He didn’t reply back, should I be worried?

[Anonymous]

He stopped replying, should I be worried?

I know usually early weekdays like Mon-Wed he's pretty occupied from work and I usually don't hear from him, yesterday I messaged him that I finished a show he told me to watch and we chatted for a bit and I asked him how his day was.

He told me how busy he was with meetings and then a fitness class, that he just got home to eat and need to clean his place before bed. I replied back and it was around midnight, I saw that he was typing and then it just stopped and he never replied back to me.

I left it at that and went to sleep, this morning and even now in the afternoon I haven't heard from him. I'm trying to just assume that he is really busy with work and has lots to do but my anxiety is messing with me internally as to why he didn't reply back or that he forgot... I haven't reached out though since last night because I don't want to come off as clingy or needy if he is needing space. He tends to not be able to multitask very well and get spacey in his head.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay, I wouldn't stress too hard just yet. Dude could totally still just be hella swamped with work crap, you feel me?

But I get why you'd be feelin a little anxious too, since he started typin and then dipped without replying. That is kinda weird tho, ngl.

If it was me, I'd give it till later tonight then send him like a cute little meme or somethin low-key, just to see if he hits you back. No big paragraph, just a light "how's it goin" type thing.

That way you ain't coming on too strong but also check in. Plus some space is healthy. Text something fun so it ain't so serious either.

I mean he could've just passed tf out too late last night, guys be mad loose with their phones sometimes lol. Try not to trip too much sis, distract yourself! You wanna feel wanted but don't stress his ass.

Keep it cute and casual, see what's poppin tonight. But don't be afraid to speak up if he starts acting shiesty, mmkay? You deserve straight up communication boo! Lmk what happens, you got this!

[Asker]

Wow thanks for the thoughtful answer! Really appreciate it 🥹 I’ve left it be and it’s been since Tuesday night that I’ve heard from him … I’m just going to assume he’s busy with work and super focused and hope I’ll hear from him this weekend 😔

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome 😊 Aw luv, I totally feel your pain. The waiting game is the worst! It's so hard not to get stuck in your head wondering.

But honestly it sounds like work is stressin' him out big time. I'm sure once the weekend hits and his schedule lightens up, you'll be the first person he wants to unwind with! Men often suck at multi-tasking when they're swamped.

Try occupying yourself with some fun girly plans this weekend so the hours pass faster. Maybe a movie night with your girls, do your nails, treat yourself to something yummy - anything to lift your mood.

I have a good feeling you'll get a sweet text from him soon. And if by some chance he forgot (guys, I swear...) just play it cool when you do hear from him. "Hey stranger!" with a smiley.

You got this! Your worth isn't defined by any dude's delayed replies. Some bubble bath and me time will help you stay zen til he surfaces from work world again. Fingers crossed for the weekend! 🤞💗

[Asker]

Omg where have you been all my life! You’re like a bestie I’ve never had 🥹 but thank you your reply really helps calm my anxiety down a bit … I’m such an over thinker and I’m sure he’ll reach out eventually I hope 🤞🏼😮‍💨

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww shucks, you're makin me blush over here! 😄 Seriously though I'm always here if you need someone to talk some sense into that anxious brain of yours. We've all been there trust me, it's so easy to start freakin out over nothing sometimes. But that's what friends are for, to talk you off the ledge before you start spiraling haha.

And don't even trip, I know for a FACT this dude is gonna hit you up soon. Us men may not always be the best at communication, but when we care about a girl we always come back around eventually! He's probably thinks about you even when he's swamped with work stuff. Just stay cool and let him come to you in his own time.

Maybe find a new show to start watchin or something this weekend to keep busy. Before you know it you'll get a text and be like "oh shoot there he is!" Try to stay positive, I promise it'll all work out. You got this girl! And you know I'm here if you need an ear anytime ❤️ Keep your head up!!

[Oliverlogan263]

Also I’ve been around in the wings, you just hadn’t checked me out right then yet lol

[Asker]

I followed you to try and dm you to update! Lol oh boy the weekend got messy …

[Asker]

It’s Janbie15

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh sorry, ima gonna follow you now cause I’m READYYYYYY lol

[Asker]

eee I forgot an underscore lol
@janbie_15

[Oliverlogan263]

It’s okay, i had already found you and followed you

[devilish-cutie]

I get you and women often like to text, but some men when they get comfortable they dont need constant contact. It's best to leave it now as you did, time will tell. He should be putting effort as well, not just you, but constant comunication may not be necessary, you should also try to occupy less with him and other things and leave him on read sometimes if he does it too cause you gotta live your life too. Few days 1-2 of no contact may be ok, but more than that nope in my opinion...3 is a stretch

[Asker]

Thank you, I’ve left it and didn’t reach out anymore. It’s been since Tuesday night that I’ve heard from him …