What do you think of her actions?

[Willg95]

This woman became friends with me online and she started getting really friendly and complimenting me a lot and be very nice and we chatted a lot through messages. She wanted to take me somewhere special for lunch she said, she would always say we have so much in common and could not wait to meet up

She was kinda flirty in some of the talk. She was always responding to my posts and commenting really nice positive things. She was quite busy So I met up with her and she hugs me right away and it was a nice big hug. So we went back to her place and had a chat and first thing she asks am I married? I am not I said. Im waiting for the right person, she then replied there is nothing worse than being with someone you hate. So she made me a nice lunch and we talked. She was touching me a lot with her hands on mine and when I left she gave me a big hug. It seemed like when I would update something on social media she would like it right away or comment.

Now we chatted a lot more and she got more into sexual talk Now we went out a few more times and had some great times. But she seems like she is always busy and has job where she is outa the country a lot and she makes a good living from it. It seems like she has lost interest as I asked her out and she said she was going away on work. It was like she promised me do get together and didn't happen, it bothers me that she would say oh we should do this and then it would never happen.

It seemed like she liked so much about me and we shared so many interests. We had talked so much over time and it was all good. Now I think she don’t like me anymore but she still messages me and asks how I am doing? she says hope your ok.

I dunno know if she just wanted to mess about or get to know me. I did not want to come across as if I was after one thing, but maybe that’s all she wanted. I find her very hard to read. Feel like I never got a chance after her leading me on

What do you think of a person like that?

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a pretty weird situation man. A couple thoughts:

- This girl definitely seemed into you at first. All the compliments, flirty talks, wanting to hang out alone... sounds like there was some attraction there.

- But then she kind of disappeared on you or got busy all the time. That part's kinda sketchy and makes it seem like maybe she just wanted attention or something casual.

- On the other hand, saying she's busy with work a lot overseas could be legit too. Long distance can definitely complicate things.

- I dunno, the mixed signals and hot/cold behavior would confuse me. Seems like maybe she just isn't ready for anything serious if she's in/out that quick.

- I'd be cautious about getting too invested until you know what she actually wants long term. Make sure you protect your feelings too, you know?

- For now I'd justplay it cool when chatting. See if she makes more concrete plans to see each other, or if it's just empty talk. That may give you a better idea of her intentions.

Tough situation man. At least you got some fun memories out of it! Just be careful your heart doesn't get played too much here.

[Willg95]

The thing is she is really busy with work a very high profile person and owns her own company and she is doing very well so I know she is busy she tells me most of the time what she is doing long hours in different places. I really do think she likes me but its bad timing maybe. Its weird that when we are together we have a lot of chemistry I can feel it. When she got back from her last trip she said I hope everything is ok with me. She could be secretly hiding her true feelings. Its hard when a woman thinks so much of you and Maybe I missed my chance. But she still talks to me but I've not asked her out in awhile. We have had some very deep meaningful conversations. I think there is sexual tension but also more perhaps. She made me fall for her.

[Willg95]

I think I've already been played by her. She is the woman id never thought id meet and she pursued me. Was kinda shocked. Maybe im to laid back
I pursued at the wrong times. im kinda puzzled

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, this whole situation is mad confusing, I feel you. On one hand, she does legit seem super busy with her career and traveling a lot internationally. That part is probably not an act.

But at the same time, some of her behaviors are rubbing me the wrong way. Like, saying you should hang out then canceling last minute without a solid reschedule plan. To me that shows you aren't a top priority when she's home.

I don't think you can fully trust that all the flirty chemistry and deep talks necessarily mean more romantic interest on her part. She may just enjoy the attention and company when it's convenient.

If I were you, I'd take even more of a step back. Don't message her first at all and see if she starts putting in more effort consistently. If she doesn't ask you out within the next few weeks, I'd say move on man.

Protect your heart - she's had plenty of chances to show you she's serious, and hasn't followed through fully. At a certain point you've gotta bet on yourself, you feel me? Keep your options open too while you see how this plays out.

You seem like a top dude - don't let any chick play games with your head or make you an option. But I also get the chemistry is confusing. Just don't lose your sense of self-worth trying to win her over fully, aight? You do you, bro!

[Jbear27]

Not a lot of women are willing to wait for marriage before engaging in sexual relations. So that was probably a turn off. You might have a lot in common but if she travels a lot she might have a sexual partner in different cities and she wanted you to be the one she has there. You never know. I’m just playing devils advocate as I could be way off. But if she invited you over to her place and was all touchy feely then I’m pretty sure she wanted more than lunch and conversation

[Willg95]

I dunno she is hard to read. When I went over to her place there was someone working on the property so it was not an ideal situation. Maybe she got fed up but I did go out with her a few other places and it was hard to get her where I wanted her. When I asked her out after we hung a few times, she said im away working. She is very attractive and don't know if she has someone but seems a bit of a mystery at times. I did try a few times to meet up but nothing happened, and she did say oh we should do this and that never happened. Maybe I missed the chance, she could be playing games.

[Jbear27]

The thing with women is that they usually have way more options on the back burner than men do. If she is active on social media you can bet your ass her DMs are full at all times. So if she was pursuing you and you didn’t make any major moves in her timeframe she might have decided to friend zone you and move on to the next candidate that tickled her fancy. You wouldn’t be the first guy or the last guy this has happened too. With some women you have to strike while the iron is hot… while there is a bit of mystery to you. Once they think they have you figured out if you haven’t hooked them via sexually or emotionally then sad to say but you’re kinda disposable.

[Willg95]

I don't get after we met up a few times she still said to me of we she do this get together blah blah but she never followed through. So I don't get why she makes promises she can't keep. Really makes me wonder what the game is, if she wanted it so bad why ask me out then bail.