Am I wrong for wanting to leave a guy who makes nasty jokes?

[Kira439]

So I’m dating an older guy for the first time. He’s 34. We just started getting to know each other. So everything is fine until the other night we were on the phone and I randomly asked him if he ever dated a girl around my age because I was a bit uncomfortable with the slight age gap. He said when he was 30 he dated a 15 year old girl that he met in Jamaica. He also said he slept with her and spoiled her with money, clothes, etc. I honestly felt so sick to my stomach and so pissed off. We started going back and forth and I just kept asking why he would sleep with a child and he said at age 15-16 is the age of consent. I completely went off on him. Then he turned around and said that he was just joking and just wanted to test me to see the type of person that I am! Like why would u joke about that at your GROWN age? Am I trippin?

[Anonymous]

Luke 6:45 immediately came to mind..

''A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.''

I don't know why you haven't already left him. Be thankful that he has give you a good warning. No good man would be able to make such a joke because the Holy Spirit and the goodness of his heart simply would never allow him to (due to who he was).

[Kira439]

Yes thank you so much for the scripture. I will end up leaving him for sure. I was really upset by what he said. He basically said I was overreacting.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome.

I think 'I will end up leaving him' is a dangerous statement. After all...'Death and life are in the power of the tongue..'

One can end up years later in a toxic relationship due to not taking the necessary action. Also the statement '... test me to see the type of person that I am!' sounds like some form of projection where he was really talking about himself but inadvertently telling you who he was!

[Drumlin2001]

Not sure I'd turn to religion for guidance. Mary was 14 when she gave birth, God got a child pregnant... seems rather icky.

[KrakenAttackin]

Well said, Sir.

[WindAtMyBack]

I suspect he wasn't joking and just said that after he saw your reaction. His story that he was testing you is pretty questionable. I hate to condemn someone without knowing him or the full story, but this whole thing sounds off. There is really no way to know for sure.

[Kira439]

Yes it was very strange to me. I will end up leaving him. Thank u so much for giving me advice.

[Sunnybeach123]

He wasn't joking. Leave him. He's like a pedophile. Move on and find the kind of decent guy you deserve.

[Kira439]

Yes thank u so much I thought I was tripping. I’m so upset about it still.

[Sunnybeach123]

That's a horrible experience. I'm sorry. I understand how you feel. Most people would trip

[BoopBoopBeep]

I think there's pretty much zero chance that he meant that as a joke. That's called covering it up after he saw your reaction.

[Tim2nice]

if he’s Jamaican then that’s part of his culture. I dated a few Jamaican girls in the past and all of them told me they lost their virginity at early teenage years to older men and that was common over there

[Kira439]

Omg….. so sad. I’m so hurt that he would joke and then lie about it

[Drumlin2001]

If you're questioning the relationship it would seem you aren't compatible so don't waste any more time and move on

[Billlewis]

No, not if you've asked him to refrain from making such unpleasant jokes.

[bededazzle]

there is no right or wrong in your personal standards

[spartan55]

He wasn't joking guaranteed

[jahaims]

Just move on the guy is a whack job

[Joker_]

he ain't joking lol

[Tigerress]

No up to you