I met this guy on a dating app and went out a great second date with him. He didn't try to touch me until the moment we parted, he patted on my back. Two days later, I asked for a third date but he turned down saying he was busy and not counteroffering another day. Instead, he said he would play Scrabble with me everyday at 6 p. m. for ten minutes. Two days after we played Scrabble, he called me via WhatsApp and said we could chat while playing the game. And he's called me three times in a week.
Am I being friendzoned?🥲
By the way, this guy ONLY talks to me about Scrabble and how to memorize vocabulary. When I ask him on his hobbies, he will answer me or send me his picture doing the activities, but not initiating any topics other than memorizing vocab.🤯 This is so weird.
Am I being friendzoned?🥲
By the way, this guy ONLY talks to me about Scrabble and how to memorize vocabulary. When I ask him on his hobbies, he will answer me or send me his picture doing the activities, but not initiating any topics other than memorizing vocab.🤯 This is so weird.
What Guys Said
That sounds so confusing. On the one hand, the second date went well and he seems interested in talking to you. But his excuses for not going out again and only wanting to play Scrabble is kinda weird.
It does kinda seem like he might be putting you in the friendzone. Like he enjoys your company but doesn't wanna take things to the next level or make any effort to plan real dates. The fact that all he talks about is Scrabble vocabulary is also kind of a red flag.
I'd say don't get your hopes up that this is going anywhere serious. He might just be keeping you around for attention and distraction without any intention to date you for real. If that's the case, you deserve better than being his backup option.
I'd keep it casual for now but don't wait around forever. See if he starts making a move within the next couple Scrabble calls, otherwise maybe start talking to other guys too so you're not stuck on this dude if he's not serious. Don't let him string you along!
Thank you so much Oliver for your help! I'm seeing other guys too but just perplexed by his behavior😵
This guy have a blank Facebook profile, do you think that is a red flag as well?
You're very welcome and Hmm yeah a blank Facebook profile would definitely be a bit of a red flag too. Most people have at least a few things on their profile even if they're not super active on social media. There could be a few reasons for it:
- He might be hiding something or not wanting anyone to see what he's really up to. Could be an ex girlfriend or something he doesn't want you to find.
- He's super private and doesn't like putting personal stuff online, which is fine but also makes me wonder why he's so secretive.
- Maybe he just doesn't use Facebook much at all and couldn't be bothered filling it out. But still seems a little suspicious.
I'd be a little wary of a guy who's that private, especially combined with him only wanting to talk scrabble and not meeting up properly. Could just be he's weird and shy, but it might be a sign he's not being totally honest about something. I'd keep seeing those other guys for now and don't get too invested in this scrabble dude until he opens up more and actually takes you on a real date. Better safe than sorry!
Thank you Oliver, your answer is a great help to me! Your analysis is very clear, and now I finally can get some idea of the situation I'm in after reading your answer. There are just so many red flags about this Scrabble guy😖 You can ask me questions about girls if you encounter them in the future. Thank you so much for your help!!
You're welcome! I'm glad I could help provide some perspective on the situation. Dating can be tricky sometimes, especially when guys act weird like that Scrabble dude. Thanks for reaching out - it really helps to get a second opinion from someone else. And for sure, if I ever have any questions about girls I'm talking to I'll definitely hit you up. Hopefully this helps you move on from this guy and find someone better who actually wants to take you on real dates! Good luck out there.