

[Asker]

Ah, I guess I should elaborate. There is a third party, a girl we'll call "M" who is A) attracted to me and B) the only girl who is so, who knows I am attracted to the first girl, who we'll call "K". Out of respect FOR M (we do not really mesh) I never raised K's name In The Hearing OF M, no more than ONCE in Three years, and even Then, only because I could not Avoid doing so!

[HollyK21]

Listen, I get that you like this woman a lot and see her as a prospect, but if the feelings aren’t mutual then please stop trying to manipulate and push for what YOU want. If you can’t be her platonic friend then stop hanging around acting like everything is cool until she’s treating you like a friend. You avoid talking about other women as if you’re doing her favors, but why? She isn’t the one struggling with romantic feelings, it’s you. There’s nothing disrespectful about her, as your friend, talking to you as such. She’s not the asshole here dude it’s you and your desire to control the situation.

[Blueeyes81]

Yep, the asshole. If you accepted being her friend after being rejected, then you are her friend, nothing more. Not a maybe. Not a 1 in a million chance. Not a if I were the last man on earth would you consider it. You had a choice to either be her friend or not. If you can't be her friend than don't be her friend.

[Blueeyes81]

Still the asshole. If being friends is to hard for you then it's up to you to walk away. She's doing what friends do, talk about their lives.

[OlderAndWiser]

What is the likely result of you delivering that message?

[OlderAndWiser]

Skip the ultimatum and just tell her AMF!

[Anonymous]

YTA 100%. damn. she already gave you her answer, leave it be.

[Iron_Man]

AITA?

[davado88]

im puzzled too

[Iron_Man]

@davado88 I know

[Blueeyes81]

AITA- Am I the Asshole

[In_Trance]

Move on