So many different reasons:
- Our guys are increasingly right wing, the girls are increasingly left wing.
- Dating apps make it hell and lower everyone's self esteem.
- For girls its the reverse, they get to much attention from out of league men who then make them feel like they are in a league above except for the fact these men only care about them as side girls. Now they begin to reject men on their level as they consider them not good enough.
- Now another issue, so many girls get approached terribly and aggressively that if your a good guy you will just get snarled at if she's not interested. To her your just a number now, an annoyance like the 50 that came before you.
- The whole me to era making men afraid they get sexual assault charges for flirting.
- Men and women's lives not overlapping enough, so the only way they feel they can meet girls is trough the toxic means.I bet there are more I missed, but these are a lot of them.
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I scrap wedding bands every week so I'm cynical about the whole concept of love
Not to mention with my heart, taking someone to bed would probably kill me so there's that too
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Many men and women really keep asking this, but no one really focuses on all the issues. These questions should have been asked decades ago, but no one really gives a damn about men's issues. From what I've been noticing a lot lately, the same surveys are asked years apart, and some of the same results keep getting asked to the extent that every ten years men 18-29 are not dating, or having sex. Every few years, etc... etc... The windows have been getting narrower for men at the bottom and wider for men at the top, (98.5/1.5 % window) All the " toxic nasty men" women in college were told about from their college feminist progressive professors ended up being the top achievers they chase after, while turning average men into the new toxic enemy. If successful men stand up against the "status quo," by the next morning they become a new public threat. Men have watched while they had friends or family get ruined in the family courts, child support, alimony, false accusations, divorce, working their entire life, losing everything, etc... After awhile men started to notice and walk away. Women hold all the cards at the poker table, game genie cheat codes, etc... Its hard for women to find men who make more then them if the diversity quota hires put those women at the very top above everyone else more qualified than them to do the same work. Men don't feel comfortable dating, or marrying women who make more then them or who are more educated. The last year men outpaced women in college as graduates was 1981. What men expect from dating, or marriage isn't considered, or taken seriously, plus in colleges over the years people were told "men have no agency." Men can't really go online and become a instant celebrity the same way women can go on only fans selling picture packs of their ass, unemployed, yet still make six figures... Average men are invisible to average women. I don't find anyone woman attractive that I meet and I probably haven't in close to ten years, female beauty on the inside and out has taken a dive in my opinion. For example I parked the same time as someone else and they had a nice BMW, and they also worked at the same place I stopped into visit real quick; the gas station. When I mentioned how they had a really nice car, she was also very attractive probably a 9-10 because that's all I care about approaching, with a condescending answer and voice she said "uhhh, ok … THANKS?" I saw that she was probably stressed, so I didn't say anything else. Basic women have turned into drama queen divas. Women can only get free attention and drinks for so long until it runs out, then they are ignored like the men they treated like shit. A lot of women only go on dating apps because of this … VALIDATION, hoping for a chance or reason to stay with or leave their current boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. The world is deteriorating, the vitriolic attack on men, women, the family is a part of the focus. More abortions, less people, more taxes, less social security and pensions. Women got into things guys don't like, tie dye hairs, more tattoos, piercings, botoxing everything. Men don't want to date single moms, because they might be forced into paying support for a non-blood relative, women have been wearing the ugly thick, wide old style librarian glasses because its used as a defense mechanism to ward off those nasty 98.5% of average men in order to appear to look ugly so they can get with the toxic alpha chads like Dan Bilzerian, and if the women have hookups with celebrities or rich men like Dan, then they become confident in their ability to only want to date those types of men because they convince themselves they have reached a new point in their dating live; no other guy can match their new hypergamy. Then within the last couple of years women told men in general #MeToo so, and leave us alone! … after seeing men like Johnny Depp, and Al Pacino get fucked over, etc... what's the actual point of even trying anymore. Lot of us are virgins', never married, etc... Personally I haven't really talked to most of my family in over ten years because I'm still single and I'm useless to them apparently because I'm nearly homeless, not married, don't have kids, no degree and they all earn six figures. Pretty soon society will just severely shame single men for not opening themselves up to the divorce, or alimony scheme, etc... People only pretend to give a shit about men because deep down were just a side attraction of no significant value. Even if we got caught up to 100+ years of family reform matching women on par 1:1 it would take us a long time just to get the taste and experiences out of our systems. We were told MeToo, walk away, leave us alone, "don't apply if you don't have six or seven figures, a six pack, six ft. tall plus." We did what was asked of us and we walked away, because we aren't good enough, no one has juice that's worth the squeeze.
