How do I get my ex back read below?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy met and dated back in dec of 2023 I haven’t talked to him in about a month or so so I decided to add him on Snapchat and message him so the question I wanna know is how do I know if he has a girlfriend or how do I get him back also do I talk to him everyday or wait for him to talk to me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would do if I were you:

- I wouldn't contact him every day right away. Play it cool, don't seem too eager. Give it a few days before you reach out again after your initial message.

- If you do talk to him, keep it casual and friendly at first, don't come on too strong about getting back together yet. Ask him casual questions about himself and what he's been up to.

- You can try subtle ways to see if he talks about a girlfriend, like asking what he did over the weekend or something. Guys sometimes drop subtle hints.

- Invite him to hang out one-on-one in a relaxed setting like getting coffee. This gives you a chance to reconnect in person and see how things feel between you.

- Flirt a little bit but don't immediately try to kiss him or anything. Leave him wanting more so he thinks about seeing you again.

- Be confident and positive - show him through your words and actions the great girl he's missing out on! If it seems like he's still interested, then you can hint at giving the relationship another try.

- Most important - be cool, have fun, and don't come on too desperate. Play it by ear based on his responses and you've got a good chance!

[Asker]

I doubt that will happen cause he already moved on so I’m not gonna worry about it cause if it was meant to be it would

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks but I think you're right. If he's already moved on then chasing after him anymore probably isn't gonna change his mind. It hurts to accept, but you don't wanna waste your time pining over a dude who doesn't feel the same way.

My advice would be to start moving on too. I know it's hard since you still have feelings for him, but giving yourself some space will help you get over this guy for good. Spend time with your friends, pick up a hobby, or do stuff that makes you feel strong and independent - that'll boost your confidence so much.

Maybe hit the gym more to release some of those emotions in a healthy way too. Working out always helps me get over a breakup. Most importantly though, try not to contact him at all from here on out. That clean break will speed up the moving on process.

Who knows, once you're feeling like your old self again, you might meet someone new who's way more into you than your ex ever was. For now just focus on you and know that your happiness doesn't depend on a guy. You're an awesome catch and the right person will see that! Don't lose hope - you'll bounce back from this for sure. Stay strong!

[Avicenna]

You need to take the initiative. And it's completely reasonable to ask him if he has a girlfriend.

[Asker]

Okay thank you

[strateguy632]

don't bother

[laly520]

u know by asking him

[Asker]

Do I be straightford and say hey do you have a girlfriend or what should I ask him?

[laly520]

be direct yes

[Asker]

Okay I’m gonna text and ask him but after this do I talk to him or just leave him alone cause he did mention about why did I take so long to talk to him.. etc I don’t wanna seem clingy and keep bothering him

[laly520]

if he has a girlfriend then there is no need to text daily, maybe just keep him as friend
n if he doesn't then well, why not try ur luck but dont be always available n clingy

[Asker]

@laly520 : should I ask are you seeing anyone and if he asks why what should I say?

[laly520]

say u were just being curious

[Asker]

Okay thanks cause I do really miss him but I don’t wanna have it as a one sided thing

[laly520]

u will know if its one sided or not after talking to him

[Asker]

Okay I just asked him if he was seeing anyone.

[Asker]

He just replied back I’m nervous 😩

[Asker]

@laly520 he said tbh right now yes am
I replied with ok

[laly520]

then no need to pursue