How can I date if I’m a single mother? (Page 2)

[whistlingwh0res]

you and him end up cheating anyway. what's the point

[whistlingwh0res]

some jackass will date you if he want something

[whistlingwh0res]

there are plenty of them out there

[Yellovv]

Don't get me wrong but why single mums are so horny this days?

[Jmmmfi4]

YOU PROBABLY WON'T BE ABLE TO

[MaxUsefull]

you need to find a man with kids too…a single dad

[Andres77]

How many kids? How old is the youngest?

[WinCx3d]

Just 1

[Andres77]

I’m not telling you what to do. This is my understanding of what needs to happen after a divorce. Children are not pets that you can just walk away from and ignore and treat with disdain. However, One feels about their ex spouse that should have no bearing on how they treat their own child, their own offspring, their own legacy. I’m not saying to spoil your kids to compensate for the field relationship.

[Andres77]

I’m saying that even though he might not want to be around you, ignoring his child makes him a piece of shit and one of the reasons why I was society is going downhill so fast. absent fathers, I think are the single most critical failure in society today.
Are you dating for companionship or are you dating defined a father figure for your kid?
I’m sorry you’re in this position but whatever you’re going through your kids needs take present or your relationship needs. I’m not inside your head so I don’t know your motives, so I’m not judging you.
I’m giving perspective and a little advice from the little I know about your situation by what you said.

[Andres77]

I’m not saying that you should deny your relationship needs and desires, but just reminding you that the needs of your child take the utmost precedence.
Having to deal with a failed relationship, negatively impacts most peoples self-esteem. Something to be on guard against is the fact that you might feel not as worthy so you might lower your standards and let someone in your life that is not good for you and definitely not good for your kid.
I’m not judging you. I’m just giving you some of the lessons that I learned after three divorces I’m not proud of that. I was broken and I felt very low and I did not maintain high standards for myself and I made a lot of mistakes. I’m trying to fix that by focusing on my daughters and not having any relationships until they’re out of the house.

[Andres77]

My youngest is 16 so that means I won’t have to wait too long. You’re in a different situation, but the priority should still be with the kid and then to your heart.
I’m not criticizing you. It is a natural human need to have companionship.. it’s not always beneficial if we don’t find quality people in our social circles.

I hope this helped a little bit. Ideal constantly with change and what seems like a setback but I took a new perspective and everything now seems to be a blessing in disguise because I take whatever difficult situation presents itself and if I face it with the right attitude, it just seems to be working out. that’s been consistent for a while now. It’s never too late, there’s always hope.
Be patient. Value yourself. And continue to be a good mother.
I hope you find what you need.

[Andres77]

I used voice to text, so some of the words are off. Sorry. I feel your pain. I just wanted to help.

[Jamie05rhs]

This is great advice, @Andres77.

[DJB72]

Selectively. Very selectivity...

[Jamie05rhs]

Why don't you get a baby sitter?

[Chthou95]

Date a simp. They're out there and will date you

[ThrillSeeker01]

Any family members can help out?

[Joshgag2000]

Find someone else that also has a child

[Hobdobo]

date a single dad i guess

[riverrat3]

Get on a dating app, be honest