I'm really interested in this guy from college but he gets hit on in every single lecture. Despite all the attention and advances women make at him he still remains very humble and almost insecure but he still manages to flirt back with EVERY girl and act super smiley and confident if he tries. I know he checked me out plenty of times but I feel like he likes pretty much every girl (like Dexter from the movie or netflix series "one day") and I don't want to be just another fangirl or a footnote in his life. What should I do?
Sure you should. You have nothing to lose. If you think you’ll be a footnote after speaking to him, then walk. If not, it’s worth your time. In fact, I suspect the fact every girl likes him probably (at least minimally) is part of the fascination with him.
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When a guy is really attractive to a lot of girls, it's hard to tell if his interest in you is just because he wants the attention or if he really has an interest. If he is flirting with a lot of other girls that's not a good sign. A guy who can take relationships seriously doesn't do that. I would be really careful here and not do anything unless he approaches you first. In the meantime I would keep my options open.
Why would you even bother?
He is indeed insecure & he will "fall" for any girl that gives him attention. He knows that he'll get it because well cheaper or dimwitted women are constantly giving it. Once that attention is over, they're both bored & sick of each other.
Such men are generally NOT good news. So BE smart & DON'T waste your time.
Could Be He Will Not Be Into aReal Relationship. If So, Maybe aDate is Fine For now. His Situation with Other Girls? They May still Fawn Over Him, Regardless Who He With. And If he Cares about Some Girl He Would Date or Mate, He should Not Flirt. xxoo
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If he has eyes only on you and only you, you don’t need to sweat over the other chicks around him.
Think of dating through the mindset of "are we compatible" instead of it being personal. If you reject someone or if you get rejected, then it just means you are not compatible. Also, the answer will always be no if you do not ask, so you might as well try.
My only other piece of advice is to casually look out for signs he is using you if he is interested. A lot of people in college are at an impulsive time of their life whether it's drugs or sex.Damn girl! Be aware of such kind of guys. They ARE insecure since their security is only external - attention from girls for an ego boost.
If he flirts with you, he flirts with others too. If he tells you about his real life struggles and about why he cries at night, well, he's interested.
Just please... please please... be careffull. These guys are like vampires, they suck your blood (attention) and leave.Well you wanna have "what ifs" later on? Just go for it and if you feel like he's treating you like a footnote so be it and move on.
No you should go for that one dude in the class who always smells funny, rarely makes eye contact & looks like his closet is the floor of his bedroom.
yes, approach him as a normal person and get to know him and you'll win. all these other girls have no game.
For me (and "us" men) one girl among many will stand out.
This could indeed be you.
You don't need to throw yourself at him, but it won't hurt to let him see your interest.It’s only u who thinks everyone wants them.
He probably flirts back because he's single. Go for it if you want to date him. He probably won't if hd he actually has a girlfriend. If he doesn't stop, then you know, but most guys aren't as flirty with a girlfriend.
If your not willing to compete with the other girls just move on
Don’t hit on him. Let him make the first move. Be friendly but don’t fawn on him.
You should shoot your shot just don't lead with sex. If he is genuinely interested in you he will want to get to know you.
If you're really interested, talk to him see if there's actually potential
Lucky guy…I’d say no, unless you are the type of girl who also gets hit on constantly
It is bad since other girls are always getting his attention
I am sure he will give you dick and little else.
Stay away from those type of guys.
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