When a guy is turned off, is there ever another chance?

[BellaB8466]

A guy says he's turned off does that mean you never have another chance? or is there hope if he stops being angry at some point?

[AmandaYVR]

There's no way for us to guess whether he will stop being angry. Men are humans, just like women. They can be emotional, fickle, ambivalent, rigid, you name it. It's person-specific, how much people hold on to grudges, how judgmental they are, how much emotional baggage they carry from their past, how avoidant they are, how forgiving, etc. etc. And, what was done to them.

It seems as though you do believe that he has reason to be angry (or upset or hurt). And if that's the case, it's not necessarily only about waiting. It depends on the circumstances, of course, and how much you've both talked about it, but if you are upset about losing someone from your life, you may want to make sure you have done what you can to try to fix it. Don't let yourself fall into the habit of expecting others - and especially guys - to drive the relationship, make the decisions... and in this case, repair the rifts.

Apologize. Explain. Take responsibility. Tell him what he means to you. Then if he still decides to walk away, at least you can look back and say to yourself, "I tried". Repairing relationships begins with accountability. You need to take accountability, apologize for any wrongdoings on your part, and fight for those who bring value to your life.

Of course all your efforts may be for naught. If he doesn't want to have you in his life, that's his choice and prerogative, and you may not be able to change his mind. But if you do nothing, and you always do nothing in conflict in the future, then you have an even higher chance of losing relationships and people from your life. Doesn't really matter whether it's a love interest, or friend, or even family.

(And on the flip side, don't pester him to the point of annoyance. Say your peace, be organized about it, then give him space and time.)

[rienna888]

Umm, sometimes he means it and to know your answer, look at how he acts afterwards. Sometimes he may just be mad in the moment, just let him cool down and wait for him to message

[NathanDavis]

depends on the guy... and depends on the situation too

I got kneed in the crotch one time and that sure turned off all switches down there... but I only said to her, just give me five... and I'll be fine... and then the power-grid was back

there was another time though... I met this very nice girl, and VERY attractive too, it was winter times so she had a jacket on, and we go indoors she takes it off... what do I notice? some very clearly racist tattoos on her, massive turn off right away... one I'd never come back and would never look back either, lol

and there's many situations in between of course, so yeah, it depends...

[dynamicyandere]

It depends on what turned him off.


If it was something mild or moderate, it’s possible to fix things if you’re willing to compromise or accommodate. (Like if you had your phone out during a date and he didn’t like that, you can apologize and say it won’t happen again. He might accept your apology and give you another chance.)


If it was something big that turned him off, like a red flag, then you most likely lost him.

[OlderAndWiser]

It would help for you to explain what happened that turned him off.

[patrick994]

It depends on the reason why he switched off, he could be momentarily angry about something futile or something serious, in the latter case I think there is no hope of him getting back together with you.

If you were the reason for his anger, you could apologise to him and see if he is willing to reconnect with you.

[Anonymous]

Completely depends on the situation and the person. I have a friend who I was semi interested in. But once I found out she didn’t believe in monogamy it turned me off completely. I don’t have any desire to pursue any kind of romantic relationship with her.

[RavVid]

It doesn't mean he is angry. I could decide I just don't like you and that is final. If you annoyed me in some way I might get over it and allow another chance.

[serious]

Yes there is always a chance but it will be slim and it would also depend on the type of guy also.

[boggboss]

Yeah I don't think u can change that view once he has it

[bananathunder]

tell him to stop being a baby and put your pussy on his face lol

[Hellraiser1984]

You're going to have to prove to him you're worth it. I'm in the same situation. I don't care anymore and it's going to take one hell of a woman to make me care again.

[stratford]

It means you'll have to find another route into his arousal

[Anonymous]

Depends on the depth of the betrayal. If he questions you at your core then no, there's no coming back from that.

[Jhonrembo36]

There is no substitute for a first impression, but there is always another chance.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Yes always... if his (sperm) tank is full and if he doesn't have any other means..
It's easy.. as mind doesn't work when tank is full

[Sonjita]

What happened?

[its_amelia_c]

Usually once a guy is done, he’s done!

[BoopBoopBeep]

depends why he's turned off

[Mnaysm]

It may change through time.

[Anonymous]

Guys that get angry easily, are losers.

[Anonymous]

Sure, I don't see why not.

[riverrat3]

Possibly