Girls, age 19-25: if you turn down a guy's request for a first date, what is the usual explanation?

[OlderAndWiser]

"Why is this happening to me?" she thought.

I think what guys assume when they get rejected is quite different from what women think when rejecting a guy, so let's get it out in the open. If a guy asks you for a first date and you turn down the request, what is the reason most often? (If your answer is not one of the seven options below, please leave a comment and explain.)

I think we wouldn't have enough similar interests to sustain a relationship

He is too young or too old

He isn't tall enough

He isn't handsome

He's actually ugly

He doesn't have a car/doesn't have a cool car

He doesn't have a job/doesn't have enough money

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

At the age of 19-25, I rejected guys because they weren’t handsome, were too tall, weren’t tall enough, weren’t interesting, were boring, were too intense, were too pushy, were into my virginity, were too dominant, were moving things too fast, or too slow, were players, were too serious, not serious enough, were not smart enough and so on.

or sometimes, because they were very good and I was scared of falling in love.

I am not saying I was the best person, but I have grown.

19-25 is the age we learn through our mistakes.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Oh also, I have rejected guys because they were too young or too old.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That was at 19-22, because at 22-26 I was taken.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Oh one more, he had too many girlfriends before me and I didn’t date him because I liked men who are more selective about who they date.

[OlderAndWiser]

For me, most of my learning was at ages 16-69.

[TooHot2Care]

……*throws my phone in the 🗑️ *

[mandyfire98]

Usually it's just a combination. It's mainly just the overall vibe. If I'm approached and the chemistry is there and charisma then he or she has a good shot at getting my number. If I'm not feeling it at all then it's not gonna happen.

[Anonymous]

mainly me being scared they just want to fuck (which is most likely anyways) and want to go on a date for that, not being interested in dating (for a while i was scared of getting a boyfriend, lowkey a commitmentphobe), them being too old, them giving me vibes i dont like, them being shorter than me, having facial hair, looking too unkempt, being chubby, being too plain looking

[Massageman]

Dissimilar interests/not enough in common was the most common reaction I got on rejections. The irony is that even with a few things in common, some of the differences are the things that make a relationship more interesting.

"Funny how that works, huh, Rock", observes Bullwinkle!

[Joshydavid25]

I remember at 25 when I went on a date with a 19 year old who had just gotten out of an abusive relationship.. Her explanation was that "we're too similar".. 😂😂.. Turns out I wasn't "hood" enough for her..

[exitseven]

@Joshydavid25 I had an uncle who was a cop. He always said that the sadists always find the masochists.

[Joshydavid25]

@exitseven That's so true.. LOL..

[Surely]

The three excuses that stick out.
1. Need to clean my bedroom. ( she lived with her parents).
2. Did meet not her expectations for appearance!
3. Just met my one and only future husband! But will still keep our seafood date!

[NathanDavis]

" I don't even know you dude... "

[Unit1]

Is there any significant difference between ""he is not handsome" and "he is ugly" ?

No girl is gonna choose "He is ugly". They would however choose "He is unattractive/not handsome".

[OlderAndWiser]

"He is not handsome" could be a guy who is not ugly but just average.

[Unit1]

i see

[msc545]

"Handsome" or "Height" come in second. Considering how much women lie about this stuff they should come in second behind "not enough money".

[Brandi555]

It depends on the guy and the situation. There isn’t just one reason for every situation.

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand and that's why I asked for the most common explanation.

[WhiteBoyChill]

There should have been an option for “I’m a guy/see results

[OlderAndWiser]

G@G has a limit of 7 options

[Anonymous]

Small dick

[Anonymous]

Dick too big.