How do you make a long-distance relationship work when you both have demanding, full-time jobs (i. e. surgeons, teacher etc.)?

[justkoala]

It seems like a hard. Do you know how to make a long distance relationship work?

[girlz]

Navigating a long-distance relationship when both partners have demanding careers, like being surgeons or teachers, is indeed challenging, but absolutely doable with the right approach. Here's some heartfelt advice:

Talk, Talk, Talk: Communication is your lifeline. Set aside regular times for deep conversations, not just about your day but about your feelings, fears, and dreams. Video calls are great for feeling closer, but don't underestimate the power of a good old-fashioned phone call.

Plan Your Reunions: With your hectic schedules, seeing each other spontaneously might be tough. So, plan your get-togethers well in advance.

Be in Sync with Each Other’s Schedules: Share your weekly schedules. It helps in knowing when the other is busy or free, making it easier to find those precious moments to talk or text.

Be Each Other’s Cheerleaders: Your jobs are demanding, and sometimes all you need is that bit of encouragement from your partner. Celebrate each other's professional achievements and be understanding when work gets overwhelming.

Get Creative with Tech: Use technology to do more than just talk. Watch a movie together online, cook the same recipe while on a video call, or play an online game.

Keep Expectations Real: There will be days when work is all-consuming. Be understanding of this and don’t let disappointment creep in when a call gets missed or a text goes unanswered.

Dream Together: Regularly talk about your future. Making plans for eventually being in the same city or home can keep you both motivated and connected to a common goal.

Small Gestures Matter: Surprise each other with little things – a handwritten note, a care package, or even an unexpected visit if you can manage it.

Ask for Help When Needed: If things get too heavy, reach out to friends, family, or even a professional. Sometimes, a little external perspective can make a big difference.

Remember, a long-distance relationship in these circumstances isn’t just about surviving but also about building a unique and deep connection that can withstand the tests of distance and time.

[jennifer_bloom]

One way is to cut off other things that take up your time. I make a policy to only reply to emails once a week and to only text two people every 2 days cause I want to save my time for other things. This does not include practical emails that I respond to immediately, such as emails about products I bought or reviewed etc...

[dynamicyandere]

Doing long distance for 4 years with a 15-hour time difference, my S/O and I needed to really coordinate our schedules.


The main thing is quality time because that’s super important for relationships.


So, it was cutting time out of our day — at least a 1-hour window if not more, to really connect and talk on the phone.


Once, when working 12-hour shifts, I could only talk at 4AM. But, I still did it anyway.


If there’s a will, there’s a way.


The important thing is regularly spending quality time together and finding a rhythm that can sustain your relationship.


The last thing you want would be to drift apart because of not fulfilling what your relationship needs to be nurtured.


It’s challenging, but can be done. I wish you the best! 💪

[love_conquers_lust]

Dang, man. That is willpower.

[dynamicyandere]

@love_conquers_lust Thanks. 🙂

Your username sounds fitting for what I wanted to add.

True love can fuel someone to do what lust alone cannot.

Love does not only conquer lust — if it is strong enough, it can overcome any challenge life throws our way.

Lust is fickle.

But, true love, is what people are willing to live and die for.

[monorprise]

What is the point to a non-temporary long distance relationship? I can understand a man going around the world to earn money to support his wife and kid at home.

This is a relationship that is actually producing something, a child being raised with resources for the future of both parents.

But if both parents are working and childless all your doing is sharing cheap text and talk, at which point this becomes a courtship at best if its temporary.

Like any courtship it must be treated with a time costs, the longer your chasing said guy/girl the longer your not moving forward with your life either with them or someone else.

Thus at some point clearly set for both sides if it doesn't end with something productive you must move on to something that does.

[Smashingdoozy]

The only way long distance works is if there is frequent visiting each other and a plan to move to the same city. If neither want to move the relationship is doomed. If you don't make time for each other it's also doomed. Also probably doomed if you're broke...

[JacobJordan]

it is quite easy if both really want it to work. my wife and I had to do LDR for a while (covid happened) I was working 12-16 hours a day and I still called her morning and evening every day every week every month. we would spend 30minutes to an hour talking and then I would get some sleep.

[NathanDavis]

I've never tried... and I think is something I would never want to try

I need closeness, can't go without

[MissStrawberry912]

It doesn’t matter what your job is, building a solid foundation & fundamental is essential to a loving, long-term relationship. If people can’t do that… it’s considered emotionally unavailable or not willingly to make commitments in my opinion.

[exitseven]

The biggest thing is both people have to be invested in it. If only one does all the work then it will fail. Then you need some kind of an endgame that has a plan that you will someday be together.

[sheikalana]

Set a time of the day where you're both available to talk to each other. Go see each other whenever you have the chance. LDR is a lot of work and most of the time is not worth the effort.

[MightyOlivia84]

Communication can be boring sometimes but don't quit. Keep the chats fun and find new ideas to spice things up.

[love_conquers_lust]

I’ve never made one work, so I’m not sure.

My banker did it with her husband. But they were 4 hours away by vehicle and eventually moved in together.

[Angelo75]

Honestly, I don't believe in long-distance relationships anymore.

But that's me, because of bad past experience.

[RedInnocent68]

Very difficult. Good communication. Frequent shared experiences, including sex (phone and cam). Try sending each toys to use together. 😉

[TomMarks]

Good luck, I never could keep the one I had going, and we were only a 1 hour drive apart.

[HouseMoat]

It's all in how much you trust each other. Everything else doesn't' matter. It comes down to trust, and how much of it you have in each other

[ThrillSeeker01]

Talk on the phone a lot, video calls, text/sext

[cherriibly]

i never tried