How soon do YOU personally put all your eggs in one basket (read more below)?

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I’ve been wanting to tell my dude the three words for a while now but have been questioning whether I’m ready for the commitment that may come with saying so. But i’ve been feeling impulsive in several categories— wanting certain foods, reconnecting with certain people, revealing to old crushes that I used to like them. I don't know why I’ve been feeling this way. I even tried to get to know other guys (just verbally) in case this guy isn’t the one. However, my ex and I ran into eachother yesterday and sat down for about 3 hours. We got closure and even reminisced because for the first time I felt like I truly am over our situation.  A bit ago he called and said he wanted to get back together and asked what did I think of that?  Deep down I do not want to go back to that yet I brought up a scenario BUT found out as a result that he has a girlfriend in this current moment. So like was he going to leave her for me? Instead, I told him this is a conversation for another day.  My dude just called and I talked to him about it but assured him I just want him. Then we both said I LOVE YOU to one another.  I am happily ecstatic yet in shock. I knew I loved him but I initially didn’t know he loved me in return. I’m happy he does but I’m hoping I didn’t blurt it out just because of this shit my ex pulled. And I think I just put all my eggs in one basket because tomorrow I gotta tell the other guys I was getting to know (and I guess my ex) that I’m… emotionally unavailable? I don't know i’m confused  #FeelFreeToList

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

So after all these years. your in the moment of all your dreams to maybe. what has it been.

I want to say 8 or 9 years you have been here I kinda know you like a sister. A friend
A neighbor. I've been on this ride with you.

Your highs your lows. Your goods your bads. Your dreams your wishes. Your Happy's your Sad's. Your kinks. And your Hot Kinks. The naughty Kinks. The I'm Horny now kinks. The some one message me now. I mean now kinks. Time out. lol I could go another week on this one LOL. So let me fast forward.
LMAO.

Two pages later lol your blues. Your I don't give a fuck. Your heart your soul. Your jobs your mom and family. And wanting a child and to be mom since day one. .

I have learned a long time ago you are an asset to this world.

Do anything you do. Your family. To gag. I always felt that you would be an excellent mother..

In life we can have anything we want when we are ready and I'm just here to tell you today.

Your question your emotions with all these things in your past coming together in one.

And then you say all your eggs in one basket.

Are you ready for this. Because it's time. The moment has come. Take a few moments

And think of every place you've been and everything you said put all your positives together.

Relationships come and go
Every moment in time is a learning experience it's meant to be to become the best you can be
When we in something when do our closes one door opens we take everything we've learned and walk into that door until it closes and a new one opens

Every experience that you've ever had pull them together take the best out of everything out of every single one of them and walk through a new door

Because what you're saying is this time to be another teacher at different type of teacher.

I'm not going to come out and say it only you can make it happen so read between the lines. You at crossroads take your path.

I believe you're ready.

For many people is answer will not make sense it's not meant for them it's meant for you you will know what I'm saying it's just like every other question I answer it's meant to be read by somebody who will understand it no matter how much sense it does not make.
This is only a moment in time if you choose to pass it's okay to be another door to open as this one closes life is a cycle life is an experience life is to become one with yourself one with others one with this universe with no drama or interference and one day you will teach that to a little you.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, that's a lot to process. I think saying "I love you" is a big step, so it's normal to question if you're ready. But here's a few things that jumped out to me.

To me, It seems like your ex was trying to mess with your head by bringing up getting back together, even though he has a new girl. That's whack and pathetic to do that. I'd be careful talking to him more if I were you - he doesn't sound trustworthy.

As for telling other guys you were talking to that you're unavailable now... yeah, you'll probably have to do that. It's not fair to lead them on if your heart isn't in it anymore.

Mostly, I think you need to really think about your current dude. Do YOU feel fully ready to be all in with him? Only say "I love you" back if you truly mean it deep down. Give it some time too - feelings can seem strong in the moment but you want to be sure. At the end of the day, go with your gut and do what feels right for YOU. Listen truly of what your heart says if this is certain for you or not. I really hope this helps luv.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you did everything right.
Saying the big three words of course is a lot and sometimes it comes out in moments we feel overwhelmed and cornered. If you change your mind later about telling your partner you kind him, that’s okay too. It doesn’t change how you feel about him.

