Guys, would you date someone whose life isn’t all the way “together” , but carries many of the other traits that make a good partner ?

[Anonymous]

Would you want to be with someone who didn’t have all that they should typically have (car, apartment, etc) approaching their mid 20’s? If someone is working, saving money, almost done with college and most of all a good potential partner - would you consider giving a relationship a try?

Yes, as long as she’s being productive and saving money I’d date her

No

Updates

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Thanks for your answers 😃

[Jersey2]

Yes. My wife’s life was about as not together as its gets but that didn’t matter to me. I was there for her when no one else was including her family. That in hindsight probably bonded her to me more than anything else. We have been married now for many years.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't care if she has her life together or not, it has no impact on my interest level.
What I do care about is if she has the same hobbies, interests, views, habits, personality, etc. and is attractive. If she meets all of those then thats good enough.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Depends how it isn't together. Running up the credit cards every month and making minimum payments? Hard pass. Spent 20 years in therapy because daddy left you? Nope... been down that road. Can't decide if you want to change careers? Sure don't blame you.

[RavVid]

Wouldn't care. I certainly wouldn't expect her to own an apartment. I would require her to being doing a degree and would think less of her if she is doing a useless degree. A feminist studies degree would be see u later.

[handsomelad70]

If she weren't COMPLETELY immersed in substance abuse, perhaps, but not if she were so bad she'd risk taking me down with her.

[Anonymous]

I don't judge women by income or education and I loathe people who do. Just whether she's a good person or not.

Side note: I would pass if she was in horrendous debt that was explainable through something like medical. Because a woman who racks up too much debt shows a DEEPER problem. I have enough to support both of us. But you can't keep a ship afloat with a person who keeps bailing water back into the boat.😆

[Minnow21]

I wouldn't care if she doesn't have her life together, but I would expect her to be attempting to get her life together rather than making complaints about it bc she's not doing anything to fix it.

[argot]

Nobody is all together. The only final destination in life is death. People are constantly changing direction in life.

[tremendousfern]

Definitely. What matters most is the effort being put in - the results will come.

[andreasderjuengere]

I can't vote 'yes', because you attached it to a condition.
Too much future is a risk in itself.
And although I reject the idea of marriage... what about "in good times, and in bad times"?

[BonzoInBitburg]

No. I have my shit together and I expect the same.

[2021biguy]

You can't expect people to be perfect, if you really like someone, it can work out fine.

[KrakenAttackin]

As long as she is a good, faithful, kind, feminine, woman; I would work with her.

[Anonymous]

Looks matter. If she's cute, she's won. Can't do shit against that.

[Deserter2]

Nobody is perfect, nowadays it's normal to not have at least 1 of those things anyways

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date anyone because I'm trash. I've learned nobody likes me.

[Slim57]

Yeah

[LiamJHayden]

Date? Yes.