I could go on, but should cut this short. Have a good day everyone!!there's an old experiment where people took flees that could jump 2 feet and put them in a 6 inch jar with a lid. In time the lid came off, but the flees could no longer jump 2 feet.
a similar social experiment was repeated with monkeys, wherein 4 monkeys were locked in a cell that had a ladder with bananas inside of it. But, whenever a monkey climbed the ladder to eat a banana; all monkeys in the cell got sprayed with water. So, no monkey would reach for a banana. Monkeys were then replaced with a new monkey; old monkeys would beat up the new monkey when they reached for the fruit. Eventually all monkeys got replaced and the hose was removed, yet the social implications of reaching for the banana remained the same; they got beat up by monkeys who had no idea the hose existed.
I think its something like that too many people have absorbed themselves in social media and its conditioned the way they think. "Why would I bother looking for a girl whose only after my money" "Why would I look for a guy who only wants to use my body" - In short, if you hear a message enough itll confirm your bias and that lie will create an illusion of truth.
TLDR - Through social media addition, people have conditioned despair into their relationships and given up on them.
Why? Because Top 15%'s (men) are living their sexual lives to the Very fullest by abusing those dating apps for their own selfish gratification, while leaving the rest 85% in a dust while at the same time giving the rest 85% a really bad rap. On the other spectrum, you have 95% of girls who are chasing those top 15%'s (men) in hopes to make them marry them (which is a fantasy) and completely ignoring the rest 85%. Question to all the girls out there. Why would top 15%'s settle down with one, if they can sleep around with 1000's? with EASE.
Because marriage is shit for men today. Not all marriages... some are successful and happy, but half of marriages end in divorce and women file 80% of them. And we all know men get screwed in divorce and child custody. Add to that the fact that marriage does not offer men as many benefits as it used to. Long story short, marriage is not worth the risk anymore.
In the past marriage was teh carrot that kept men interested in dating. That carrot is essentially gone now, so why bother with dating?
Because THEY believe they cannot provide a good life to a woman, much less a full family. They see themselves as failures when they compare what they have, what they make, to others who already have it well established, wife, house, kids, and just cannot see themselves doing that, making it all way too complicated in their minds and when they really do what that they just give up and decide to take that stress off and instead be sad and resign..
so even if they did find someone that didn’t want all that, they still wouldn’t go for it because they themselves feel they can’t provide a good life. Then they come here saying it’s because WOMEN aware the ones that prefer someone else with better this better that but it’s they themselves that feel less than others and can’t surpass that.
I would say the short answer is they don't know how to date. They tried and failed so they give up because there are other things that generate pleasure. Dating is easy for some and hard for others and especially average guys that don't have much to brag about in life turn away from dating assuming their chance is 0 anyways.
I sometimes think my generation is just wanting to enjoy being young and figuring out what they want to do with their lives first. Waiting until you're older to date isn't a bad thing at all, since you'll be more mature and know what you want & are looking for.
It's because they read crap online about how women only want 7ft millionaires with 10inch dicks and they believe it. These guys need to grow up drop and drop the hate because that's what's holding them back.
Most women nowadays are completely undesirable to relationship minded men. They have no idea what men are attracted to and don't care to learn, so men decided no commitments or relationships, just either not date or only have sex with women.
Why does a person date? To form a lasting relationship? To possibly marry? Most younger generation women do not want either. So what would be the point of younger men dating? I feel for younger men that want to date. It makes sense why they wouldn't bother anymore though.
Because it sucks.
Money in taking a girl on a date aside, many times women treat it like you're wasting their time or night out by having the date and it's really just demoralizing.
Also many women do not want you to approach you anymore and it's better for the slim chance she makes the move than end up on a TikTok because you simply tried to ask her out but she got the "ick".because the expectations towards men are impossibly high and what men get for actually bringing all these outrageous expectations to the table is pretty much nothing, cause in the popular culture, as a woman you can be entiteled to everything "you deserve" while providing nothing a man may want.
Very cinic answer. The woman has raised the bar of the minimum acceptable level; therefore, a large wall of men no longer even try because they know they will be rejected. The gain that a woman generally gives as compensation is very low; besides her vagina, there is very little.
Well women didn't want us in the market anyway so why bother. I have better ahit to do with my time then trying to pretend I won't have to die alone. And make no mistake guys like me are going to die alone and God himself can't change that outcome. So just get used to the idea and move on.
Basically there is no one I am interested in dating. There is no benefit besides physical interaction and I do not need to date for that.
We actively avoid entering into any relationship.
If the only requirement a man had was 'she must be a true woman of God' how many women in this culture do you think would fit that requirement...
because it makes no difference probably. if they bump into a good partner in the real world as opposed to online, they might change their minds.
Unfairness of the legal system, child support, alimony, false accusations and much more. Not worth the risk.
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