I told my current partner I loved him 3/4 months into our relationship. We ended up getting married, separated but still legally married, then back together. I introduce him as my partner but we are married. All my eggs are in his basket but still my property do I can take them back whenever I want.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

So the guy I'm currently dating...
We talked at the beginning about getting to know each other properly and taking things slow.
I did throw a wobble about 2 months in and went back to someone I knew before.
I told him and although he was upset he said he understood but he told me that he wanted this to work and was prepared to do what was needed.
So we are 4 month's in and officially exclusive and boyfriend/girlfriend.

So if I didn't wobble it would have been from the start with this one.

coachTanthony · Answer

This just happened on an episode of suits that I have been binge watching. Harvey is seeing this woman and it's serious but the ex out of the blue shows up and kisses him. So what does Harvey do? Goes home and asks his woman to move in with him. Well his woman finds out about the kiss and whats worse is she finds out that he made that offer to move in to her the same day his ex kissed him. So now she is questioning his motives because he is now moving way too fast and might be using her and the relationship to get over his ex.

SunnyRS · Answer

There is no correct time for a situation like this, but it also means that it's never to early or too late until you have said it and committed to it.
You just have to trust your decision and follow your instinct.
Personally I haven't kept all my eggs in one basket yet, never found a sturdy basket yet.
If you think your basket is sturdy enough then by all means keep your eggs in it, but just remember it no matter how strong a basket is there is always a possibility of some eggs falling.
So follow your gut but stay sharp.

JDavid25 · Answer

I do it pretty soon... As soon as I feel like me and the person I'm talking to are having a great conversation and are attracted to each other, I don't really feel like talking to anyone else.. But you didn't tell me that your ex had a girlfriend too.. Like damn dude.. 😂.. If there's one of the few times I believe in blocking, its these.

RavVid · Answer

I've put my eggs in one basket when it seemed right. At times it has been a short time after meeting her and at other times it has been longer. I tend to think it should be quick so as to get into the bonding hot sex asap.

I don't think you should say you are emotionally unavailable cause that leaves subtext of physically available hanging :). Why not say you are now taken?

Congrats on being in love and being loved. Enjoy!

exitseven · Answer

Wow, you really made a pretty straightforward thing incredibly complicated. I think that you said you loved this guy before you started talking to all these other dudes so that means that you wanted to see if what you were feeling was real. Then it just sort of slipped out so you did not even think about it. Just go with it.

talka20 · Answer

well technically he'd be the one to put his eggs in your basket Desii 😂😂

and heyyyyyy you dint gimme that update of 3 words huh im lowkey pissed at you i was waiting to hear something new from u 🤨

and id suggest that dont go n tell everyone but try to put some update on the apps uve met these guys on

iron_ninjs · Answer

In that kind of situation, I put my eggs in one basket after I'm sure of my feelings, and the other person's feelings as well.
I'm glad you to confessed. It probably means he is ready, albeit not at the moment, for the kind of commitment you want. In a little time, he might be ready. 😁

Sparkie460 · Answer

I'm so happy for you. You deserve happiness.  Everyone is different. You just have to feel it in your gut and in your heart. When you know, you know

Lliam · Answer

Yay, Des! Sometimes you just have to take a leap faith.  May this be the man for you. 🙏🙏🙏 🎶 😃

Pink2000 · Answer

When I feel secure enough in the relationship. I’m a firm believer in not putting all your eggs in one basket cause as soon as you do that’s when they start acting up. In my person experience.

DreamLife7 · Answer

I wouldn't go back to the ex either. He just proved to you that he's untrustworthy and not loyal as he tried to get with you while having a girlfriend. He will do the same to you whenever he decides he's bored.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I would write a 1000 words and still won't be enough, this is a face to face and in person conversation. There is a lot going on.

MysticDevice · Answer

I gotta be honest, I never put the eggs in the basket. Closest to it was the two of us holding the basket in one hand and the eggs in the other.

spartan55 · Answer

You been wanting to smell that I ketchup haven't you?

nawtee_me · Answer

I am going to buy you a couple of chickens. You can have all the eggs you want and if that doesn’t work just eat the chickens…. lol

Phoenix98 · Answer

There's no real specific timeframe for it sometimes it's sooner and sometimes later.

Agape93 · Answer

I don't.

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